Narcissist's Golden Child A Narcissist?

I've read that narcissistic parents have a golden child. Is the golden child a narcissist too?

I think this one calls for a little research. Maybe you can Google it and let me know what you find out. I would be interested to know.

I usually thought npds raised bpds. But could be wrong. Usually exceptions to everything?

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Generally, that is the case, because the narcissist needs the gratification and praise, and generally they will put their children below them, causing them to develop codependent, or borderline traits

If there's more than one child though, wouldn't the bpds feed the parent's daily needs, and the golden child be encouraged to conquer the world? I thought that was the general idea of the golden child.

Depends. The golden child can still disappoint, after all, perfection doesn't exist.

Yet, there's exceptions. Are you referring to an exception?

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No, I was asking if the golden child is generally narcissistic?

I think what you're asking is very hard to answer with a general answer. It all depends on the way the child was brought up. A golden child of a narcissist, as you first asked, as we stated can very easily become borderline, needing the constant validation of parents and others. They could also become narcissistic. It depends entirely on the person and their unique situation. They could also be normal, or any other type of person, but generally, a child of a narcissist becomes borderline because of the lack of self esteem instilled in them by their parent. This is the most common issue that arises. I think what would help is a bit more specific information, as you seem to be talking about something more specific, but not giving those details.

According to what I've read on other support websites, etc., it seems to be more common for the golden child to become a narcissist than it is for less-favoured siblings to become narcissists, but it's far from universal. There are many different ways the parent-child relationship can play out here, even in the general categories of "golden child" or "scapegoat" or what-have-you.

The book The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists has some decent discussion on the effects of an NPD parent on what it calls "the chosen child" and the "rivaled-against child." The author doesn't name either as more likely to develop narcissistic traits or full-blown NPD, but she does believe both tend to be more damaged than children who were generally overlooked by the parent and more on the sidelines in the family. Worth a read if you're interested.

Yes, of course.

Just so you know, I'm a newbie through and through.

In the past I have been told by my T's that my mother was possibly a nonDx BPD. That was 15-20 years ago.

In the last month, I have been Dx BPD with PTSD. My role in the family was scapegoat. My younger sister was the golden child. My accomplishments were never as good as hers, and out shining mother or sister was unheard of.

Based on my research, and from my armchair, I would say yes, the golden child is the NP, along with the mother who I suspect, in my case, is also NP.

My t has said my mom is narcissistic. I'm the scapegoat, and my sister is the golden child. So maybe my explanation will shed some light. My sister did not grow up to be a narcissist. But she did grow up to be a super-achiever who works long and hard, even sacrificing time for self and family, in order to achieve, make something of herself, and gain the praise of my parents. She will actually suffer in order to do this. Overtime. Sacrificing vacations. Taking out of town assignments for weeks at a time. Spending 5 hours ironing her shears - or planting flowers in 90+ degree heat the day before my parents come for a visit so things will be "just right." I honestly don't know how she does it. I could never do that. I just hope she doesn't have a breakdown like I finally did.

Here's an example of my sister's sacrificing. . .

She had a partial knee replacement a couple of years ago. My parents had plans to come for a visit about 1 month later. My sister wanted my mom to be there during the surgery, but didn't want to ask, and my parents didn't come. They waited for 1 month. When they arrived, my sister was still recovering from her knee surgery, and her knee was hurting! But my mom wanted to go shopping. (She spends most of her vacations here shopping.)
I knew my sister's knee was hurting, but my mom said, "I think it would probably be good for you to get out and walk." So we went. . .

Partway through the day, I noticed my sister was sitting in a chair outside the store waiting for us. Again, I knew her knee hurt. So when we got in the car, I said, "We can go home now. We don't need to shop all day. I know your knee is hurting." My mom said nothing. Then my sister said, "It's OK." So we continued. Later, I found out that my sister even took my mom shopping and sat out in the car waiting for her.

My mom should have thought about my sister's knee, not about how much she wanted to shop. I felt disappointed in my mom, especially since my sister is the golden child and has done everything in her power to keep that position and have their approval. They do treat her much better than me, but not as good as she deserves.