Yes I named this thread after myself..... N joke (maybe). Well instead of my normal ways of showing just how interesting I am with writings from myself I have decided it may be a good idea to answer questions. This way we all may gain more insight into NPD from both sides. So if you have a valid question for a person who has traveled the roads with a "Hello, my name is" NPD sticker on his chest, ask away. I will try and answer each with my own opinion and exactly how I see it. I see many references to NPD among the rooms and think this may help many people here.

[Mattmx]

How do you feel about others in your life that may not know about your disorder slandering NPD?

Originally Posted by Mattmx

How do you feel about others in your life that may not know about your disorder slandering NPD?

People in my life only know of NPD because of me. Now I also do not share any of my issues with anyone besides my wife and here. People who would be speaking against NPD don't really bother me much anymore. I will say when I first came online and saw all the victims of NPD abuse writings, that did bother me then. Now not so much as I also see that most of the people involved with a N for some reason always attract them and keep winding up with them. This is where I see them for their issues as well. People who need people like us and the cycle continues.

[Atypical_Disaster]

Okay, I have a question.

How can you, as a narcissist, be so destructive to others at times, and seriously have no insight into how damaging you've been to people?

For myself I don't really ever take into account someone else's feelings or perspective. I usually see things one way and with that doesn't allow me to see what's happening to the person I may be affecting. It's more or less about getting my point across and not so much the way I make it. Lately though if it is pointed out to me (by my wife) that my ways aren't right I can then take a moment to reflect and only then may I see what I did was not the best way. I suppose if one who has NPF and is unaware as I once was it is normal for us to not see the impact we have on others. Even if tears are shown it really makes no difference which I guess is what they speak of with lack of empathy.

[Mattmx]

Originally Posted by Underground

People in my life only know of NPD because of me. Now I also do not share any of my issues with anyone besides my wife and here. People who would be speaking against NPD don't really bother me much anymore. I will say when I first came online and saw all the victims of NPD abuse writings, that did bother me then. Now not so much as I also see that most of the people involved with a N for some reason always attract them and keep winding up with them. This is where I see them for their issues as well. People who need people like us and the cycle continues.

Ah, makes sense. I hear the label narcissist and npd thrown around a lot improperly and used as a synonym for selfish, does that ever bother you when people who are clearly not NPD are given your title?

Originally Posted by Mattmx

Ah, makes sense. I hear the label narcissist and npd thrown around a lot improperly and used as a synonym for selfish, does that ever bother you when people who are clearly not NPD are given your title?

It did, I would challenge many on another forum when I first found out as I felt I had to. Today I can read something from someone who believes to have NPD and just move on without having to throw my two cents in.

[Atypical_Disaster]

Originally Posted by Underground

For myself I don't really ever take into account someone else's feelings or perspective. I usually see things one way and with that doesn't allow me to see what's happening to the person I may be affecting. It's more or less about getting my point across and not so much the way I make it. Lately though if it is pointed out to me (by my wife) that my ways aren't right I can then take a moment to reflect and only then may I see what I did was not the best way. I suppose if one who has NPF and is unaware as I once was it is normal for us to not see the impact we have on others. Even if tears are shown it really makes no difference which I guess is what they speak of with lack of empathy.

Thank you for your illuminating answer, I am attempting to understand my NPD sperm donor so you've helped a lot. Heh.

Another question, what do you feel when someone takes a strike against your ego, knowingly or not? I know you feel anger, but is there anything else you feel?

[Mattmx]

Originally Posted by Underground

It did, I would challenge many on another forum when I first found out as I felt I had to. Today I can read something from someone who believes to have NPD and just move on without having to throw my two cents in.

It sounds like you've made a lot of progress in the self control department while you were on your vacation

Originally Posted by Atypical_Disaster

Thank you for your illuminating answer, I am attempting to understand my NPD sperm donor so you've helped a lot. Heh.

Another question, what do you feel when someone takes a strike against your ego, knowingly or not? I know you feel anger, but is there anything else you feel?

The good ole tornadoes in my head happen. I start to talk faster then my brain computes and tend to flip out. After I think about it non stop and ways to get revenge. Very unhealthy, I suppose partly because of my ways to always prove I am and so on. Usually the nonsense of mine is bigger than yours mindset. I rather not even interact on those levels anymore. When I get really angry It takes me two to three days to feel normal again, almost like being hungover. It really drains me.

Originally Posted by Mattmx

It sounds like you've made a lot of progress in the self control department while you were on your vacation

I have. No more dwelling and living life with a bit more insight has helped. Maybe the new medicine too lol.

[Atypical_Disaster]

Originally Posted by Underground

The good ole tornadoes in my head happen. I start to talk faster then my brain computes and tend to flip out. After I think about it non stop and ways to get revenge. Very unhealthy, I suppose partly because of my ways to always prove I am and so on. Usually the nonsense of mine is bigger than yours mindset. I rather not even interact on those levels anymore. When I get really angry It takes me two to three days to feel normal again, almost like being hungover. It really drains me.

Wow, thank you yet again for describing my father. Seriously, that's exactly how he was. When he would get angry it would take him awhile to calm down. He would just be seething.

What new medication are you taking?