As a child this is when we learn and adapt to who we will become. When left, or hurt or whatever other cause happened as we were in the molding stage is why we are who we are in life. I probably am different then a normal person(LOL) in that I don't put much time into others when it comes to understanding or compassion. When my wife tells me things that most would probably so ohhh, I laugh. Not because I am an evil person, it's because this to me usually means nothing as it directly has no impact on myself (lack of empathy I suppose). The facade is there many times as I do adapt very well to the situation. Meaning I give what's expected to benefit my own-self, the facade!! When it comes to my family I do care in a way that has never been before. This family I talk of is only my wife and kids. What I think is if your mother is like me than she does care about you, her ways of showing it would never be of the norm or accepted ways as with this disorder and others they just don't follow the rules. People expect feelings to be shown in ways that people are comfortable and used to. We are trained to believe that based on someone else's ideals we are to act that way. All ways are ONLY based on someone else's expectations and when someone like ME is different I am wrong only based on another's definition made up by yet another person. We are who we are, most fit in the mold while others don't. We have our ways of doing things that are accepted by ourselves and because this is not part of the definition made by another we are not right. Who know's maybe timing only defined people like me as the one disordered, what if I went back a 1000 years ago and re-wrote the definition as myself. I may be the right one after all!!!!! 2015 new definition of right equates to what I believe and all not like me are wrong and unacceptable.

[HeavyMetalLover]

Originally Posted by Underground

As a child this is when we learn and adapt to who we will become. When left, or hurt or whatever other cause happened as we were in the molding stage is why we are who we are in life. I probably am different then a normal person(LOL) in that I don't put much time into others when it comes to understanding or compassion. When my wife tells me things that most would probably so ohhh, I laugh. Not because I am an evil person, it's because this to me usually means nothing as it directly has no impact on myself (lack of empathy I suppose). The facade is there many times as I do adapt very well to the situation. Meaning I give what's expected to benefit my own-self, the facade!! When it comes to my family I do care in a way that has never been before. This family I talk of is only my wife and kids. What I think is if your mother is like me than she does care about you, her ways of showing it would never be of the norm or accepted ways as with this disorder and others they just don't follow the rules. People expect feelings to be shown in ways that people are comfortable and used to. We are trained to believe that based on someone else's ideals we are to act that way. All ways are ONLY based on someone else's expectations and when someone like ME is different I am wrong only based on another's definition made up by yet another person. We are who we are, most fit in the mold while others don't. We have our ways of doing things that are accepted by ourselves and because this is not part of the definition made by another we are not right. Who know's maybe timing only defined people like me as the one disordered, what if I went back a 1000 years ago and re-wrote the definition as myself. I may be the right one after all!!!!! 2015 new definition of right equates to what I believe and all not like me are wrong and unacceptable.

I actually get and understand this. I especially find it intriguing what you said about judging behaviors based on what "others" say defines something...such as what shows love and what doesn't. I think you're spot on when it comes to that. So, that would cause me to question what is the true definition of "selfish" and maybe the word "arrogant" as well, for my definitions may differ from yours and both those definitions would differ from someone else's. Anyway, thank you for helping to clarify that up a bit for me!

Seek and you shall find.....

[HairlessMop]

Originally Posted by Underground

When my wife tells me things that most would probably so ohhh, I laugh. Not because I am an evil person, it's because this to me usually means nothing as it directly has no impact on myself (lack of empathy I suppose).

BAM!! If it doesn't affect me or mine... meh, usually don't care.

The writings are so much more, involvement is here. See for what it really is, just open your eyes a little wider.

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Trademarked!!

[Atypical_Disaster]

Originally Posted by Underground

The writings are so much more, involvement is here. See for what it really is, just open your eyes a little wider.

Originally Posted by Underground

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Trademarked!!

HA HA HA, word!

When my wife tells me things that most would probably so ohhh, I laugh. Not because I am an evil person, it's because this to me usually means nothing as it directly has no impact on myself (lack of empathy I suppose). The facade is there many times as I do adapt very well to the situation. Meaning I give what's expected to benefit my own-self, the facade!!

This is 100% me except I don't have a wife, but still... Yep. Write a book damn it, I don't need to write about myself on here you do it all for me! HAHAHAHAHA!

We are who we are, most fit in the mold while others don't. We have our ways of doing things that are accepted by ourselves and because this is not part of the definition made by another we are not right.

I've been telling people this for years. I am who I am, they are who they are. Yes, I am "different" but it only seems to be external sources that insist on saying I'm "not right", or usually going a few steps beyond and calling me "evil". I am me. If people can't handle my uniqueness, obvious superiority, my "tough love" kind of approach to problem solving, etc I'll make sure the door hits them on the way out. Heh.

Maybe we can brainstorm and co write this best seller...

[Atypical_Disaster]

Originally Posted by Underground

Maybe we can brainstorm and co write this best seller...

You can write it and I can break it into proper paragraphs for you! HA HA HA!

Lol I agree as your grammar and punctuation is a little better than my own!!!

Cause you are a NERD!!!

[Atypical_Disaster]

Originally Posted by Underground

Cause you are a NERD!!!

Yes, I certainly am!

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You and your pencil pockets

I always think to myself that what happened to me as a kid was "outside" the rules of the game and abnormal, so it takes a breaking of the rules of the game and being abnormal once again to get where I want to be in life.

My life was made "out of the ordinary" by experiences, so only if I do something out of the ordinary will it work out like it was meant to.

Similar to "an eye for an eye" or "fight fire with fire".

It's like walking on a trail or something atop a mountain, and to reach your destination you have to go north, and only north, which will lead you to a hot spring and holiday camp. That's the rule of the trail. Yet, someone pushed you and you fell down the slope, ending up in a river gorge or something, and this thing goes where it wants to go, twisting and turning, and there are cliffs so you can't go back up. All you can do is follow the river roughly northwards, and then follow the bends too, even if they go northeast, northwest, west, east, or even double back and go southward. You just have to keep going, because this river is the river coming from the spring. Sure, you're not sticking to the "go north" rule, but that's because you were dealt a game changer. So, screw the "go north" rule, nobody was supposed to push you off the track in the first place.

And, there is an advantage too. You're already on the spring's level! You don't have to descend to get to it. All those others, and the guy who pushed you, has to descend from the mountain top to get to the spring. You walked along the river at one level all the time. Who knows what perils still await them, when they have to descend on their end, from the mountain top at the end of the trail.

You may very well reach it way before them, and in better condition.

Originally Posted by Atypical_Disaster

Yes, I am "different" but it only seems to be external sources that insist on saying I'm "not right"

Yes!!! So true! And, you get "punished" for it too.

[Atypical_Disaster]

Originally Posted by StbGuy

Yes!!! So true! And, you get "punished" for it too.

Yes indeed. Simply due to my nature I often have to prove I'm telling the truth and so on. It's really rather annoying. As I've already said just because I can lie doesn't mean I always do. Pfft.

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Could you people stop changing the subject please!!!???!!!

[Atypical_Disaster]

Originally Posted by Underground

Could you people stop changing the subject please!!!???!!!

Did you want me to discuss my nonexistent pencil pockets?

It would be more on MY topic so yes!!!!

And it's only nonexistent because you don't wear a shirt with pockets so instead their in a zipper pouch inside your bag.

[Atypical_Disaster]

Originally Posted by Underground

And it's only nonexistent because you don't wear a shirt with pockets so instead their in a zipper pouch inside your bag.

I have many hidden things in my bag... lol!

I would like a peek into that dark place!!

Originally Posted by Underground

I would like a peek into that dark place!!

What? Her zipper pouch? It's deep and dark? How do you know that?

[Atypical_Disaster]

I would like to hear everyone's theories about the darkness of my soul. Lol!

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The darkness is actually rainbows and butterflies with the passing cloud blackening out the ray of light that is usually shining brightly on your soul. Sorta like a hiccup