Does this sound like OCD?

Hey, I'm new here. I am 22 years old and my main issue is that I tend to be depressed because I am unhappy with myself. The unhappiness with myself is mainly about me not being appealing to girls like other guys are. And it something that is on my mind CONSTANTLY. I literally don't stop thinking about it at all. No matter what I am doing, it will come to my mind. For some reason, the way I am perceived by girls is something that is VERY important to me, like to a point where I don't think it is nearly as important to other guys.

Another thing is that, for some reason, I am VERY self conscious about aging. The fact that I look kind of mature for my age has bothered me for a while now. But more recently, the fact that I am 22, almost out of the conventional "college age" and have really not enjoyed my time the way I would have liked(never had a girlfriend, never got attention from girls, barely ever even hung out with girls) has me feeling really depressed. I don't know, maybe it's because I am sentimental and the idea of "missing out" on something. But because of this, I have found myself becoming really angry and depressed whenever i see a sign that guys in that age group that I passed are more desirable to women that someone like me. For example, whenever I hear anything about women my age and older liking Justin Bieber, it immediately kills my mood and makes me feel depressed.

I'm just wondering, does my problem sound like OCD? I thought it might be because this is something I can't stop thinking about.

No it dont sound like ocd it sounds more of self esteem and not being happy

Hi, Hero, welcome to PsychCentral (PC).

I don't know if what you are suffering is an OCD issue or something else. I would make an appointment with a therapist and explore your feelings about it if it bothers you.

One thing that caught my attention is that you seem to be comparing yourself, an individual, against a mythical "other guys" group. There's no way you can ever compete with a group, especially a group that doesn't really exist, is whatever a writer decides to write. You might as well compare yourself to James Bond or one of the heros in the TV show "Heros"?

I think you should make a list of behaviors you would like to have and work toward learning them. Or, decide on a lifestyle you would like and work toward that. Comparing yourself against something in the past is not helpful since it is like trying to drive a boat based on its wake? You cannot know if you had as much/less/more fun than imaginary other guys, 3 years ago in college because there's no such target and what we remember of our own experience isn't always reliable as "fact" and we didn't know the imaginary other people and their experience at all!

Decide what you would like in the future, reduce it to detail and plan it out and do it for yourself; to heck with those unbeatable other guys that don't exist! There's always people younger and older, smarter and dumber, more experienced in X or less experienced in X, etc. To heck with moving targets, find a stationary one you want and go get it.

Well, I don't think it is OCD. That disorder deals with intrusive thoughts that cause you to do certain behaviors. You just seem to keep thinking about things that are keeping you down. I'm very sorry for your troubles...

I also have a low self esteem sometimes. People say I'm pretty, but I rarely believe them, because my depression makes me feel worthless. Though, I've been trying new things to try to feel better. Such as, If Im feeling bad for myself, I will take a moment to let myself feel the pity. I will let the emotions go for a bit, and maybe even cry. After I let out some pain, i decide that is enough pity for the day. I move on, and try to keep going. Sometimes it is hard to do this. Though, accepting your emotions and letting it out is a good way of getting through the rest of the day. Crying isn't just for children you know. I hope you find a way to get through this. I recommend finding a therapist to try to sort these things out.

No , it sounds like classic depression and self esteem issues that have kept you from having the relationships and fulfillment you have been seeking. Because you do sound so tormented by these feelings I also would suggest maybe calling up a local therapist and exploring your feelings more. The best of luck to you my friend