[SeptemberMorn]

One of the biggest threats to success is success itself. When you get a little bit ahead, it's all too easy to become complacent and to quickly lose what you have gained. To avoid that complacency, respond to success with gratitude and humility. See your success not as a reward, but as an opportunity.

If you merely consume your good fortune, it leaves you with nothing but a bitter and wistful taste in your mouth. Instead, seize the opportunity to expand and build on your success.

The real joy of accomplishment is in the doing. To continue the joy, continue the doing.

Let the small victories become steps on the path to an even bigger victory. Let the big victories become steps on the path to an even more grand achievement.

Make each success into a starting point. And there is no limit to where you can go.

-- Ralph Marston

Gawd Tomi... that's amazing. I can apply that to work, therapy, savings, friendships, everything. This one is my fav so far. Thanks.

Ry

[SeptemberMorn]

Isn't it great? It can be applied to everything in life, I think. Wonder if it would work to pick one area at first and then build on that, or would I be biting off too much at once if I tried applying it to everything... if I could find one success right now, that is! LOL ... hmmm... thinking hard here. ... Not coming up with much...

Maybe I need a kick in the butt to get me going.

Tomi, I think the key there is to pick your battles. That's where prioritizing comes into play. Find the area in most need of improvement... or maybe even two or 3 areas. However much you think you can comfortably handle. Then get to work until those areas are at a level you want them to be at. Now move onto something else. Just my two cents. Thanks for making me think first thing in the morning Tomi. It's gonna be a good day (I'm being serious).

Ry

[jmo531]

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Thanks for the "thought of the day". I can certainly apply this to me and my current situation at my job. You remind me of things I dont often think about. Thank you.

[vacantangel]

Thanks Tomi. Certainly food for thought and never really looked at it that way, to always continue going even after reaching the success you were striving for. This is a good one.

[SeptemberMorn]

Wasn't the thought to pick something you're suceeding with and build on that? At least, that was my understanding. That's not what's driving me crazy right now. It's the lack of communication between me and the "old fart." I certainly do my share of clear communication but there isn't even an acknowledgement of him having heard me. I'm reading the book Shar suggested in "Giving up pieces of yourself" in Relationships. Skipped right to the communications chapter! LOL It hits the nail right on the head!! WOW!! The problem is getting him to read that chapter and UNDERSTAND it! He doesn't lack the mental facilities. He's just so into his own world of fictional books that I think he's lost touch with reality!!

Where do I find a measure of success in that?? Where do I begin??

[vacantangel]

Tomi, you know that I really feel for you in your situation. I think it would be safe for me to say by the avatar that you have chosen, that starting with prayer might be the answer for you. Unfortunately God doesn't always answer our prayers as quickly as we would like or even in the manner in which we would like. We must be open to seeing how God is speaking to us. Much thoughts and prayers sent your way.

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[SeptemberMorn]

Thanks, AG. Prayer has been part of my "married" life for 30 yrs, too. I'm convinced "he's my cross to bear." LOL

No, actually... I could tell him to move on... I just don't for whatever sick reason. Maybe I'm a glutton for punishment.

Now's not the time to be posting about this because right this very minute he's doing everything he can (which is not much at all, except INaction) to drive my neighbor and I to distraction!!!!!!

[vacantangel]

I'm sorry Tomi. I guess you have to look deep inside you for the reason that you stay. I know I do some things too that are emotionally harmful for me and I often question why I continue to do that. Like maybe I feel I don't deserve any better or something? I haven't figure it out but I am working on it and taking positive steps. Of course, my situation is different from yours, so I'm not really sure what you could do. I'm assuming that you've talked to him probably several times to no avail. How about marriage councilling? You've probably suggested that too. I feel for you. I can only imagine how terribly hard it must be for you to deal with on a daily basis. Have you dealt with this in therapy?

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[dayzee9]

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Your post has inspired me to the uttmost heights!

THANK YOU!! w/

DAYZEE9......................

[SeptemberMorn]

"Uttmost heights," eh? Well good! I'm truly glad. Let me know what good comes out of it, ok? I'm still trying to work through some things.

[darkeyes]

Thanks for sharing this post of Ralph Marston.
I have never read any of his works, are there books of his in local bookstores, Borders?
This is a really good post

Sincerely,

DE

[SeptemberMorn]

I don't know about his books, DE, but here is the link to his website. There's a lot of really good offers there.

Ralph Marston