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Oct 05, 2009, 07:19 PM
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I just realised why i am in so much emotional pain all the time....I never stick up for myself. I'm always looking at things from the other person's perspective.,..and i never defend myself. I have needs and things that I want...its not a one way street...and I felt like the only way for me to have friends or a loving bf was to always worry abou their needs...but no...they need to recognise what I want....I just need to figure out what that is...I need to be true to myself....that might take awhile lol
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Oct 05, 2009, 07:36 PM
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 Good for you Myoasis - you're absolutely right you do need to think about yourself. It okay to be a giver to a point - but you have to take care of yourself in order to have the energy to give to others. I was just talking about this in another thread - how important it is for women to learn how to be assertive(not *****y) and learn how to say NO when they need to. We're taught as child to be polite, nice etc. It all comes from self confidence so that's what you need to work on. It's funny I feel more self confident that I did in my 20's so it improves with age - good news! 
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Oct 05, 2009, 08:38 PM
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(((((((((((( myoasis)))))))))))
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Oct 05, 2009, 10:19 PM
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well said, *claps*
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Oct 06, 2009, 06:01 AM
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One of the things I'm very grateful for is that I learned to stick up for myself before I had a child. Because I could defend my position in the family (so to speak) before I became a mother, I was better equipped to do that for my child. Then, as he grew, he had an example to follow. One of the things that my parents did that I never could accept was they disrespected their kids. They expected us to show respect to them but they openly disrespected us. I always thought this was stupid and unfair. So, when I had my son, I always showed him respect as a child and a member of the family. That did not mean he got his way all the time because I set the rules. But, he did get respect for his opinion and his boundries. I think it made a huge difference in his self-confidence.
Standing up for yourself will make a HUGE difference in your life, Myoasis.
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Oct 07, 2009, 10:10 AM
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I am exactly like you oasis!
(((((Junerain and Oasis))) May we look deep down with the realization there comes a time to look out for no. 1, ourselves................... 
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