[nightowl2]

my husdand calles me crazy and I am afriad I will lose my kids. He says becasue I have been in counsling for 4 years and not any better it is proof it doesn't work. I started counsling because I was raped 15 years ago by 3 men. and I still have flashback and anxiety issues
He says I am stupid .Is that abuse?

[Schatze]

I think he's mentally abusing you and that is just wrong. I'm am so sorry to hear about your incident and hope your counseling helps ease the pain.

May I ask why you feel you will lose your kids? I doubt a judge is going to look down upon you for getting help after being raped. If you were to explain the severity of the rape he would possibly see you as a very strong woman that is able to deal with very large issues and crisis. This is a positive characteristic to possess. I wonder how your husband would be dealing with life right now if that happened to him? You're obviously a very STRONG person for being able to deal with this, I don't know if I could have.

Welcome and hugs,

Missi

[nightowl2]

never mind it was stupid to even ask. I am crazy and stupid obviosly

[Wants2Fly]

Men have been calling women "crazy" and "stupid" for several centuries as a way of controlling and maintaining power. Don't believe it, not for a split second. Believe what Schatze wrote!

[nothemama8]

You are a survivor, be proud lift your head high, your husband could never deal with what you have, this is why he is calling you names he has to make you feel infereor(sp) so he can be in control
Angie

[eskielover]

You are not crazy....you have gone through a trauma & that is what you are dealing with. A trauma like what you went through can take a long time to learn how to deal with. Don't let your husband have that kind of control over you. You are strong given that you are dealing with your trauma in therapy.....that takes a lot of control to deal with those issues.

Don't let your husband get to you...& what he says is sooooo untrue. You will find that professionals will see you & how you are handling your situation & know how wrong he is.

Debbie

[nightowl2]

I am getting an emergancy order of protection against him tommorow he was very angry tonight and out of contronl. He was also talking about sucide. BUt I want my kids to be safe. So I amgoing to do it first thing tommorow

[dayzee9]

(((((((((((((( nightowl2 )))))))

I am so very sad that you're husband doesn't quite have a grip on things concerning Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)
Has he EVER participated in ANY of your therapy after all this time....? If he starts making threats, talk to your T about him coming in for a session or two to see if he can explain things to him. Let him know that the events that happened to could can damage/rip-apart ANY average person's mind (psyche') as badly as a prisoner of war victim! Your mind is a prison...he has GOT to understand; either he has got to TRY to understand or else.........no, i was going to say more, but I think what I just stated is IT.

I have been in counseling since age 15 from Major depression disorder; eating disorders & PTSD (incest) a few years later from miscarriage after being raped by 2 men; then just rape; then physical abuse for years............I'm not trying to "one up you", I am just trying to explain that it's been almost 20 years since any other kinds of abuse.....and i'm still in therapy. PSTD is one of the emotional abuse that don't heal like from physical abuse... & the fact that you are still alive shows that you HAVE gotten better!( You are ASKING for help? Yes?) You posted in this forum didn;t you?

THAT IS PROGRESS!!!!! Would you have posted at the beginning of this "journey"? Think about it, hon....

In the meanwhile....try to get him to sit-in on a session and have your T give him a "progress report" It works!

I'd say "penny for your thoughts" but even "Lucy" in Charlie Brown cartoons charges a nickle (inflation sucks!) ((((((((hugs - if you want them )))))))DAYZEE9

[Schatze]

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Missi