[xXWhyXx]

Well, I have this friend, lets call her S for now. And like the title says, S has been copying me... A LOT! I learn Japanese, she is suddenly interested too. I always do a head bang with listening to music, she copies that. I saw "HA!" randomly, she does too. And I am trying to be unique, but with her copying me -- it doesn't really help. I want to learn Japanese so I can bee unique but now she is completely ruining it. She copies so many things that I do! But some of you may know that I am very depressed and suicidal, and S is pretty much my only real friend. I don't know how to tell her without her leaving me and me being a loner again. Please help? And I have another problem too:

I have been dying to see a counselor, but I can't seem to get myself to do it... I keep on promising myself that I will go there to get the help I need. But I can't seem to do it. Also, my friend waits for me outside of my math class everyday so that we can hang out, but right after math class is the only time I can go off and see the counselor... So what do I do without telling her that I have to see the counselor?

[Yoda]

It sounds like you friend admires you. Still I can understand how annoying that could get.

How about simply lying about WHY you want to see the counselor? Perhaps say you want to talk to her about taking an interest inventory for career planning? Or something like that.

[perpetuallysad]

When you are young and have friends, often they will imitate you, or other parts of your peer group. Its really how teens/young adults figure out what they are, what they like, etc. I know that for me, when I would be around a certain person a lot, we would both tend to pick up each others habits and mannerisms. I would bet she doesn't even realize she's "copying" you. And I would also venture to guess that you probably copy some of her mannerisms without realizing either. It may be annoying, but truthfully, its a hard thing to escape. Even now I find that my husband and I have a lot of the same "sayings" and respond to a lot of things in similar ways. Its just a result of spending a lot of time with someone. I would definitely agree that she just likes you and admires characteristics in you. Plus, whether you realize it or not, you are unique. You don't have to try to do it, you just are. Take learning Japanese as something you can do together. What good is it going to be for you to know Japanese and not have anyone to speak it with? Maybe it could be something fun you do together?

You tell your friend you have an appointment and you will hook up at another place later. If she asks what the appointment is for, you can tell her or simply say it is a personal matter.

Good luck.