attention?

I wasn't sure where this fit, sorry.

You know when someone does something and others say, "oh, they're just doing that for attention."? Well, what is so wrong with wanting attention? Aren't we social beings? Don't we need attention from others? I realize that my ways of getting it are not appropriate, but it is so critical to me that I will do anything to be "heard" sometimes. Why do I feel so bad that I want to get something that I never got? I know that I have to find positive ways to receive attention, and be open to receiving it, but I don't know how yet. What do I do in the meantime? Will I ever feel ok???? I am confused.

You did very well asking for it in your post! That's what we all need to do, is be right out there and plainly ask for what we need. Sometimes we even have to spell it out. It's not easy, but if I've been able to learn it, I know you can, too!

Keep practicing!

I agree, you took a very good step in doing better for this! imo Realizing you do things for attention is one thing, realizing you're going about it in the wrong way is another thing, and working to correct it is still another step! I think those are the hardest steps. While you may find yourself being impatient when you "misstep" it really won't be so horrible IRL. Each time you do, and you will, if you can rethink it, reframe it, then that will help you limit the number of "blunders."

BTW

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Excellent post. I agree with what Sept said.


Jen

sometimes people forget others have needs . . . it's okay to remind them "hey, i'm over here!!!"