[Indie'sOK]

I'm sorry for the self-loathing attitude. But when I look in the mirror, all I see is a fat girl. I'm in a bad mood today, I'm sorry. Maybe this bad spell will only last awhile. But I always have felt so fat. I don't think I'll ever like my body. Can I have some hugs please? I feel like everyone here thinks I'm this happy girl when even I have bad days too. And it began with a glance into the mirror.

[Sabrina]

I understand. ((((Indie'sOK))))

(((((((((((Indie'sOK))))))))))
Sending you many hugs. I know the feelings you are struggling with, and it is very tough to deal with. Would it perhaps help to point out a part of yourself that you do like? It doesn't even have to be physical...it could be inside. Maybe you like your eyes, your hair, or on the inside, maybe you like your sense of humour, your honesty, your kindness...the possibilities are endless. I hope you feel better soon.

[SheSabre]

Hi Indie'sOK!
I can totally relate to what you are saying and how you feel, I've felt that way many times about my own body and I'd end up feeling horrible because it would cause me to crash and burn with depression. I try to remind myself that God made me just the way He wanted me to be and I'm special...no other person is like me, I'm uniquely molded by Him like clay in His hands. You need to not only learn to like yourself but to also be able to love yourself, it's the only way I ever got any peace of mind and also inner peace. You don't judge a book by it's cover, you open it up and read the entire book...and see what all qualities it contains. If anyone won't take the time to do anything but glance at your cover, that just teaches you that they are a very shallow person and you don't need that kind anyway. Tell yourself a million times a day what you like and/or love about yourself...it can be anything at all...keep complimenting yourself until it actually starts to sink in, you truly believe it, and you know that you were beating yourself up all this time for nothing. Remember, WE are our own worst critics and most people don't think as much about any flaws we have as we do ourselves. Think positive thoughts at all times, shut out all negative thoughts and feelings, and never let them back into your mind again. Eventually you will slowly begin to actually like many things about yourself and you'll also grow to love yourself as well... inside and out. Just remember, if someone just wants to glance at the cover, not open it up and read the entire book over a period of time...that person has their priorities mixed up really bad and they are such a shallow person that all they'd care about would be themselves. I hope that this has helped you in some small way and now comes the hugs! ROFL!
Huge Huggles,
She

[lynn P.]

((((Indie'sOK))) - I'm sorry you're having an off day. I'm a mother of 2 girls and it makes me sad and mad the way women(espec. young women) are too pressured by society to worry about their weight. It's the entertainment and beauty industries fault. Women are made to feel they should look like the glamorous models and movie stars. Here a website I often recommend: click on 'Campaign or Real Beauty'
http://www.dove.ca/en/default.aspx

[Indie'sOK]

Thank you everyone It does help and I feel a little better just from getting out of the house. Lynn...I absolutely agree. I hate the media and what they portray as a "real" woman Hopefully someday we can teach our girls about what really matters and have it take a lasting effect. Thank you for the link too.

Love yourself, Indie'sOK. You are the lead in taking care of being OK.