Isolation..Is it a problem for you ?

I totally understand...I rarely leave the house...only for food, appointments, etc....hang in there...You do have awareness which means growth....If Im not aware of an issue I cant change it or be helped...

This is going to sound pathetic but I feel like I am .... understood. I thought I was totally alone in this feeling. Right now I am lying on my bed playing Farmville with the TV on in the background. This is as exciting as my life is and I don't mind one bit. There are times when I wouldn't mind having some sort of companionship but that lasts a hot second.

the more i am alone, the more i want to be alone, i don't return phone calls even. since i seem destined to be alone, i am going right along with it.

Me either. I need surgery which will require an 8-10 week recovery and, besides the fact that I won't be able to drive or get up and down the stairs to my apartment, I'm afraid I'll fall and get hurt while alone or develop some complication and no one will know because there's no one to call or check in on me. So, you know, I'm kind of just living with pain because I feel like I don't have adequate resources for recovery.

Hi misskeena....is there a day nurse who your insurance can help to provide to you? Maybe if you can ask the doc's office or hospital if there is some type of meals on wheels program that can help food shop for you while you recover...or maybe a church in your area, call the catholic churches and they may have volunteers to help with community. Just dont want to see you suffer in pain, when u need to address health issues. There has got to be someway to help build support, and maybe if its planned out well, you can get to know the people who would be there, you will have company and help. I hope you feel better. sending well wishes. nice to meet u

My new prescribing doc today started attacking me for being isolated and even called my daughter for an update!! I tried to explain when one is in a depressed state, one does not feel like doing much, nor be scintillating company. Where does this perception come from in the "doc" community that if we like being alone we are antisocial? I told him I liked people. (but prefer hanging out with the animal and vegetable kingdoms!!) Best to all for a Happy New Year!

"help..."

my problem is a little different. I can be around people and not feel anything. I try but I just can't feel loved or appreciated or cared for in any way that gets through, and I don't want to come off as needy or pathetic, so I usually keep things casual. I would love a deep relationship where I could bare all and be able to trust and reciprocate that. I loved my Momma a lot, when she died, I kinda went numb inside relationship wise. Still working on that.

Naw, I don't qualify for M-O-W. I'm only 33. I don't belong to any churches, unfortunately, and my insurance won't cover home health care. Thanks though...those are good ideas.

I work for a hospital; you'd think my coworkers would step up or something but no one has really said anything. Maybe if I asked but I don't really want to be a burden to people who aren't super-close to me. Honestly, I just feel crappy that I'm only a thirty-something and have not one person that I can think of who can help me out. You know? It's not only lonely, it's scary.

I agree all of my family either take and don't give anything back, I have a sister who will listen to me talk but never makes me feel she cares, the lack of proactive concern in my life beyond a few words from people who don't really know me is scary...I'm 31 what is it gonna be like at 61?!!!

Yep, isolation is a problem, and a way of life for me. I'm new to the city I live in, and I had just started to establish a social network at college when I was kicked out due to my health problems. I am bitter about it and yes I do blame the college administrators for not taking into account the fact that separating me from my peer group would causes severe, irreparable damage to me due to the fact that struggling with social isolation is one of the bigggest trigger to my depression issues. They've single handedly put me in a situation of such severe isolation, the only person I speak to is my therapist once a week. That's it. I don't speak to or see anyone else in between appointments. I don't know if I'll get over this. My therapist just sits there and says "how can we get you to socialize more". Gee, I don't know genius why don't you tell me? I don't trust my therapist. He's too perfect and has too much of a perfect life for me to disclose my innermost feelings to him. Sorry for rambling rant.