When you make a post......

that could possibly be interpreted wrongly ...... do you feel as if you are going to receive a cold but polite PM from a moderator or another member?
Or am I just paranoid
Probably

Fuzzy

oh yes.......most times I am afraid to speak my mind because of that...

well you could always turn off PMs so you don't receive any except from the big gun admins

or maybe guilty conscience? or just nerves? or like you mention paranoia?

you'll never know until you post and try, right?

i've had some PMs that i thought were unnecessarily abrupt. i don't think it is paranoia, nerves or a guilty conscience. the parameters of what can be said here, are getting smaller and smaller. my take on it.

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i've had some PMs that i thought were unnecessarily abrupt. i don't think it is paranoia, nerves or a guilty conscience. the parameters of what can be said here, are getting smaller and smaller. my take on it.

</div></font></blockquote><font class="post"> we've received our share of less than kind or barely legible PMs from members but we either use the ignore feature if a PM is abusive or forward it to the moderation/admin team. as for communication with the mod/admin team? they're human too which doesn't excuse them from the polite norms. they take their positions seriously so any problem with how they handle things can be directly taken up with them individually or with the top brass of Ozzie or Doc John. we're only a community if we behave like one. and that includes the mods/admins too!

but we'd be foolish to not factor personal issues into our views of the team here. some of us fear anything we post whether or not there is an iota of controversy in it. it is just what we come from and how we are. some ppl are just fearful naturally when it comes to expressing themselves publicly.

guess things changed in our time away........wild.

Everything is so impossible for me- when i post there is no response- almost never. i feel that i can't even post anymore because it's so difficult to have the lack of response and the misunderstanding and on top of all that there are separate parts in disagreement with me.

Posting is always a lose/lose option for me.
Reading is getting to be also. i know that i'm doing badly- have so much trouble with sx of DID but i was so triggered recently - one moderator was understanding and corrected it and the other sent me multiple PMs- making me sound like i was somehow wrong for even bringing it up.

i guess i needed to say it specially- which is hard to do when you've just been triggered and you're all torn apart, hurting so much. There was no intention of being negative to any certain person- the 'notify pm ' feature goes to a group of people. i didn't even think of exactly who. it was too upsetting to think at all then.

i know that everyone has a hard time but it's a huge blockade for me to have to dread coming here or lose this place to come. i can't be understood anywhere at all if i can't bring my parts to a DID support forum.
Hey- people with DID have parts and they are not all like sweet happy five year olds that play games. i wish they were.
When i'm triggered usually a protective part comes and 'i'm unconscious.

Why do i live at all?

So tired of sx of PTSD and DID. i'm doing the best that i can and still more and more pain.

It doesn't make me feel any better at all if others have pain also. i still hurt because of the trigger.

again:
IT doesn't make me feel any better AT ALL if others have pain also. i STILL hurt because of the trigger.

again
It doesn't make me feel any better AT ALL if others with DID have pain also. I STILL HURT BECAUSE OF THE TRIGGER.
And now i feel even more alienated than i did before besides hurting.

(and besides something happened at work to re-inforce thinking about the trigger again-. i know i have to work with T in therapy about it but it's so hard to be misunderstood and have no where to go that can be reasonably pain- free and i don't have to be reprimanded for thw way my parts are- when i hate them more than is healthy already. It promotes internal conflict.

i don't agree with everything that 'i' write . Especially when having a bad fb. in response to a trigger.

kerria

kerria, you can PM me at any time. i'll try to help. xoox pat

{{{{{{{Fuzzy}}}}}}}} I've never seen a post from you that could be taken the wrong way. Sometimes you're not very clear but you never offend!

Me, I speak my mind and if someone doesn't like it, that's too bad. I've learned to control my temper pretty good which is what got me into trouble before. IMO, you don't have anything to worry about.

{{{{{{{{{{{{FuzzyWuzzy}}}}}}}}}}}}}

no i am starig to feel that way too..

I have been told to clam down from someone and I understand how you feel my darling fuzzy..

love to you..

i am here everyday because it makes me happy and i feel loved. but i never post because i am afraid to. my hands get cold. i love all you guys!!! thanks for letting me be a part of this community! thanks so much for posting this one fuzzy! tandi46

jennifer

There are definitely times where I have felt like you & just responded with the way I felt about the post by the way it came across to me......for some reason, I seem to see things very differently than others at times. Never having been involved much with any forums before last October, I just responded with how they made me feel.

I have since learned to realize which posts those are & now when I read them, I initially step back from it.......look over other posts the person has written & try to put the pieces together before responding. If I really realize that I can't say anything constructive, sometimes I just won't respond at all. If the responses I feel are constructive are looked at wrong, I just leave it there & go on with out responding again. I refuse to get drug into a posting contest & if it looks like that is what is happening.....I drop it like a hot coal but also without any apology because I always mean what I say or I wouldn't say it. It's just that now I look into my responses more before I actually reply.

Tough character here I guess.....but usually no tougher than I am on myself.

I too have found several posts that trigger my emotions & try to search my feelings & try to understand what is going on inside of me before responding too.

I have found that these internet relationships are definitely not easy.....I have also found that one time a person takes something one way & the next time....it is completely different. I think that is true with our personal relationships too.....& sometimes what we learn over the internet is good to apply to our personal ones.

It definitely is complicated,
Debbie

Yes Fuzzy. I have felt that way a few times.

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(((kerria))) I'm sorry you feel that way.. about noone answering your posts..I did a search of your posts and can't find any not responded to of late...I'm concerned you feel that way though...it shouldn't happen to us. I try hard to use my time answering posts that haven't had a response (and I know ppl read my posts and that should draw responses too.. I have had a tough time being around recently... lots of stress.

(((Fuzzybear)))) you KNOW I feel that way! But not exactly... I just wait for any of MY off beat threads to either be pulled or to receive a reply from the good DocJohn himself! ROFL (if I were able to ...)

The tone of the site has changed. I guess we need more education about the evolution of sites like these. I don't have a clue. Maybe DocJohn could give us some links to read about it? It is an uncomfortable feeling, imo.

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well you could always turn off PMs so you don't receive any except from the big gun admins

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true wisdom!

I'm too dense to realize that my post might be interpreted wrong.

Being as I have a coyote in my totem pole... everything I say in real life comes out wrong, offends someone, embarrasses someone else, makes that third person laugh nervously every time they're in my presence... No one, including myself, ever knows what I might say next. So yeah, I'll probably post something somewhere that will be horribly misconstrued and I will be swatted w/the Official Moderator Gazette like the bad dog that I am.