[noirkitten]

im getting really sick of my family these days. i know that sounds terrible but it seems like we can,t have one day go by without fighting. and every small bad thing that happens like the computer crashing or someone,s phone not working has to be like somone ****ing died, nasty word, and tears are shed. oh my ****ing god. this just seems to be so normal for my family, it,s prfectly normal to get into vicouse fights and throw the c word around a lot. it,s super ok to have an out burts in the middle of the street while on vaction. so much fighting, and so much wasted tragdy. why does every small thing hafe to be the end of the world, why cant we not fight for more then 2 days in a row. this tension is making me not want to live here more and more. i hope that one day this problem will be resloved. i dont like fighting but my mom says i cause most of it, she is in full blown denial that she has any problems with anger.

[Rhiannonsmoon]

People are taught anger and 90% of learning happens within the home. Anyone who challenges the source of the anger will be blamed as the root cause to remove light from themselves as the source. Dysfunction is learnt behaviour & within dysfunction there is blanket denial, usually by all parties

[lonegael]

Sounds like your family is used to a high level of tension and will keep it high just so that things will feel "normal". My hubby's family is like that. Do what you can to keep yourself insulated. When you feel it start, distance yourself, short circuit it, or if nothing else works, leave. Anger can be like a drug, people get almost a high from it. if you take it away from them, they will resist. Hang in there. HUGGGGSSSSS.

[RyuB]

we're adults now and of course no longer live with our mom, but she's still the same. my brother deals with it by simply immediately walking out of the house and going home. i suffer in silence and it always aggravates my medical condition. but 'going home' doesn't look like an option for you. perhaps you can find a hiding spot, whether mental or physical, perhaps a friend that you can visit.