[WXWX]

I can't help but to dread that christmas is coming soon.I live at my grandparents and I just found out that they are leaving during christmas week (Grandma is getting surgery for breast cancer).I really don't want them to leave. My anxiety , depression , and fears heighten when I'm alone for too long .And the only way I coop with that is by cutting my arms and face ,or pulling my hair out.And I'm really afraid of having panick attacks because there is nobody to be with me afterwards.I have no friends who like to be with me.I can't go to my parents because my Step dad hates me to the point of almost hitting me.And my real dad is dead.So I really have no one to be with this year.So if anyone has any ideas on how to keep my anxiety down please tell me.

[yellowted]

you can always log on here, i too will be alone at chrismas and would love a chat, even though i will be alone i still put my energy into 'doing the full works' for dinner, this passes a few hours and gives the brain something to concentrate on, i also get myself a couple of films to watch and go for a 'walk' if the weather permits. I usually end up snuggled in bed early with a glass or two of wine watching a film with some snacky treats, i try to think not of 'i am alone' but of 'yes a day for me to treat me' Christmas is a holiday, so make it a day for you, preperation is essential so you don't wake up wondering what you are going to do, have your day planned out, plan things which make you happy or that you can get engrossed in, failing that hit the web there will be others feeling as you do in need of a chat.

Coming on here is a good idea ! Lots of people log in ! Why not try chat ? Its a friendly place and if you are not too sure you can make your own room its easy to do and name it something nice ....

Also making sure you cook a meal for yourself is great to do too.

Plan before hand what and when you are going to watch tv if there is nothing on you fancy then get a couple of DVDs in.

I would also buy a Christmasy CD to play while on here so you are in a fairly happy mood it does not have to be a sad day.

[susan888]

Warm thoughts to you WXWX. Blessings to your Grandma and to you! Take good care of yourself and log on PC on Christmas. You will find someone to talk to.

Much love to you and your family,

Susan

Hello, WXWX. There are lots of opportunities to volunteer during the holidays. Volunteering would get you out of the house and around people. Doing some volunteering would allow you to have the satisfaction of helping and take the focus off yourself.

[Omers]

Some community groups have public dinners or you can volunteer at a shelter. Yeh, you coud cook up all the fixin's but there are places by me that can deliver or you can pick up... Less clean-up!
I too will be around PC on Christmas. It is going to be an especially hard one this year. Perhaps we could set up some kind of special Christmas chat?
Could you have Christmas with them on a different day?

[Yoda]

I agree with the other posters that volunteering would help you and others.

[curley]

Originally Posted by WXWX

I can't help but to dread that christmas is coming soon.I live at my grandparents and I just found out that they are leaving during christmas week (Grandma is getting surgery for breast cancer).I really don't want them to leave. My anxiety , depression , and fears heighten when I'm alone for too long .And the only way I coop with that is by cutting my arms and face ,or pulling my hair out.And I'm really afraid of having panick attacks because there is nobody to be with me afterwards.I have no friends who like to be with me.I can't go to my parents because my Step dad hates me to the point of almost hitting me.And my real dad is dead.So I really have no one to be with this year.So if anyone has any ideas on how to keep my anxiety down please tell me.

Since you have no one to spend it with can you get out and go to a movie. The shows are always open and that way you would be out. Coming in here is a good idea too. I am sorry your family situation is what it is. I hope you will be able to deal with your fears. I will be alone too. Maybe I will see you here.

[brittfly]

definitly come here on christmas... try the chat rooms and talk to others who can support u or who u can support. I did that on turkey day and it was soooo nice to talk to others. I also got my favorite foods and rented movies. made it my own special day. it worked!!!! I hope u can find things that work for you. thinking of u!!

[Skully]

I will be here for xmas WXWX so PM me when you start to feel down or come into chat, I will be around in the morning and evening (usa, eastern time). I would love to talk with you!

[lavieenrose]

I've been alone for most holidays most years. I always hope it'll be different next year, but I guess I'm not the greatest networker or friend. It still baffles me. I like people, care about people, have been told I'm fun, warm, witty, etc., but I'm still alone most of the time. Living on disability for depression, unemployed, and still single at 55 puts me on the fringe of society. Or that's how it feels. I volunteered at a community Thanksgiving dinner and will probably do that tomorrow. I can try to be of some use, and be around others.

Originally Posted by lavieenrose

I've been alone for most holidays most years. I always hope it'll be different next year, but I guess I'm not the greatest networker or friend. It still baffles me. I like people, care about people, have been told I'm fun, warm, witty, etc., but I'm still alone most of the time. Living on disability for depression, unemployed, and still single at 55 puts me on the fringe of society. Or that's how it feels. I volunteered at a community Thanksgiving dinner and will probably do that tomorrow. I can try to be of some use, and be around others.

I could have written this post. I am 53!! and am in the exact position as you are only I am employed.