Are there any experienced psychologists that I could privately talk to?

I just registered on this board, and I'm glad I've found one. I seem to have issues, this includes low self-esteem and confidence, lack of social skills, and I'm just an idiot. My social status is miserable-like.

I don't want to discuss my problem in public. If theres any licensed psychologists that post in these forums, that would gladly talk to me for free (private messages), I would appreciate it. If you choose to you don't even have to focus on replying back to me, if you just manage to have that free time, you know ?

hi unknown and welcome to PC!

this is a self-help community support forum. there are no registered psychologists that counsel here. we talk about our issues and advice, comfort and support each other thru our sharing.

you can certainly share with us, but we're not licensed.

gl!

kd

Okay thanks, but here is the problem:

I'm having difficulties keeping myself in school simply because I am all by myself during lunch break. I know there are other people like me, very few who just also try to avoid lunch breaks but I'm one of the older ones and haven't made any friends.

Also now, it's too late too even try and make new friends. People already know me as if they don't even want to be seen talking to me. It's just even more embarassing if I try to talk to people.

Welcome unknown, what school are you in High school or Collage?
Angie

I'm in high school, and I heard that in college many people sit alone, because their too busy studying or something?

In college, you'll find many many MANY friends who won't care whether you sit alone at lunch or with a thousand kids.

Well, for one thing you're not an idiot. You're here right now seeking some help and support because you're a bit down and out -- hardly the behavior of an idiot. For you right now, it's the belief in it that does the damage.

High School can be a bummer. What you're describing is similar to my own experiences. I was socially inept, nervous and had shocking self-esteem.

You have to realise these are feelings you can overcome - it does take effort. I know! You've got to push yourself a bit at a time. Do you have any friends or family you could confide in? I believe support is important so they can help you pick yourself back up when you start feeling down.

Remember you co-create your life with life... if that makes any sense. Is your belief that you're an idiot and socially inept causing you to pull back from others? Perception = Projection. I'm not saying it's your fault, I'm merely saying it helps to take a step back and look at your own actions in an objective light.

As for some other ideas: Counselling is a good option. Also, perhaps joining some social groups and clubs within the school would be a good catalyst to get the social juices flowing.

Take care and BTW - it's never too late to make new friends.

Welcome unknown.....you do know that highschool is just the beginning of your life....not the end....you haven't even started to live yet......your age is a growing period. (note this is from a 52 year old who has gone through this too.....many many many years ago....lol.

The important part of high school is what you learn in terms of acedemics. No one can ever take away your mind & the knowledge that you learn. I found when I focused on the educational aspect & the things I had interest in (like music, science, math, foreign languages, literature, crafts, computers, etc) then I could get involved in groups that focused on the things I had interest in. It is much easier to expand socially when you share an interest with others. It builds a common area to share ideas, humor, & serious discussions. If you try to realize that lunch break is only a very small part of school & that the acedemics are what the focus should be on.

Analyzing your acedemic strengths & interests & finding others that share similar intereste, you will be able to take a step towards expanding your social status.

Getting a therapist or even a counsellor that you can talk to is probably a good place to express your feelings & ideas & they can help you on your social growth issues. It is important to be well rounded...both intellectually & socially. It does take a lot of work & knowing your weaknesses is a good place to start....the people I really feel sorry for are those who don't realize the need for development in both areas of their lives (my husband is an example of someone who only cared about what he learned & never developed socially.....thus a big problem in a marriage). You are really more advanced than many who are only interested in one aspect of their lives.

Just realize that you are growing up....you are not grown up...you have a long way to go & if you need help along the way it is important to get it. A well rounded life is a good thing to strive for & you seem to realize what is missing. It isn't wrong to get help for your weaknesses.....very few people are even able to identify their weaknesses.

You are one step ahead of many.....even though you are struggling....you will be able to get there.

Take care,
Debbie