So what does it take to become a mod or admin?

Post deleted at the request of the poster. *KD*

I appreciate everyone taking the time to give their views.

I still come back to the original issue, that I think someone in an admin position should be known to the members reasonably well prior to their selection.

I don't know, Ben, the best psychologists I have known (and many of my friends from university have studied clinical) have a natural ability to put things across in a relaxed manner - I hope you can develop that knack.

I still pretty much hold the same stance as when I started this thread, I don't know that I will be that comfortable posting about personal stuff as I still have the feeling that it's a student gaining experience - who will end up with a reference, no less (again ,I have no issues whatsoever with kimmy's appointment).

Hope it all works out.

LOLLLLLLL... who knows?? I could be both... LOL. Besides, normal is over rated...

im a monkey nut flyer what make are you?

http://favewavs.com/wavs/tv/likeanut.wav

LOLLLLLL mellors. I have no idea .. Maybe a box of mixed nuts.. Variety adds spice to life... smile

Who the HELL are you calling nuts?

well, i know that i'm nuts....and i'm pretty sure that everyone here would agree that we all have issues...otherwise, i doubt we'd be here. i know that i don't have the expertise to advise Doc on how to pick someone to help administrate this site. i also know that i don't have the gall to pick and pick and pick at him about how he runs this site. it is beginning to sound to me as if people think he OWES them something. he provides this site and i use it. i appreciate it and i try to always respect him and i intend to respect JustBen and KD.

get over it!

by the way, i remember reading the post, that Mellors panties are in a wad about, and i did not interpet it the way he did. i didn't respond to it and the only reason that i didn't is because i don't think that my writing skills are good enough.

LOL... LMO... The wav says it all... LOLLLLLL

excellent, LMo.........

i didn't respond to it and the only reason that i didn't is because i don't think that my writing skills are good enough.

nuff said

Doc John I think you are doing a great job. On line and in real world time.

At first having someone who's name I did not recognise right away like I do Ozzie and Kimmydawn scared me because I am not a very trusting person and who would be with the abuse background that I have. but then I read the posts that he has posted and now I am curious of what next from him. He's not barrelling in here making massive changes upon changes and not considering all of us here. He's just being himself just like he was before he was mod and then admin. We accepted him no questions asked as a member. we accepted him as a mod which shows in the welcome to mod threads. And I for one accept him as admin.

Just a thought here but is it possible that some of the problem here is that he got the job because Ozzie left the position. Its clear to all the impact that Ozzie has here. And maybe when Ozzie came back some were entertaining thoughts of her taking the position back and now that the position is filled theres no hope of that.

Doc John picked Ozzie and obviously he made the right choice given the impact she has here. Did anyone here question his motives and choice when he chose Ozzie. Not by anything I can find and I have read all the posts on every messageboard here. Well Doc John has chosen JustBen I for one am going to give JustBen a chance just like I did Ozzie and everyone else here.

by the way since we are online not in real world time we are not going to know each and every person here. In fact it is very easy for a person to join an online group and not reveal who they truely are. A non professional (not shrink, police and so on) woman named Posey does this every day to ensure on line support groups and websites are safe and appropiate for various aged children. She does help the police catch pedophiles even though she is not a professional. No matter how many posts a person does there is no guarentee people here are who they say they are. So the way I see it it doesn't matter how many posts JustBen has done here or how long he has been here. To me what matters here is the person who started this website Doc John has the materials available to him that we dont for doing thorough checks of the person he chooses as administrator.

He also from starting and keeping this site up and running knows what technical stuff it takes from having computer knowledge so that if someone here has a computer problem the admin can help or find the appropiate help, having psych background so that any posts that contain psych information is the true information that is not stearing people wrong, to possible fundraising possibilities since no members are being asked to pay to be here or donate money to offset the bills of paying for the domain site, computer programs needed in order to have message boards, chat .. for each section offered here there is a cost.. not to mention keeping track of each member registered or not so that the site conforms to the sites purpose and any laws governing the domain. From researching how to start a website of my own I know there is so much more involved with administrative duties than just watching the message boards. In my eyes anyone that Doc John feels is qualified and capable of doing the job has my vote of confidence. Welcome aboard JustBen.

good post. Justben must be Justsick of all this.

All the girls

cool post. if we paid dues, which we don't, there might be an issue concerning decision making....

there is a b.b. king song that goes, "i pay the cost, to be the boss"......

Well maybe my opinion is not counted for anything here but here it goes anyway.

I believe that Kimmy was an excellent choice as admin. I believe that she provides exactly what this site needs. Love, compassion, understanding and first hand experience. Kimmy makes me feel less alone and that is very comforting to me.

I do not know JustBen, and honestly, never read any of his posts until recently when it was announced that he was co-admin. I feel the same way DSF does in the sense that it makes us more comfortable to see someone we know and trust in the position of admin. I do not trust easily so...............

This does not mean that I will not support Doc Johns decision (like I have a choice LOL). All I am saying is I understand Mellors and DSF points of view and I think this was an excellent post.

My 2 cents

What is the worst thing that can happen if someone we don't know becomes an admin?

Think about it -- newbies arriving on the scene TODAY don't know Kimmydawn or DocJohn or Ozzie or any of us. They have to take the time to get to know us.

Think about it -- what is the "trust" factor good for in this situation? Why is it important that WE trust the admin? Isn't it more important to DocJohn?

As a part of this online community I think trust is a HUGE issue. To me it is. Yes it is important that Doc J trust who he appoints as admin.

My point is, that trust is vital here. People open up there hearts and souls here and talk about painful things in their life. When someone doesnt trust it isnt easy for them to open up and share personal things like that.

I am not counting JustBen out...not in the least.

Again, I believe this thread was a good one and a very legitamate concern.

Well, the way I see it, whether he's an admin or just a new member of the site, we are STILL opening up to a stranger.

The difference is JustBen is in the position of Admin....

This is the highest position held. Trust is important.

I can not argue back and forth on this. I havent the energy.


BTW, JustBen and Kimmy,

Congrats on the new positions.

No arguments on my side -- I really don't care who the admin is. I guess that's why I'm baffled that this is an issue in the first place.

Anyway, I echo JMo in the congratulations to the new admins. May it be all that you ever hoped for ... ;-)

i agree with you, LMo. i just want someone here, fair and caring. who it is doesn't matter to me. how they feel is what matters to me. p

wi_fighter said:
When choosing an administrator, I really don't think it's up to the nuts to run the nut house. DocJ made his decision. It's a good one.

THAT IS FUNNY!

WOW! What a thread.....I am here for support not to argue about who administators are.....or why they are who they are........I am sure that they were not jsut randomly drawn from a hat............If you trust DocJohn, you should trust his descion, and well, I do..........so seven pages later all I want to say is WELCOME JUSTBEN, I am sure you will do just fine.

I wish he had spent those 14 months sharing and getting to know us too so that we would have a feel for him...I tend to feel like you do and Mellors and JMO...nothing AT ALL against Ben I don't know him.....so thats why I wish he had shared more of himself in that time...That is just my opinion

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Who the HELL are you calling nuts?

get over it!

by the way, i remember reading the post, that Mellors panties are in a wad about, and i did not interpet it the way he did. i didn't respond to it and the only reason that i didn't is because i don't think that my writing skills are good enough.

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Umm, NO, not going to 'get over it' ... someone calling me nuts because I have spent time on these forums for my own personal reasons (that some of you know)?

How rude.

I don't think II have seen anything posted as yet that makes me feel more comfortable/alleviates my concern about this whole issue.

As people have pointed out, this is the HIGHEST position of power on this site barring DocJohn - it is not just a moderator position, which I would have been totally sweet about.

I guess we'll see how it goes ... thank you for taking the time to post your opinions, people.

aiiiight, peace yo.

Considering I have 1400+ posts under my belt and I've been here about seven months AND have personal reasons for being here too, I can be considered one of the nuts as well. So, yeah, get over it. Did I call YOU specifically a nut? No I did not.

If you were a working member of a company, the CEO would NOT ask the mail clerk who he should hire as his right-hand man. Why shuld a FREE site be any different?