is most everyone else here, I'm having a hard time right now. I'm having a worse time because I'm seeing a poster than continually throws questions and research at someone who is in pain...calling out for support.

I could put him oAsn ignore...yes, I could. But there are people here that I love dearly and I'm very interested in how they are feeling and how they are responded to. If they have asked this poster to leave them alone, I'll probably back them up on that. So..no ignore...yet.

I am extremely reluctant to post the things that I need help on now. I feel too vulnerable and I don't want my post picked apart and I certainly don't want to be offered a website...unless it truly relates to my pain and would be helpful to me. I absolutely don't want to be told the dangers of mixing Coke and Pepsi. In short, there comes a time when you don't want to hang all of your laundry out to dry, because you don't feel safe.

Any answers? xoxoxo pat

I am extremely reluctant to post the things that I need help on now. I feel too vulnerable and I don't want my post picked apart and I certainly don't want to be offered a website. In short, there comes a time when you don't want to hang all of your laundry out to dry, because you don't feel safe.


Thanks Pat.

This is exactly how I have felt but have been reluctant to say it, so I've just stayed on the side lines and tried to find the support I need through PM's.

Petunia

[gardenergirl]

How about if someone makes a post you are afraid of on your thread, you just don't read it? Don't click on the link. Essentially you could ignore the post without putting someone on ignore. (and yes, I know this is easier said than done). I think I read a post from zh about reading in threaded mode which could also help you to avoid posts from anyone you wish.

You could try telling yourself that any poster who offers you support that is not of the kind you are looking for is simply not meeting your needs, for whatever reason. I know there are tons of folks here who would offer you support and understanding of the kind that sustains you.

That said, I'm sorry you are having a hard time, and I hope that things smooth out soon.

(((((Pat)))))

gg

[Gemstone]

I have been reluctant to post lately as well.

Yesterday I posted something and immediatly wished that I hadnt because I was afraid of who would respond. The person did respond and it has made me feel even worse.

It stinks because I could really use advice / support for certain things Im going through, but I just dont want to put myself out there anymore.

[wi_fighter]

I think the sweetness of the Pepsi cancels out the acidity of the Coke. You should be safe mixing the two, but you might want to verify that with a certified high fructose corn syrupologist.

And I definitely second the concerns everyone else is having. I think it borders on harrassment when someone openly says "Please, I am not comfortable with your type of advice" and the poster that the polite request is aimed at keeps coming back with more and more quotes and lists and questions and hints of support.

((((((((((PattyHavingAHardTime))))))))))

[LMo]

I understand what you are all saying.

[Parker10]

I am so sorry that people are actually admitting they are afraid to post here when they need support out of FEAR of one person. Pat - you are one of the most caring supportive people here, and it is so distressing to know that you need and want support , but cannot post asking for it. I feel exactly the same way !

[allthegirls6]

I agree with what you say pat. I too have had reservations about posting because it bothers me what is coming back. Not in the sense that others will disagree, cos this feels healthy. Its the questions that get me when they just go on and on.

People are in pain and suffering and all they want is a bit of support not the third degree.

[ozzie]

I agree and suggest that everyone who does, pm moderators and Doc John with your complaint.

[Parker10]

Ozzie - believe me, I have !

I agree.

Just to put it in the open, I asked for my thread in depression to be deleted because I could not cope with the replies I kept getting from one person. I have saved a copy of the thread as there were so many helpful responses. When I am able to I will open it, remover the unhelpful ones and respond to the rest. Thank you all. I can't return to the saved file of the thread at the moment because, much as I would like to (and have tried to) ignore upsetting posts, even putting one person on ignore, I cannot do it. SOmething in me has to open that post.

I don't want to stop posting here. I am in a very very bad place and the support I am getting is really helpful. But I am scared, even now posting this, that one individual will respond and I can't deal with that. So I am putting myself open to abuse here (even though I know the huge majority of you are nothing but generous and supportive) and it is a frightening place to be. But I really want people to know that my request to have the thread pulled was because of only one person's posts. I also really appreciate all the supportive pms I have had - thank you all.
Caroline

[kimmydawn]

I know that alot of us have had many concerns for quite some time now, and I appreciate everyone's patience on this.

The matter is now resolved.

KD

[__zh]

what a distressing month!

what a relief to read this matter has been resolved KD. permanent resolution?? we had thought last time this matter was on the table of the admin/mod team their decision was permanent.....imagine our horror to find it was only two years! another two years this time or permanent permanent??

next time how many members will need to prove their distress or trauma from a situation before action is taken? this has been a painfully looooooooooong month for many on this site.

[SeptemberMorn]

There's a member here that annoys me to no end, much like you describe. I've told that member to leave me alone and except for a couple of times, my wish has been honored.

Have you PMed Admin?? Maybe a more direct approach would help.

[LMo]

Sept, this has been taken care of already... thanks ;p

[SeptemberMorn]

DUH! It would have been nice to know. LOL

[LMo]

Sorry -- I thought KD already mentioned it above!

[SpazKatt]

*hugs* I seem to be oblivious to what has been going on.

supportive administration staff and mods: you are all

big grinning sigh..........................................

[LMo]

we're all breakdancers?

you got it baby and i'm gonna rap!

[jmo531]

(((((((((((((((((((((Pat))))))))))))))))))))

[Estee1]

I had trouble with that too. It made me angry. But I tried to get my message across honestly and without being rude. It was good practice for being assertive. Something I need to improve on. I'm just like a big door mat sometimes.