[soaringsparrow]

Just need to vent.

Yes, I'm mentally ill. Why does that seem to mean that nothing I feel, think or do is valid? Why can't I hurt without it being brushed off as a med issue or just a bout of depression? You're divorcing me, for crying out loud! Am I supposed to take that and be ''ok'' about. Why, when I'm missing our life together, missing you and the kids and the good stuff can I not cry without it being the 'full moon' or my time of the month?!?!

I know I've had anger issues! Believe me, I know what my anger has cost me. Why, though, is my anger about how my life is going right now dismissed with a suggestion thatI 'talk to someone at program' about what's going on? They are wonderful people, but not every feeling of anger is something that I need to be put on a counseling couch for!

And, yes, I struggle with bpd. I know you've been told that people diagnosed with borderline are 'broken' and 'beyond hope'. I know you've been told a lot! Listen to what I am telling you, showing you! I am hurting. I am teary because I am losing a huge part of my life. NOT because I'm trying to manipulate anyone into anything they don't want to do! I recognize that I've done that in the past. I don't do that now. And should I slip and try to manipulate someone, guess what, I will put my big girl britches on and admit it!

In short, I am tired of feeling like I'm being dismissed because my mental illness is a quick and easy excuse for the very real, very valid, very "normal" feelings I am having right now!

[Elana05]

Originally Posted by soaringsparrow

...but not every feeling of anger is something that I need to be put on a counseling couch for!

I really hear you on this, soaringsparrow.

Sending supportive thoughts and hope that tomorrow feels better than today.

[online user]

When my husband first left me, I blamed everything on myself. Now hubby came back and we are in therapy together. Therapist tells him he doesn't believe him--that he is the cause of the problems and he is running away and not believing that he is the major part of the problem. T has helped me get to the point where you are--you are OK, you have things to be angry and upset about. And you should not be dismissed as you have been. You may need to express your anger better, as I do, but you are likely not wrong to be angry.

Sounds like you are in a lot of pain, but that you are right about what you are saying. Hope things get better for you soon.

[Leed]

It seems that women very often are dismissed and alot of times our emotions are blamed on our "time of the month." I was in a marriage where any of my emotions were just fluff ~ they didn't mean a thing to him. I was also dismissed and mad to feel almost like an idiot.

You are NOT wrong to feel angry. You have very REAL emotions, and you have a right to express them. We must be careful with anger, but that too can be expressed in healthy ways. Never let any suppress your feelings.. You're doing fine! God bless you and I hope you feel better soon. God bless you. Hugs, Lee

(((((soaringsparrow)))))--you've touched me deeply.

It took me a good 35 years to finally tell everyone in my life:
I am me. Only I know how I feel; and you will stop telling me how I should feel.

A good portion of your anger is probably, like mine, the fact that others are telling you what you are supposed to feel, how you are supposed to act--in short negating who you, as a unique,and special person; truly are.

You got rights!!! You sound intelligent, you sound as if you know when you are "undone/overwhelmed"; and you can learn to conserve that energy for constructive thoughts.

As others here have sagely put it; learn to channel your anger: you are probably a very creative, and sensitive individual.

My thoughts are with you---Courage!---Be well, theo

[soaringsparrow]

Simply put, y'all rock!

Its refreshing to find validation. Most people just don't get it.

Thank you.