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Hey everyone, long time no see...
I need some help/suggestions regarding work. I have social anxiety, no education and almost no social skills. But I'm 22 and still living at home, so I'd really really like to finally become independent from my "family" (i.e. the source of most of my problems). Does anyone have any idea of what I could do? The most common jobs people get without a college degree all require working with people all the time (bartender, cashier, shopgirl...) and I not only couldn't handle it but I couldn't even get a job like that. What can a dumb and clumsy person do in this world to support herself? Thanks for reading and if you have any advice please post. Hugs to all ![]() ![]() ![]()
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Being independent from your family may require you to have some contact with others. As you improve your social skills and anxiety you may start to feel better about yourself and be willing to take a job with a couple of people around.
What about working in the back of a store, like in the stock room, so you'd be away from most of the people, or working a night shift somewhere, where there are usually less people around too. Are you interested in furthering your education, because you can do that online these days, which could open you up to more jobs. Don't be so hard on yourself - think of the things you enjoy doing and see how you can convert them into a career. |
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Well I have 2 things on my mind as i read it:
1. I know how it feels to fear people...and to deal with things you are mostly afraid of - and i know anxiety is a disorder - but can`t you try for a challenge - to get any kind of job and see how you are doing....the worst that can happen is that you will find yourself jobless again if you quit and find it really bad. You cannot avoid people all your life - do you go to therapy? 2. There are sites that need people who examine stuff like testimony for products - technology, etc - then the person just writes a review for the site...and gets paid. I know a friend from college who did that. There are companies out there who hire people to work from home....i think you can find online... But I WOULD highly recommend you for your own good to try and go for a normal job (or have 2 - one from home and one - like maybe 2 shifts a week - you don`t have to work THE WHOLE WEEK so that you DEVELOP social skills. I am at in a similar situation - just found a job - it is hard it does hurt and it does stress - BUT THE FACT I DEAL WITH IT ...you understand? It can make a change! We fear fear itself many times... we have so many horrible things in our imagination that we frighten ourselves to death. But many times when we come to deal with those things we see that we had very little to fear...actually. |
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why not try working in an animal shelter? or something in that field...a majority of your time would be spent with animals & not so much people...
doggie day care is an option too...espeically during the summer months...not a huge amount of skill needed in the beginning as it would be basically kennel help & if you enjoy it it might be possible to branch out into grooming or eventually training... it is hard work tho... stumpy ![]() |
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Don't lose hope on finding a job
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Hello, *freak*. In my state, the Employment Bureau provides aptitude and interest tests and other testing to determine what you would like to do and if you have the skills to make it work. My suggestion is to call the Department of Labor or Employment Bureau to see what is available to assist you find a job you like and might be good at.
Good luck. |
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If you live in the US, contact Goodwill. They have many job training programs available.
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Lots of places are hiring right now for seasonal help!
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I currently work as a certified dog groomer and Im here to tell you that it makes some epic moolah.
I love advising this because it really seems to work for the degreeless people out there who just would like something minus working with people too much. If you aren't allergic to animals, you might consider dog bathing. I say this because first of all in most places its commission based. Meaning you're paid per dog. Therefore, if you work in a very busy kennel and/or clinic you can really bring in the profits if you're the only bather. Its also very rewarding and can be quite addicting. Not to mention you never really deal with people. You pretty much just spend your time in the back getting soaked and messing with dogs. However, it isn't all that easy. It is a lot of VERY intense physical labor and sometimes the animals are not all that nice. But it does have a lot of potential. if you find you like it, you could train or go to school (which is very short termed and inexpensive) to become a groomer where you will have the opportunity to make even more. Granted when you groom you do deal with the general public more and lemme tell ya... Dog people are crazy sometimes. But hey. Just a thought. I've gotten quite a few friends into it these days and its pretty good for lousy economies too. People always want their pets to be cared for. Its just a really useful skill to have. Either way, best of luck to you. Its not easy these days, but I'm sure you'll find something. |
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How interesting, the pet care ideas! To test the waters, you can probably volunteer at an animal shelter. Where I live, there is a cat adoption fair at PetSmart store weekly, and I volunteered a couple of times during a very hard time in my life. My disorder is completely different, I do not have social anxieties, but being with pets helped me, too.
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