I'm crying and I think my boyfriend prefers his friends. No one needs me. I'm just a mistake that needs to be forgotten. I'm just going to stay in bed for the rest of the afternoon. No one needs me. I should pass away. My boyfriend doesn't need me and I don't have friends. I'm crying at the moment. I should stay on here on my dsi and read posts until I want to sleep. Why should I be on this earth? I wasn't suppose to be here.You don't have to reply. I'm too much of a loser and I'm a human waste.... No needs me...

[mgran]

Hey happycheeks... don't think of yourself as a mistake. You ask why should you be on earth, and that you aren't supposed to be here. Of course you're supposed to be here! You wouldn't have been born if you weren't meant to be here. I honestly believe that everyone on the planet is special in their own way. without coming over all religious on you, when I was a kid I was told that "we are born to make manifest the glory of God." you mightn't believe in god, you might hate him, you might be completely indifferent, but in some sense, in some way, you are uniquely special in the universe. All of time and space would be different if you weren't there...

Today might be a bad day, you might need to sleep away the pain for today, but it's not forever. Tell me anything, I'm listening. I won't always be able to get back immediately, but I will try my best to check in on you every day. You're not a mistake, you're utterly unique in the whole universe. there is noone else like you. You're beautiful. You might feel lonely now, but it won't be forever. (((hug))) stay strong,

[alwaysrejoice]

happycheeks all this is not true. You're having a bad episode of some sort. Can you go out and get something you love like cake or chocolate? or get your hair done? I know those things don't fix anything but maybe for a moment you'd feel better? Hang in there.

Originally Posted by mgran

Hey happycheeks... don't think of yourself as a mistake. You ask why should you be on earth, and that you aren't supposed to be here. Of course you're supposed to be here! You wouldn't have been born if you weren't meant to be here. I honestly believe that everyone on the planet is special in their own way. without coming over all religious on you, when I was a kid I was told that "we are born to make manifest the glory of God." you mightn't believe in god, you might hate him, you might be completely indifferent, but in some sense, in some way, you are uniquely special in the universe. All of time and space would be different if you weren't there...

Today might be a bad day, you might need to sleep away the pain for today, but it's not forever. Tell me anything, I'm listening. I won't always be able to get back immediately, but I will try my best to check in on you every day. You're not a mistake, you're utterly unique in the whole universe. there is noone else like you. You're beautiful. You might feel lonely now, but it won't be forever. (((hug))) stay strong,

I don't know why I'm suppose to be here? I feel alright now. But I wish I could ask God and tell him why I am here? I want to know what career I should do? Thanks for being concerned but I'm sorry if I'm horrible.

Originally Posted by alwaysrejoice

happycheeks all this is not true. You're having a bad episode of some sort. Can you go out and get something you love like cake or chocolate? or get your hair done? I know those things don't fix anything but maybe for a moment you'd feel better? Hang in there.

Thanks, I had a sleep so I could feel better. I just listen to music and forget about my worries... if I can.

[KathyM]

(((Happycheeks)))

If your boyfriend doesn't need you, he doesn't need you. If you don't need him, you don't need him. Real love can't be bought or forced, and it's so much better when the feelings are mutual.

Take some time to grow and learn a little about what YOU need in order to make yourself "whole." Your boyfriend will never be able to provide that ingredient because it's your responsibility. The same goes for him - his peace of mind is not your responsibility - you've already got enough on your plate. What you give to each other, you should be able to give it freely.

My heart has been broken many times. As much as it hurts, these are some very important lessons in life. You can either sit in the mud and cry, or you can wash yourself off and get back out there learning about YOU and what YOU need in life.

Here......take my sleeve......and wipe off your nose - it's snot attractive.

Originally Posted by KathyM

(((Happycheeks)))

If your boyfriend doesn't need you, he doesn't need you. If you don't need him, you don't need him. Real love can't be bought or forced, and it's so much better when the feelings are mutual.

Take some time to grow and learn a little about what YOU need in order to make yourself "whole." Your boyfriend will never be able to provide that ingredient because it's your responsibility. The same goes for him - his peace of mind is not your responsibility - you've already got enough on your plate. What you give to each other, you should be able to give it freely.

My heart has been broken many times. As much as it hurts, these are some very important lessons in life. You can either sit in the mud and cry, or you can wash yourself off and get back out there learning about YOU and what YOU need in life.

Here......take my sleeve......and wipe off your nose - it's snot attractive.

but If I try to learn about me? I'm being selfish. It's not always about me.

[KathyM]

I don't think it's selfish. It's important to know your own heart and what it needs in order to keep beating. It's possible you won't get the things you want in life, but you will get what you need. Keep your head up, give it your all, and give it your best.

Many years ago I remember asking my ex-husband if he needed me. The song "Two Out of Three Ain't Bad" by Meatloaf was playing on the radio at the time. My husband told me "No," and I was crushed. He thought I was asking too much of him because he said he loved and wanted me - but never needed me - so "two out of three aint bad." I was still crushed. I managed to put my heart back together.......and I'm SOOOOOOO thankful I'm no longer married to him!!!!

In case you're hungry, here's some Meatloaf...

[KathyM]

Originally Posted by KathyM

I don't think it's selfish. It's important to know your own heart and what it needs in order to keep beating. It's possible you won't get the things you want in life, but you will get what you need. Keep your head up, give it your all, and give it your best.

Many years ago I remember asking my ex-husband if he needed me. The song "Two Out of Three Ain't Bad" by Meatloaf was playing on the radio at the time. My husband told me "No," and I was crushed. He thought I was asking too much of him because he said he loved and wanted me - but never needed me - so "two out of three aint bad." I was still crushed. I managed to put my heart back together.......and I'm SOOOOOOO thankful I'm no longer married to him!!!!

In case you're hungry, here's some Meatloaf...

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[KathyM]

I'm happy to hear that (((Happycheeks))). My post was a "just in case" you were feeling like I was way back when.

If you don't need to focus on yourself, take a break, If you need to focus on your boyfriend's life, be careful not to miss out on your own.