[Greenleaves]

I don't know if I have friends here. Are you still my friend if I anger you?

I miss being accepted.

[wanttoheal]

(((((((((((((((Greenleaves)))))))))))) I'm so sorry for your pain. No judgement. I accept you as you are. Take care, be safe.

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

I think you have some friends. I know IRL my friends and I can and have gotten mad at one another. BUT Green this IS a message board and it's not the same as real life...The question can be tossed back at you...Are YOU a friend to others??? If not then I would say people are kind but not friends...Friendship goes all ways not just one. I hope this helps

[jmo531]

(((((((((((((((((((((((Greeny))))))))))))))))))))))

We are here for you, OK?

I have been angered/annoyed at peoples posts before but it doesnt mean that I hate them or dislike them in anyway. This site is here to post, vent, support and be heard. Do you what you need to do to feel better (with in reason).

hey.
i'm still your friend.
and... i'm not mad at you. not at all.

i feel a little frustrated at my inability to help...
and i'm sorry if i said somthing that hurt you...

i'm struggling with stuff right now.
i'm struggling.
and sometimes that means i don't have a lot to say to others.
i'm sorry... but i know you understand
(and i know you didn't know i was struggling)

but...
even if someone is mad at ya
it will pass.
and sometimes we can feel a little mad at people who we care about a great deal.
so yes it is possible for people to feel mad and still be your friend
and they calm down in a day or a couple days
or a couple hours sometimes
(as we do)
and then things are better.

((((((((((((deneb))))))))))))))

take care.

greenleaves, read my signature line. think about it. you never know what another poster is going through. just like alex. she cares for you but she is struggling also.

try getting out of your head for a little bit and step away from the computer. go help someone else do something. anything. dust for your mom. walk the dog. and don't come and ask me for more suggestions of what to do. this would be an exercise for you to do on your own.
pat

[nothemama8]

IMHO, you are veery young and insecure right now, you need to focus on others we like you here you do not need to over react with us here we accept you as you are, treat yourself the way you treat others

[tamzinrose]

I'm your friend

(((((((((((green)))))))))))))

it reminds me of that kermit song.. "Its not easy being green" I know its hard having hurts and pains... sometimes it can make you the target... sometimes it can leave you alone, but hopefully you find that there are some like myself you can count on for a hug whenever you need it. message me any time.

[Genevieve]

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I miss being accepted.

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GL, some of your posts have left me feeling angry and/or frustrated. I've told you on one of them that I will no longer engage wiht you on that subject. You'll notice, though, that I am still engaged in dialog with you on other subjects. I hope that gives you some evidence to use in answering that question.

You can be accepted as a person, and still people can be angry with you. I get angry wiht my husband, and I still love him. Being angry is not the same as rejecting someone.

And do remember that this is online, not real life. Your friends here are valuable, but friends in real life would do you much more immediate good.

[Greenleaves]

Thank-you ((((((wanttoheal)))))

Especially for the no judgement part.

[Greenleaves]

I hope I'm a friend to others. I don't have much experience with friends online or in real life. I think sometimes I may not be a very good friend, but I'm going to try to change that.

[Greenleaves]

Thank-you (((((((((jmo))))))))))

I think you're right about the being angry yet not hating people bit...

I have to remember that.

[Greenleaves]

Thank-you for being my friend through so much Alexandra. I get insecure sometimes...actually a lot of the time.

I"m sorry if I frustrate you and others. I think I need a T to help me learn to interact with others in healthier way.

Sorry you're struggling right now. You can PM me anytime ya know. I'll try to be there for you.

[Greenleaves]

Thanks fayerody for the advice about getting away from the computer. That's something I really have to work on...creating a life for myself.

[Greenleaves]

Thanks (((((((nothemama)))))))))

Thank you for accepting me. It means a lot to me.

[Greenleaves]

(((((((((((tamzinrose))))))))))))

Thanks for being my friend!

I want to be your friend too.

[Greenleaves]

(((((((((((((esthersvirtue))))))))))))))

Thank-you for the hug.

[Greenleaves]

Thanks Genevieve for explaining that to me. Sometimes I don't understand that people can be friends even if they are sometimes angry and frustrated with each other. I have much to learn about relationships and friendships.

Hopefully I will be able to make some real life friends...it might take a while.

[Greenleaves]

In replying to this thread I realized that a lot of people replied to me. Sometimes I take that for granted, but I realize now how important that is...just to have responses...it means a lot. It means that people were willing to take time to write to me.

It means people do care. If people didn't care, they wouldn't write to me at all. Sleeps told me that. I knew about that before I talked to Sleeps, but somehow hearing it in person made all the difference.

I think...I think it would help me a lot to get a real life T. Message board interactions just cannot compare to real life interactions. I think I've been using the forums in ways that are not healthy....I think I treat people here like they are my T sometimes.

I have to remember that people here will not respond in ways that are always helpful to me if I treat them like therapists. People here are all struggling with their own problems and I don't think I help when I ask that of people.

I'm going to try to keep that in mind from now on...how people are fragile and vulnerable here...how emotions can get the better of some here. I have to take that into consideration before being upset myself.

[Lexicon78]

Greenleaves, I am always a friend to you, no matter what you say or what angers me...I am forever your friend.

I don't have too many friends, either...but I do value those who I do have. I am here for you..in thick and thin.

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

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It means people do care. If people didn't care, they wouldn't write to me at all. Sleeps told me that. I knew about that before I talked to Sleeps, but somehow hearing it in person made all the difference.

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That sleeps...she's pretty wise...and shhhh a loon

[SpazKatt]

I'm your friend, I don't judge and being annoyed does NOT mean angry or unliked! Try not to take everything so personally, I know it's hard but it will REALLY help you. It has for me. Lots of time it's just a person's personality or thier mood, it has nothing to do with you. *hugs*

[Genevieve]

Another thing you're forgetting, GL, is that because we're NOT therapists, we don't know what to do for you. We don't have the training to know whether what we say is doing more harm than good for you.

Otherwise, yes, I think you've made some good points there. I hope you can keep them in mind, as you post here.

Friends aren't the same as parents, nor therapists, nor teachers. And you can learn to interact with others, you need practice though.

Do you ever get togehter with others in your classes at school? Maybe get a study group together, and get to know the other members. That helped me when I was in college.
It's a good way to stay up with your classes, and to make friends.

Good luck, GL, and do go get a therapist. You know it will help you, and I think you know you need to do it sooner or later. How about sooner, so that you don't have to suffer as much?

[nothemama8]

Greenleaves if ppl here didn't like or respect you would they reply to your thread in Health? hmmmmmmm