I Have so much trouble doing everyday things?

I have Always felt years behind other kids when it came to learning basic skills and now as a 21 year old I feel the same.

Everything is a challenge to me. I cant keep my room clean, I cant iron a shirt, I cant make my bed, I Can barely lace new shoes, I Can't tie a tie, My clothes barely fit correctly, Driving is a challenge, Interacting with people is a challenge, I Put off getting haircuts and going to the doctor or dentist, I Feel exhausted just trying to keep up with a daily routine that everyone else does with ease.

Trying to do something I don't fully understand leads to a whirlwind of emotions and frustration that I basically collapse.

I Relied on those around me for so long that I have no independence and feel like I cant make it on my own.

How do I begin to learn common things like this? Why do I have so much trouble with it?
Can anyone give me some advice. I've just been called lazy most of my life but is that true? I feel like I have some disability or mental illness because I cant really function like a normal person.

I'm convinced I have a learning disability and I actually would prefer it if I did because then it would be able to answer what is wrong with me.

It's been mostly just me and my mom and older brother, he is doing just fine and can do everything I listed here without a problem so why is it just me?

Sorry if my post is confusing I feel like it is but I'll try to clear things up if someone doesn't understand it. I Know it seems like it's just "Not being able how to do things" but I feel like it's more than that because I've tried many times and it just doesn't process and when it doesn't it becomes so daunting to learn anything new.

I Taken numerous tests and it said it's Not ADD/ADHD or Autism/Asperger
so what is wrong with me?

I Relied on those around me for so long that I have no independence and feel like I cant make it on my own.
Hi 5am
I honestly believe that when someone is taken care of very extensively, they can get what I would call "learned helplessness". If you have never ironed your own clothes, then you don't know how and need practice. If you had others lay out your clothes for your going out (school, whatever) then you don't know how to pick and match your clothes. You might not fit in this at all.

If you feel there is a learning disability, the first person you likely should ask is your mother, that is if she can be honest and open with you. Sometimes Moms baby the baby in the household...and it might even be as simple as that.

How were your grades in school? Any problems there? If you did fair/good there, then you obviously don't have a learning disability. You may also be overly intimated by your brothers success and fear you can't live up to the bar he set.

Lastly, where did you take these tests you speak of? Done by a professional or something on line? I would see a professional if possible if you continue to worry about this. good luck to you. hugs, bj

i dont know what it is either but i have the same problems and feel completely awkward