[ozzie]

I'm feeling pretty bad about myself tonight. My husband seems to think that I have hot spells because I've become about 20 pounds overweight in this past year.

Today, as we were riding in the car, I told him I was sweating and too warm. He reluctantly turned on some air and said, "you need to start gagging yourself after you eat".
I told him doing that was a serious illness.

I also told him he was a mean S.O.B. and didn't talk to him the rest of the way. Does being overweight make you warmer than other people?

[Christina86]

Thats a horrible thing for your husband to say!!

As for your question, I haven't got the foggiest idea.

*hugs* Hope you feel better soon. (Thinking of ya!)

[kimmydawn]

((((((((((susan)))))))))))

i'm very sorry. that was cruel. i'm just sorry.

no, when i was 87 lbs heavier than i am now, i didn't get warmer at all...even when active. of course, i was alot younger then.

i'm sorry he said that.

kd

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

Awww Ozzie he is a mega jerk I am sorry he hurt your feelings..I will say yes being overweight unless one has a thyroid condition or poor circulation would make one warmer...BUT thats NOT why you were hot you may be in menopause...it may be your meds...it may be the side effects of being next to a jackass ....anxiety, tension so much

(( ozzie ))

[nothemama8]

Look at the age factor (menophase), Sleeps is right about meds, my hubby is like an oven cuz of his different meds, by the way your hubby should get a script for nice pills

[bebop]

ozzie that is awful!! are you in menopause by chance?

[January]

((((((((((((((((( Susan ))))))))))))))))))

Your husband is a jerk and owes you a mega apology, complete with flowers and jewelry! Grrrrrrr on your behalf!!!!!!

I do not believe being overweight causes temp changes. Medications can do it as well a your thyroid and menopause, or it just might have been hot in the car!

I am so mad on your behalf! Don't do a thing for him until he apologizes.

I'm so sorry he said that to you.

Love and hugs,

Jan

[desirae]

oh, wow....sorry to hear that your husband was being a jerk.....I know how that feels, but I'm lucky he never picked on my weight.....at least not yet.

Don't let him make you feel bad, tell him either he love you the way you are.....or there's the door.

I've gained probably 15 pounds after my two year straight pregnancies were all said and done, and ever since yes I have felt warmer. But not hot spells.....that seems a bit more then just a little more insulation.

I'd go to the doctors and have that checked out.....could be a medical problem.

I hope you feel better, don't let anybody bring you down.

Desirae

[SleepsWithButterFlies]

Also Ozzie I was just in the shower thinking on this and it hit me....please try not to show a negative reaction to his shyt...cause thats what he wants you to be upset...next time joke it off ..say you were thinking of some actor you think is cute or just smile and still be nice to him. By reacting in a negative way...you are feeding this trolls behaviour....AND MAY I add it may be pain too...but my guess is meds....or youre sick...BUT HE IS AN IDIOT

[SweetSunshine]

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Also Ozzie I was just in the shower thinking on this and it hit me....please try not to show a negative reaction to his shyt...cause thats what he wants you to be upset...next time joke it off ..say you were thinking of some actor you think is cute or just smile and still be nice to him. By reacting in a negative way...you are feeding this trolls behaviour....AND MAY I add it may be pain too...but my guess is meds....or youre sick...BUT HE IS AN IDIOT

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Ozzie Sleeps is so right!!! Use this to your advantage!!! It will shock the living hell out of him! heehehe!I'd personlly like to see the expreession on his face too! What a JERK!!!!!!!! Grrrrrrr

Also its been my experience as a heavier person that I do tend to get warm. And my husband is an icicle lol. So that is a hot subject in our marraige. I think everyone is differnt though. And the situation at the time prolly didnt make it any better. Wish he would treat you better. WIshing good things for you Ozzie. Take care hon.

Hugz~
Bethy

[Rhapsody]

Ozzie, ((((((( HUGS )))))))

To answer your question from a medical prospective.... YES, it is possible for someone to get hot easier due to extra body weight, but it is also easy for a skinny person to be hot or cold at different times as well.
I am about 40 pounds over weight and I do NOT get hot, but I freeze to death and I live in a very warm state.... go figure.

I think it is more of the chemical make up of a persons body, than that of an extra fat gene, that makes a person cold or warm blooded.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[Azalysa]

{{{{{Ozzie}}}}}

I've been hot all my life, regardless of my weight being up or down, even in cold climates. And why is it in marriages there seems to be one "hot person" and one "cold person" and getting the temperature right at home is a major struggle.

Ok, digressing a bit. My first thought was peri-menopause as well. All the other possibilities already mentioned could be the case as well.

[darkeyes]

(((((((((( ozzie )))))))))))))))))

Being overweight never made me any warmer.
It's only of late and that is due to "hot flashes".
When I was younger (before middle aged) my weight gains never made me any more warmer than when I wasn't overweight.
In fact I seemed to get colder faster, back then.
Ozzie, I am sorry to hear you are feeling down, and hubby is of no help. It seems they get worse with age.
Take care,
DE

[EJ711]

Ozzie -

I have been getting swetting before going to class, and stand up and present. I also huff and puff some at times. That is why my new doctor is sending me in for a stress test. Women can exhibit heart distress in different manners.

Kick you husband in the shin from me, when he's not looking - LOL - for being mean to you.

EJ

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{{{{Susan}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

It's getting to be SOP for our husbands to act like SOBS, isn't it?? Jerry just had a S^%# fit, too. I'd been asking him to go to the store since yesterday and it just went in one ear and out the other. I reminded him about an hour ago and he went to bed!! I made him get up and go reminding him of how many times I had told him. He stormed out, stormed back in and threw the package at me! JACKASS!!!

I'm gonna disagree with everybody that's said being overweight doesn't make you hotter. It does! Doesn't matter if your sedentary or if you're being active. Something to remember, too, is that we both have underactive thyroids.

There's a time when your body stops making hormones and then there's a time when you brain stops. I've been having mild hot flashes myself, but I haven't given it too much tought. It's possible that we're going through the tail end of menapause.

Susi-Q, remember that when someone makes a nasty statement to you, they're telling you something about THEMSELVES... NOT you!

[Sabrina]

I am overweight and I know that I feel heat very quickly. I sweat all the time in the summer. I don't have to layer on the warm clothing during the winter. So my extra weight has affected me in this way.

What a hurtful and disrespectful thing for a husband to say. I am so sorry - you must have been very hurt. ((Ozzie))

[Mystry]

Hey Ozzie...I think your hubby needs glasses...beauty is in the eye of the beholder and this beholder thinks you are a very attractive woman, not to mention caring, loving, understanding, and endearing...some men don't mature gracefully I'm afraid...as for the heat issue I don't know about such things, sorry...

[bipolar_bear]

Ozzie I am so sorry that he was so cruel to you. That was a terrible thing to say. I wish he could see t he beauty that everyone else sees in you. I guess I really don't have an answer if weight makes you generally warmer but I don't think that is so. (((((((((((((Ozzie))))))))))

[SongBirdandDaisy]

Ozzie,
There are so many different reasons for a person to be continually hot or cold. I am in the medical field and know you can't contribute it to one thing or another.

As for what your husband said to you, I am sorry he was so hurtful. It sounds like he has his own problems that are making him unhappy and projecting those feelings onto you. It doesn't make it right, but at least know that has nothing to do with who you are. From the response posts given so far, it sounds like you are truly a wonderful, giving person. I wish you luck and good thoughts.
Anne

hello my dear friend...i am so sorry to hear what you were put through.....sure hope you are feeling better today....

Susan,

I'm so sorry for your husband's stupidity! It's so hard when someone that's supposed to love and care about you say such hurtful things.

I've been told I will be left alone, if I ever become over weight--- thus battle with being under weight.--- I know-- it's not bright of me to let someone have a hold over me like that--- it's just..... well, like you-- we have a long history and children... and family and..... well, I think you understand.

I feel for you

Thyroid diesase can cause us to be more sensitive to temperature changes..... so that might be partly it for you. I agree also with those that mentioned "anxiety"-- I think anxiety and depression can cause our bodies to be more sensitive to hot/cold.

Thinking of you.

mandy

[katheryn]

im over weight but it doesnt make me hotter, when i start meds for bing depressed my side effects that i suffer with are sweating badly from the hairline even if my body is cold ,this happens at work mainly because of anxitys i also suffer with a dry mouth when nervous and i get cold hands but this is worhth putting up with as tnis med works for me ,
i hope this helps
katheryn

[ozzie]

Thank you everyone for your support. I almost cried when I read all of your replies. ((((((((((((((hugs for all)))))))))))))))

I think I'm past menopause but like Tomi said, I'm sure it's possible to be suffering some tail end effects of it. I do have a low thyroid problem for which I take 75 mg. of Synthroid. I also have anxiety. So......thanks to all of you, I can see that the cause of my being too warm could be the extra 20 lbs. or any of the other problems.

Needless to say he was being a jerk and I don't intend to take his advice about gagging myself. However, with fibromyalgia, I'm having a hard time getting up the energy to exercise, even though I know I need to.

We do walk together when he is being nice.
Thanks again everyone. I love you guys.

[Rhapsody]

Dear Ozzie, ((((((( HUGS )))))))

I just wanted YOU to know that I understand how you feel about the pain ones body feels when they have "F" or "RA" (like me) - I exercise for my health and not for my husbands eyes.... and lets face it - the men do not look as they once did either - lol.

But, back to my reason for replying.... while I can no longer exercise with weights or running due to my RA - I do use a exercise program that only involves your body as resistance w/ deep breathing.... This program is called BODY FLEX (check it out). I love this program, for while I do not always loose weight every month (due to my poor eating habits at times) this program still works to maintain me at the weight I am at... no more extra (extra weight extra weight) to be added to frame.
I lost 20 pounds back in Jan & Dec.... while eating right and doing the Body Flex program.

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[kimmydawn]

((((((((((((((((((susan))))))))))))))))))

I didn't know you deal with fibro as well. I do too. It's hard. I don't know that I feel warmer with it, but I do know that I can sweat more from the pain and muscle fatigue.

I'm glad you recognize that it doesn't matter the cause, (unless it does to you)...he was just disrespectful.

KD