[rolan86]

I'm almost 20 years old, at home from the summer, just finished my second year of college and I am BORED. Practically to the point of depression. My daily routine includes getting up at noon, masturbating to get up, going online, watching TV, playing the guitar/piano, masturbating, tv, repeat, until I go to bed and lurk online till like 2 am. It has been this way EVERY DAY this summer and I can't take it any more!! I just want SOMETHING to do, something to work towards. I'd get a job, but I am expected to help out with my family's business. However, this is always an unpleasant experience as my dad is always there to put me down. I'd hang out with friends, but I don't really have many to hang out with. I really want a girlfriend, but haven't found a girl who likes me back. I'm just starting to get really depressed watching the sun go down, it's like each day has just been flashing before my eyes. I fear I am just wasting my life here. These are supposed to be the best days of my life and I have no idea what to do with them!

If you find yourself getting five posts in you can enter the chat areas here rolan. That's a pretty good place to interact with many here with whom you might share some similarities and such.

Of course you may just join in on the many forums and give your opinions on any number of topics. Have a look around and see...it's a big site and in no time you can check out chat too. Hope you find some support here and welcome.

Maybe you could look into exercise and nutrition. Spend some time researching it and then take action. Could be a fun, healthy, and positive way to pass time. I enjoy reading about stuff like that and sometimes spend several hours in a row just doing that. Just a suggestion.

You could look for a new hobby or try to improve certain skills (for example, increase your typing speed/accuracy). Volunteering is an option as well. Maybe you would enjoy some long walks during the week.

[roads]

A job sounds like the best solution overall with possible social benefits. How about gritting your teeth or whatever it takes and resolving those issues with dad, so you can get involved in the family business?

Roadie

hey rolan - you have options - lots of them. you're just not exploring them.

where is your motivation? your personal drive to be the person who you want to be? have you considered getting a job outside of the family business? you can choose and start your own career. what are you studying at school?

exercise is a great option! the ladies love a fit guy and it's a good way to make new friends. btw, the ladies like guys who have friends.

it sounds like your relationship with dad might be difficult. have you tried talking with him about it?

you are are the age where you have to be your own person. you seem to be hiding from that by sleeping late and limiting your activities. it's time to start building your life. get up and get out and do something so that your life is yours!

[rolan86]

Well, I just signed up for a personal trainer for fitness. Good first session, I'm excited. Most of all, I am just happy I have a reason to leave the house now! Instead of just going out to wander. As for working in the family business, it is NOTHING but stress, I don't feel like it's healthy for me at all. I am only home for 2 months before school so I don't know about a job, or who would hire me, but I'll still try.

As for who I want to be? What I want to do? I have NO clue! I am studying political science in college. Why? I find it interesting. That's about it.
Do I want to be a politician? No.
Everyone always asks me "....why..?" Well that's my answer. I find it interesting, and I didn't somehow have a set life goal of going into cellular molecular biology from the beginning of life (seriously I met kids my freshman year of college who seemed to have their whole career path figured out!)
Because I don't have a set goal for my life or what to study I feel very misguided. I don't really know what to dedicate my studies to. Lots of things interest me like political science, biology, psychology, etc., but the whole MAJORING part and dedicating all my studies to that field is what intimidates. I don't like any of them to the point where I'm like I WILL NOW DEDICATE MY LIFE TO THAT.
And it seems because I can't find a field I am dedicated to, a LOT of doors are shut to me, like internships, organizations, programs, etc. I want to get involved! I want to work towards something! I just can't freaking PICK something though and this is really starting to bother me.

A career planning course can be very helpful with that. You could look into it at your school, read about the class and maybe ask someone who has taken it, then if you want to you can take the class.

Or you could try to figure it out without taking such a class. There are plenty of articles online that you can consult. For example:

5 Ways to Pick the Right College Major

Glad to hear you had a good first session with your trainer. I hope that works out well for you.

[Open Eyes]

Rolan,
I think the excercise is the right move. The other little activity you were doing is because you are craving SOME kind of PHYSICAL ACTIVITY.

Why not look around for a cool restaurant to work at. That is a good place to meet girls and guys your age as well as customers.

You dont HAVE to work in the family business you know. You need to explore outside of that on your own somehow.

Not EVERYONE really knows what they want to do for their life plan. Often the only way to figure that out is to expose yourself to as many different things/enviornments as you can.

Do you live anywhere you could also take up a sailing course as well for the summer and learn how to sail or another activity like that? You gotta mingle with life a bit and try to venture out some.

Open Eyes

[wagneriansinger]

I bet there are several nonprofit organizations in your area just dying for any help you can contribute. It might be worth your while to check out that option. Sometimes helping others who are less fortunate than you is a real eye-opener. Can't hurt, might help.

Anne

[wagneriansinger]

Second thought: take the Meyers-Briggs test. It is designed to help people identify their skill sets as well as the type of people they like to hang out with, ie, ultimately helping them identify careers that might be a good fit.

If you click this link you'll see a Google search of the various versions of Meyers Briggs online for freeeeeeee.

You might actually enjoy it. I'd take it but then I'd probably find out I'm in the wrong profession...just in case i didn't already know that.

Isn't life funny? I'd give almost anything to be 20 and bored instead of 59 and overworked and depressed...

Anne

[doltuku]

thank for all information

[rolan86]

Thanks for the suggestions!