[twofaces]

So I talked with my parents about the issues I have, and how I feel about it.. Then they told me:

'You are normal, and you didn't go through in your childhood as much as others.'

.....This seriously shocked me a lot, I'm giving up hope on earning my parent's awareness about my issues. They pay me with university and takes care of me, so maybe it is up to me fix my problems myself now.. After all I'm 19 years old and is an adult..

Not going through alot in childhood?

I moved schools 3 times and moved 3 countries, did not graduate any schools except for the official high school graduation certificate I got from government institute in Korea...

My friends are all scattered around the globe, and I was not there when they did parties, and graduation ceremony...

They may call it not a lot, but they don't understand how it feels to lose all your friends every 2 years (that was average year staying in one school)..

Now I'm supposed to become an adult and all I see is people just using each other and being so busy that they do not have time and calmness to socially talk to each other....

And I envy the Australian students who have their life-long friends and their parents nearby.. Whenever I see facebook, I see them party-ing all the time and talking to their long time friends..

Now talking about these things make me sad.... Why do I not have life-long friends like that.... Now I struggle to socialize with others because I have penalty of thought that they might leave me again...

It hurts to live like this

[insideout]

sorry.

you are not alone in your lonleliness.

[IowaFarmGal]

It's very tough having to start over again and again. Makes each time a little harder. I think parents are pretty much all in denial about what they do to their kids. They feel defensive because it's the life they gave you and they all want to believe they are good parents not matter how abysmally they failed you. Got to make it inspite of them. Actually I think it's easier after you move out and don't have to listen to them trying to shove their view of things down your throat. Even if you do the best you know for your kids sometimes it's not very good. Some parents the kids don't come into their decision making at all. They do what they think works best for them even if it is very selfish and destructive for their family. Can't do anything about it except rise above it.

[Leed]

Hi ! Your father was military? If not, he was probably a salesman or something like that?

Anyway, moving so often is so very difficult for the kids. They don't have any stability in their lives, and certainly cannot make many GOOD friends -- the kind that stay with you for years. The minute you make a good friend, it's time to move again, and you haven't really established that friendship enough to call them "good" friends.

So on to the next school and more of the same. It takes a long time to make friends. The kids look at you as an "outsider" and many times make fun of you and treat you badly just because you ARE the 'newbie.' It's not until you're ready to move again that you finally do make friends, and those friendships are lost again.

On to the next school, and yadayadayada............

I just can't imagine living like that. It had to have had a very negative effect on you. You didn't get to go to all the parties, or the dances or proms. You missed out alot on the festivities. That's rotten. I'm so sorry you didn't have all those experiences in school.

Are you going to college? If so, you can participate in all those things in college! That will be a riot! If you're not, well --- I'm sure you'll get a job, and people you know will have some parties and you can participate in those. Just be careful that you dont drink & drive! But there are lots of things you can do as an adult as long as you're careful!

I wish you the very best. Please take care. God bless. Hugs, Lee

[LouR]

I feel for you. Its not easy watching others have fun but Aussies (as I am) are alright people and we love a good yarn. Please try to involve yourself even if you feel lonely because there are people out there that will take an interest in you in some way just give it time.

[pachyderm]

Originally Posted by twofaces

Now I'm supposed to become an adult and all I see is people just using each other and being so busy that they do not have time and calmness to socially talk to each other....

Yes, there are lots of people like that, or who seem that way. There are some who are different. I guess one just has to try to find those different ones...

[twofaces]

Thank you guys for your kind words... It's good that I have someplace to get empathized upon (cries)

[irishpackerfan]

Well I hated when my mom told me I was normal as my dad was in jail. Lol but i understand what you feel. It sucks not having close close friends but think about it too when you say you have friends all over the globe you should think of it like **** I know ppl in how many countries. Im sure your gunna have to settle somewhere someday. And when ya do you can always make the closest friends ever.

Also theres nothing wrong with having close contact with your friends. Ive been writing to my High School track coach for months now. We send emails daily and I couldnt be more happy to see them. It sucks that we cant physically see each other but Im glad I have someone there i can always post my darkest and deepest thoughts. You should try that with one of ur Austrilian friends or whoever you feel comfortable with

[PurpleFlyingMonkeys]

I can totally relate. I'm only 24 and I've moved 32 times in my life. I went to three elementary schools, three middle schools and two high schools. Only made it to one homecoming, never had any graduation, and never had a friend for more than two years. We would move every year if not more.

It's really hard, to start over so much, rebuild your friend base and then have it all taken from you again. Don't let them take away your feelings, you have every right to feel the way you did and even if you had a squeeky clean life, it doesn't mean there isn't room for mental illness to some degree. If you need help then you need help, you don't have to have an excuse for it.

Sure there are people with harder childhoods, I myself was abused by more people than I can count until I was 22 years old, but there are millions of people who had it harder then me. Judging your mental state by how much "worse" others had it isn't helpful at all and has nothing to do with anything, it's your life not others.

If you feel you need help please seek it, it makes a world of difference.

[Nefertari Vivi]

Hello, although I do not agree with what your parents think, I do believe that it is natural for them to think in this manner. I believe this because as your parents, they can not relate to your problems in anyway, unless they have experienced it themselves and even then, each person is different and thinks differently; so it would be impossible for them to fully relate to your problems regardless, because they do know how you think or feel mentally. I will however, be honest and state that I am not surprised about your parents response on the matter and I wish the best of luck to you.

I hear you. It IS hard. My family moved every year when i was little, and i was always saying goodbye to friends,always the new kid, etc. i too am envious of people who have lifelong friends, people they met in grammar school and are still friends with years later, or even high school,and i know inwill NEVER have that. It makes my heart hurt. I understand how you feel.