[Fuzzybear]

When you are feeling especially ******, do you actually push people away, or do you just isolate? It seems that isolation is the default mode for a lot of people. Maybe it is easier to talk to aquaintances than close friends for some people when they are feeling untrusting etc. ... a distancing sort of thing. And do you feel "boring" as well as worthless when you are feeling especially bad? Or is it just me. I do some of those things, but not so much the pushing away, although I have experienced that from other people, including my mother, when they are depressed .(which was all the time with her)... and they seem to blame me. Or maybe I am just feeling especially sensitive today. Aren't I just a little ball of fun lately . If I had a dog I would be coughing up a hairball, but I am fuzzy enough already

Take care,
Fuzzy

[inthedark]

((((Fuzzy))))
I have been feeling the same way
I have found that isolation is my way of dealing with things.
I don't like to hear "why are you feeling this way?", especially when I can't answer that question.
By the way, I have two dogs, and they are always by my side, no matter what kind of mood I am in If I feel like staying in bed and covering up my head, they are right there with me.
inthedark

[PlanningtoLive]

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when I am depressed or upset, I withdraw into myself. At work I do what I need to do, but don't really "talk" to anyone except surface stuff and then when alone, I retreat.

The worse it is, then I actually prefer being physically alone as well. I don't feel boring, just completely inadequate and worthless and stupid.

I also get very paranoid and drive everyone crazy by saying, "are you upset with me?". By the time I'm done, they usually are. [sigh].

I've found a new, deeper hole Fuzzy.........want to join me? I'll be quiet but there, so we won't be completely alone. Better still, I think you might find your way out of here, so you need to stay closer to the surface.....you have more strength than I do.

xoxoxo

Mary Alice

[heatherm]

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I can sometimes do the same thing...but the difference now compared to a while ago is to tell people when I am not feeling my best.

I find it helps to find humour in situations too. Laughter always makes me feel better. Surround yourself with people who laugh and you will feel better too.


Heather

"In three words I can sum up everything I've learned about life - it goes on."
~~Robert Frost

[forgoten]

I isolate a lot. When I'm hurting to much, I hide my pain. I have been teach to keep things to myself. I guess I learn that lesson very well. When I can't hardly go on, I struggle between asking for help and isolation. If I ask for help, I feel I bother and that I don't have a right to ask. Then I feel guilty so I rarely ask.

I push people away from me because the feeling of guiltyness is so strong and that I don't deserve their help or their caring.

Hiding my dark feelings and isolation had been a part of me all my life.

forgoten

[yokus]

((((((((((Fuzzy)))))))) I tend to isolate when I am feeling really down. I agree with Heather though that the best medicine is laughter. I talk to ozzie every day and sometimes we laugh so hard neither one of us can talk. That helps me more than all of the pills I take. Music also lifts my mood. And coming here helps too. I hope you feel better fuzzy.

[SeptemberMorn]

Oy Vey... When I first read your post, Fuzzy, I didn't answer because I couldn't come up with an answer. It's been a while since I felt like this. Now I went and did something I shouldn't have done and that was to visit an old message board. Seems a bit of hostility has survived there and I'm feeling low now... but then again, it could just be how I took things. Siiigh!

I feel like crawling back under the covers and not coming out for a while. Then I remembered the great friends I have here and I know that I'll start feeling better pretty soon.

Hmmm... I'm even feeling like retreating from hubby... He has nothing to do with this! Maybe I'm going into Protective Mode... I know what he'll say if I tell him what has set me off. "Then don't go there!" So, yeah... I guess I'm wanting to isolate and distance. I don't feel particularly "boring" or "worthless" but what I do feel is... hmmm... having a tough time getting in touch with that feeling... maybe a bit of shame/guilt and maybe a tiny bit of anger. Maybe, like you, I'm especially sensitive today.

I have a cat, but I'm not feeling like cuddling with him. In fact, his attention getting games are really driving me crazy!! Probably because he "wants" and I'm "wanting," too, right now. I don't want to "give" right now, I want to "get." What do I "want?" I don't know... Maybe I'll go back and re-read some of the positive affirmations I've gotten in the past week here on the board.

HA! I could cough up a fur ball right now! YECK!



He's making a list and checking it twice...

[jennie]

(((((Fuzzy))))))) you are not alone

<font color=purple> Man can will nothing unless he has first understood that he must count no one but himself; that he is alone, abandoned on earth in the midst of his infinite responsibilities, without help, with no other aim than the one he sets himself, with no other destiny than the one he forges for himself on this earth. Jean-Paul Sartre </font color=purple>

[Fuzzybear]

Thanks everyone, it helps to know I am not alone with this!

Love,
Fuzzy

[Rapunzel]

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When I'm down I am convinced that I'm completely boring and selfish and not any fun, and a whole bunch of other stuff like that, and that there is no way I could be any fun to hang around with and no reason anybody would want to be around me. I definitely avoid people, and probably push people away too. And often project it onto them and think that they don't want to be around me. It's not just you.

Do you feel any better yet? I wish that I could pull you out of that hole and give you the ability to enjoy life back.

<font color=green>"Loneliness does not come from having no people about one, but from being unable to communicate the things that seem important to oneself, or from holding certain views which others find inadmissible" Carl Jung</font color=green>

[Fuzzybear]

Thanks Wendy, it's good to see you posting again. I was thinking of posting a "call out" for you. I am climbing out of the hole, but things happen that sort of make it harder so I am still in there .... I think I am in good company here though

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Love,
Fuzzy