[krisakira]

seriously. when I am in classrooms at school, i have thought, the reason I don't have any friends is because I am the ugliest person in the room. I know it for a fact.

[whatbeanbelieved]

((((((((Krisakira)))))))

Is this something you feel everyday or a belief that has taken route recently?

I wonder if you've ever noticed how some people believe one person is beautiful, and others cannot see that. Beautiful is a label - and so is its opposite. I'm wondering what about your appearance makes you believe this about yourself.

[Puffyprue]

Dont we all always be our own worst enemy?

No one ugly unless they have ugly personality and i dont know you but i dont think you are

Ps. beauty its in the eye of beholder

hugs

[krisakira]

thanks for the hug. it is not something recent, I have always believed i was ugly ever since 3rd grade when I started gaining some weight.

I don't think you're ugly kris, I think the issue might be your social anxiety and also the amount of effort you put into your presentation. Weight loss would probably help both your appearance and self-esteem as well.

Have you tried getting on some weight loss medication?

[Leed]

Dearheart, you are NOT ugly! None of us are satisfied with the say we look. We all think we're lacking in looks. We're our own worst enemy. You're no different than anyone elss sweetie. You are JUST AS good looking as the rest of us, and I mean it!

And weight shouldn't have anything to do with it, because you still LOOK the same! Your face is the same, isn't it? You haven't lost your eyes or your nose have you? I mean, they didn't fall off, did they? What about your ears -- do you still have two?

Believe me, you aren't ugly. The only TRULY UGLY person I've seen was OSAMA BIN LADEN and that was because his SOUL was ugly! So stop worrying. You're just as good looking as anyone else. God bless & take care. Hugs, Lee

Hi kris - to quote Jane Eyre; beauty is of little consequence. The old saying that whats within is what really matters is an old saying because its true - you could be talking to the most beautiful person in the world and their looks won't matter a jot if they are utterly vile and heartless. Im sorry if this doesn't make you feel any better but im not sure if ugliness even exists really - we all have attributes which we can either choose to play up or let us feel down. And so what if you were as beautiful as you wanted to be? I guarantee that in time you'd feel that some things could be improved or changed - we live in a society that conditions us to want the unattainable whether we are explicitly aware of it or not. But perhaps the most important thing to bear in mind is that looks don't last - whats the main ingredient that keeps couples together or friendships intact? personality, common interests - love. Love never discriminates, all of us find beauty in different things, its one of the few human experiences we all share regardless of what the mirror shows us. I wish you all the best.

[jelly-bean]

Sweetheart you are NOT ugly. I know that you say you think you are but the truth is, you are a beautiful person. It sounds like you may have been picked on by the other kids at school because of your weight. Kids can be mean and hurtful. I know that you have to believe for yourself that you are beautiful. Us telling you that might help but you have to BELIEVE it. You might want to try to get some counseling to see if you can help yourself believe. Let us know how it's going for you.

[emotionally_drained]

its what inside that counts not the out side u might think your ugly but im sure not everyone thinks that about u its the way u see your self that causes u to believe that hugs to u babe xxxx

[brackenbeard]

so much of what we hold dear is looks. it's tough to not like someone because they're attractive. but i've found the beauty beyond looks, and it is much more, much, much more amazing then any body-shape, size, or whatever. it is everything. you can have so much more with belief in yourself that life doesn't come in just degrees of beauty, it comes in deeper more complex ways. and all the reward is found beyond looks. in the way you treat others, and how they treat you, and what you can build with others. i'd take a friendship with someone who isn't the best looking person over a person who is attractive and lacks the sincerity, depth, and quality... on everyday of any week of any year.

[LiteraryLark]

Nothing wrong with Spongebob humor. He has a lesson for everything, even if it's silly.

If you can't change it, embrace it. It's all about perspective. If you know you can't change how you feel on the outside, change how you feel on the inside.

I am an ugly person too, but I'm ugly and I'm proud. I joke with friends about my looks, I share my experiences with weight gain and weight loss, and I've even gone as far as tanning and waxing to make me feel "extra pretty" on the outside. I always compare myself to other girls and think "Why do guys fall for me and not them?" Because those guys appreciate who I am on the inside, not just looks. If you can't find what you like on the outside, find what you like on the inside and keep reminding yourself that looks aren't everything.

[valyn9]

There is no one without beauty worth appreciating.

Reminds me of ...
So how can you see what your life is worth
or where your value lies
ohhhh, you can never see through the eyes of man
you must look at your life
look at your life through heaven's eyes

[Passion222]

I don't think anyone is ugly on the outside. Only on the inside. I've had boyfriends that friends thought were gross. I don't care what's outside. I know it's cliche' but beauty comes from within and it sounds like you're a amazingly beautiful person.

[rosebanks123]

It's really disappointing that people judge you on your looks.

[lastyearisblank]

You're NOT ugly. I remember seeing your photo on this site way back when (it's one of the few photos of members I've seen) and I remember thinking it was super cute!!

Originally Posted by krisakira

seriously. when I am in classrooms at school, i have thought, the reason I don't have any friends is because I am the ugliest person in the room. I know it for a fact.

There is a concept we have of physical beauty.... I'm not even going to try to ******** you on that. You know it's true and I know it's true. Everyone who is intellectual honest knows it. It's superficial though. You have two choices. Buy into the superficiality... or realize that there can be an inner beauty that is so much more important and find/develop that inner beauty in yourself. Tip: you need to let go of that superficial concept of beauty to make the inner beauty work. It isn't as simple as it sounds.

Originally Posted by krisakira

seriously. when I am in classrooms at school, i have thought, the reason I don't have any friends is because I am the ugliest person in the room. I know it for a fact.

I was the smallest kid in my classroom...everyone else was growing and I never did...

not till it was all over

I missed out on the regular 'to and fro' social crap that goes on....

I don't know what you look like but I possibly know what you feel like?

...so it's unrealistic to compete with 'the others'...according to the "SUPERFICIAL" rules of the social playground...it's been going on for so long....

I made the mistake of trying to fit in and wound up in a world of hurt for too many years vindicating myself.

I was so small I thought later that maybe them jerks were just too damn big!

...and I will fight to the death to protect the outnumbered....

what you are going through I suspect is the product of ******** in society....

I have no cliches'....

but just stick around and watch what happens to the empty popular people...

[krolex]

Kris. U are not alone. I was 215 last year and now i am 130 with an eatting disorder. Dont let anyone make u feel bad about yourself like i did. You are beautiful and not alone. If the idiots around you cannot see if then make them see if. Be the most beautiful person on the inside so they can not get to you. They say something nasty and you tell them all the good you do and how people like them are the real ugly ones. And someday it will show for them. Be happy and be strong. School doesnt matter i a few years anyway. Freshman 15 will get everyone who says anything about your weight. I know this for a fact.

((((((((Krisakira)))))))

How I look is something I struggle with too; it can be difficult.

Whenever I am feeling self-conscious but also not overly hopeless enough that all I can see and think are negative things, I tell myself that whatever is wrong about my looks (there's a lot I hate) it's not the worst thing a person can be.

A quote from J. K. Rowling (I don't read her books but oh well )

'Fat’ is usually the first insult a girl throws at another girl when she wants to hurt her. I mean, is ‘fat’ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is ‘fat’ worse than ‘vindictive’, ‘jealous’, ‘shallow’, ‘vain’, ‘boring’ or ‘cruel’?