[ozzie]

Have you ever been treated as if you are a "botheration"? Maybe you've felt as if you are a "botheration", I sure have and it doesn't feel good!!!

I absolutely hate the feeling I have when someone acts like it is an intrusion in their space for me to speak to them, ask a question or simply come into the same room. I can't put my finger on the feeling or feelings at the time but later, I know I felt hurt and then angry.

People who treat others as if they are totally insignificant and unimportant really need to be locked in a pit together for eternity, in my opinion. I guess you can tell I'm angry grrrrrr.................. Some of these people then wonder why you prefer to spend your time on the computer grrrrrrr..........
I can only wish them a brain.

[bebop]

oh hon I know that feeling well!!!

[SweetSunshine]

Ozzie I know .. and understand that one. Not too many treat me that way for the most part .. they see me as a good person and outgoing and fun . But a few choose to turn their cheek to seeing that part of me. I say its their loss not mine! Hold your chin up high Ozzie! Your a good Lady and deserve respect, love and validation just as we all do! If you cant get it there .. come here ..you know you can get it here right?

Luv ya!
Hugz~
Bethy

[mymindistoast]

Ugh, I think I do that to people, sometimes, Ozzie.

It's during those phases when Im so full of self-loathing that I need to be alone and don't want anyone seeing me in that state. Well, I think that's what it might be, anyway.

Sometimes I feel as though I am allergic to company.

Have you pointed this out to the ones who have treated you poorly, later on?

Do I treat people as "botherants"?

I do that to people, but then get extreeeeeemely angry when someone does it to me.

Sometimes I wish we were just a bunch of bi-pedal ants. No emotions. Well, I assume ants don't have them. Anyway, I'm sorry that you've been treated like that, Ozzie.

Now leave me alone!

-just joking.

-Ray

[Lexicon78]

The only people that I talk to offline are pretty much my dad and my bf...the rest are all online!

I completely agree with ya, Ozzie!

[January]

((((((((((( Susan ))))))))))))

I know that feeling so well. I'm so sorry it is happening to you.

Hugs,

Jan

[darkeyes]

Sounds like the way my husband and son react often, if I start a conversation, but yet it is okay if I am doing something and they interrupt my concentration, grrrrrrrrr!
Or like the attitude, that "I should know that", when I ask a question.
Sooooooooooooooooooooo, I hit the computer, surf the net or come here, my social life.
Love y'all,
Roe

BTW
It's so funny when I give them the same treatment, LOL!!!
Yep, when the tables are turned, they sure do whine, tee hee tee hee!!

[SeptemberMorn]

{{{{{{{{{{Susan}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

Why do you think I sent Jerry packing??

[(JD)]

Maybe it's a good thing I m not married...I'd be hiding mood pills in their food ppl! Don't stand for such...are they adults or not??? Why be mother? grrr sorry. T says med? maybe is making me disgusted with life and all things in it. grrrrr I'll shut up now.

[SeptemberMorn]

No, you're right on, Sky! Like I said, I sent Jerry packing because of that same treatment. Who needs it?? Who needs a husband... especially when you have a dog! LOL

[Maven]

I feel like that a lot with my bf. He gets on his computer as soon as he comes home to play games, do online puzzles, or check out websites, and if I go over to him, even if it's just to ask something, sometimes he acts like I'm a problem. I know one can get into games and stuff, but I need information sometimes, and I want to talk to someone in RL sometimes. He doesn't always speak in irrated tones; sometimes he ignores me completely.

Sometimes he'll speak to me. Today, we were joking a bit, and then, out of the blue, he says, "By the way, you're using way too much paper towels." I feel like crap about how I am with my OCD, but I don't need him to tell me that. I try to be sensitive in saying things to him that he needs to know.

[PsychStudent74]

I hate when pple are like that and you seem like to sweet of a person to have to put up w/ it. I learned if you confront the person right at that moment they are acting like that they usually change their attitude. Pple who do this are not use to being confronted by their actions. Stand up for yourself and don't take anything less than what you exspect you deserve. If it's someone close to you that you love I would say something like "Are you ok? You are acting like something is wrong". If it's just someone you are a aquantints (ms?) with then you don't HAVE to be so nice. Say something like "Do you have a problem?" I like to say that if someone is rude w/ me! If you let pple walk on ya they are going to I promise. Thats why I like PC, you all are soooo nice! Hope everything works out for you OZZIE!

(((((((((OZZIE))))))))

[eskielover]

Ozzie,

I can somewhat relate to the "botheration" feelings, only in my case, I always get the feeling that I just plain "don't exist". Being ignored & treated as if I am not even there when around some people.......that is what really bothers me. Sometimes I wish I could move up to the state of being a "botheration".....at least then, they know you are there.

Debbie

being ignored is a huge trigger for me actually. So i can relate.

[dreaming2fly]

ive had it done to me so so often.. it makes me feel so so awfully alone.. its like i have the plauge or something.. or that i have this huge sticker on me that says HATE ME PLEASE but i dont.. i just dont understand it.. i so bad deep in my heart just want to be loved like others are but i am not the type that will fall down on my knees and beg for it.. nor am i the type to go seeking for the attention.. i am just quiet.. and i guess since mama's passing away last year i have withdrawn even more inside myself.. but it doesnt mean i dont want to be loved by others anymore.. im just scared.. my T recently does not offer anymore hugs.. after 4 years of ther*py together.. at first she taught me how important they were and gave them freely all the time and then just cut them off about 4 months ago.. i realized something was wrong when i asked if i could give her a hug bye after session and she hesitated and said "oh just a quick one".. she said its not me but something else.. after she explained her reason i still dont buy it.. i still feel like its me.. like i did something..
but still others around me.. even places i enter online treat me as if im something to be ignored or not wanted.. i dont know what i do.. i try to talk.. but its so hard to let out whats inside.. its so hard to trust.. all ive been doing lately is just sleeping to try to hide from everything so i dont think as much..
im so sorry you feel the way you do.. many safe hugs to you if its ok.. i know that feeling all too well and it doesnt feel good..
(((((((((((((ozzie)))))))))))))))))

Kat

[Sabrina]

I wish I didn't have to, but I really identify with this thread

[Fuzzybear]

Ugh. I can relate too GGGRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR!!!

[hillbunnyb]

Ozzie, another reason I live with bunnies!!!.......

[walkswithspiritbear]

(((((((Ozzie)))))))))
Know too well that feeling.................shall we all start digging that hole?

[SeptemberMorn]

No, no digging holes. That's what this place is for, to give and receive what we don't get in 3D. We also need to give ourselves what we don't get from others. We need to be "selfish" if you will. We need to treat ourselves the way we want others to treat us.

After 30 yrs of wanting, needing and not getting the validation from the man I married, I've finally decided to get him completely out of my life because no matter how I try to hang on to who I know I really am, his treatment of me sabotages every aspect of my life. There comes a time when you just have to cut those people out of your life and give yourself the things you need and want.

[PsychStudent74]

[ozzie]

Thanks everyone for your replies. They've been really interesting and helpful to read.

I weigh the pros and cons on a regular basis to help me decide if staying in the relationship is still what's best for me. I've been doing this for many years and even though there are still several cons, I believe the benefits far outweigh the negative stuff.

I hope it's ok to vent about the negative when it occurs. Talking about it helps me get past the hurt and anger and get on with my positive self talk.

You guys are the best. Thanks again. Susan