[Bathony]

My former employer sent me a message that his expensive wine opener is missing. I totally do not remember it and obviously did not steal it. Who would steal a fancy wine opener, when he had money in the kitchen. Hehas just told me to think harder where I put it because his next step is reporting it missing. I am damn sure he just wants to discredit me. A maid must be stealing, right. I cannot defend myself, since I am in Poland and he in Norway. It is a word against a word and his word is more important in Norway cos he works for their king. I sent a message to the Norwegian au pair agency, asking for help. This wine opener costs 40 US dollars. Would that make the Norwegian police do sth to me or would they use Polish police against me? I do not want the Norwegians to think I am a thief. I want to find another family in Norway, so I cannot be a criminal. I am both upset and angry. I could buy him this ****ing ****ing ****ing wine opener but I am not guilty.

I love Girl with the Pearl Earring and when I was in Norway, I imagined I am like her, you know, cleaning the house and living among people of a different religion. Now I was, like her, accused of stealing.

[shezbut]

That is an awfully tricky situation. And it really stinks that he is unwilling to accept what you say as the truth! Has he always been a jerk, or is this attack highly unusual? Just curious if chances are high that he's made similar assumptions towards previous staff that he employed. If so, that would make the list of possible thieves larger.

If this behavior is entirely new and highly unusual...hopefully, he'll calm down soon and see the wine bottle opener right before his eyes in some strange spot.

Either way, I hope that this mess is figured out soon and you aren't blamed & assumed guilty for stealing. You deserve to be treated better than this! * I hope that things settle down for you soon *

[Bathony]

Originally Posted by shezbut

That is an awfully tricky situation. And it really stinks that he is unwilling to accept what you say as the truth! Has he always been a jerk, or is this attack highly unusual? Just curious if chances are high that he's made similar assumptions towards previous staff that he employed. If so, that would make the list of possible thieves larger.

If this behavior is entirely new and highly unusual...hopefully, he'll calm down soon and see the wine bottle opener right before his eyes in some strange spot.

Either way, I hope that this mess is figured out soon and you aren't blamed & assumed guilty for stealing. You deserve to be treated better than this! * I hope that things settle down for you soon *

I worked as an au pair, so I would be the only suspect. He has always been a ****ing jerk- he really took his time to send me my payment, like over a month of delay. He told me I cannot do anything in the house and that I am unwilling to learn. He said the children do not like me because I have angry black eyes. He bought me the tickert for a plane that leaves from the Rygge airport which is far from Oslo. I had like 30 kg of luggage and it is a ****ing winter, so I asked his ex father in law to drive me there. He agreed but the next day, when I was about to leave, he changed his mind 'because Krisitian said I have to take the bus'. I did not know he takes orders from his ex son in law, so I asked if he really cannot help me and he said no cos it was 10 am and he already started drinking. Therefore I spent the whole day travelling through ****ing Norway, wasting my money and my time. It took two buses and one train. Moreover, I discovered he bought the ticket that included 15 kg of luggage and my suitcase was like 20. He knew that because he had bought the ticket to Norway as well. So there I am at the airport, calling him, explaining the issue and when I finished, he didn't say anything. I heard the background voices but he did not say a word. I was like 'hello, heeelooo', finally hang up. The agency apologised to me for his behaviour, now I hope they will take my side. Wine opener, **** me. No, **** him.

I wouldn't send him one red cent ... That would be admitting guilt.

I doubt seriously that there would be any legal consequences over a frickin' $40.00 wine opener ... He's just trying to be a bully so call him on his bluff ... Tell him you didn't take his frickin' wine opener and that if he wants to waste his time and money trying to make a case out of it, to go right ahead that you've got more important things to tend to.

Those kinds of people make me so I could spit nails ... !!!

By the way, I quit a job over 50 cents one time ... I will not work for any asstwit that doesn't trust me ... It's the principal of the thing.