[Suki22]

well, I guess I do. I hate myself. I binged today and bought a pack of smokes. I shouldn't be eating crap and smoking. I see photos on FB of lovely families and it makes me sad that will never be me. why can't I relive my life and make better choices the second time around? I'll be lucky if I find a guy at this point. *end of rant*

[IowaFarmGal]

Hi (((Suki)))! I hope someone nice comes into your life. I struggle with the emotional eating too. I'm pushing 60 so I guess that phase of my life is done. Never was a good experience anyway. I hope that's not the case with you.

[shezbut]

That was a short rant, Suki. You ought to read my rants! LOL

Things always look better from the outside. Who knows? Maybe people are looking at you and envying the life that you live!

Remember (from DBT) to take things in the moment. If you're feeling down on yourself, what's the right thing to do? Bring in more healthy, positive experiences for yourself to enjoy. Whether it be a good movie, a nice & relaxing bath, taking a small trip, picking up a new enjoyable task will provide some relaxation for you. Try not kick yourself for mistakes made in the past...just pick up where you left off and keep on going. You can do it!

Gentle hugs to you....

[LadyShadow]

Listen to shez! (always gives great advice)

I think you will find a guy someday. I am hopeful. Because if I can find one, you can find one! Things may seem bad now, because you are in guilt mode. I know, I have been drinking a lot lately and just feeling crappy about myself.

But do something nice for yourself. I would take a nice bath and wash your hair, and make yourself feel refreshed. It may help you a lot. It does for me when I am feeling bad.

Hope you feel better soon, and remember be kind to yourself, and gentle with yourself.

There is always a better tomorrow......

[hopefulhuman]

i do the same thing. i have this fear that people want to hurt me

I have a problem with bingeing lately too. I find that going outside for a walk and some sunshine helps my mood. It burns off a few (not many) calories too. Natural sunshine and gentle exercise are great emotional healers for me. If I'm out on a walk, I like to treat myself to an unsweetened iced tea with lemon at Dunkin' Donuts! Another treat is a shopping spree at the local 99 cent store. $5 buys some fun!

[Open Eyes]

Don't go onto Facebook and look at how other people show themselves and their lives. These people put up the positive things they have and that doesnt mean they don't have problems they deal with too.

None of us can change the way we grew up or how our family life was. But that doesn't mean you have to feel "bad about yourself" for the rest of your life because there were things you didn't get.

We all seem to "believe" that there is this one way we are all supposed to experience family and childhood that we need to have in order to have value. And the people who post on facebook only post whatever they might have that can show they meet this "believed standard for personal value and happiness".

Well, just because someone might not have that "ideal picture" doesnt mean they can't have a meaningful life. Infact, often people who may seem to have that "ideal picture" often don't really have it and are not always "fulfilled".

It is more impotant that you learn what "you like" and allow yourself to "explore life" giving yourself permission to grow and learn and discover. Honestly, that is what everyone learns to do anyway, we all face challenges and we all learn all of our lives.
You can give yourself permission to be a happier person anytime, take a walk, give to yourself and find things you "like" to do, even if they are simple. Being "happy" doesn't have to mean that you need to be a part of a certain "ideal" set by others.
You can develope your own ideals and allow yourself to "be happy" if you really want to. Often our biggest obstacle in life, is "ourselves" which doesn't have to be.

Open Eyes

[mednurse80]

Originally Posted by Suki22

well, I guess I do. I hate myself. I binged today and bought a pack of smokes. I shouldn't be eating crap and smoking. I see photos on FB of lovely families and it makes me sad that will never be me. why can't I relive my life and make better choices the second time around? I'll be lucky if I find a guy at this point. *end of rant*

Hi Suki 22. You are not alone. I think we all look at other families and wish that we could relive our lives. I am going to give some advice I know I should take myself, but admit it is hard. We should accept who we are and where we came from. We can build from what we have now and make life into something that we want it to be. I know that it is important to find a companion and I believe you will...just focus on getting better so that when you meet that special person you can build that family together. Don't be so hard on yourself Everything will fall into place!

[Suki22]

thank you all so much for your kind posts! I can't tell you how much it means to me...

[Pikku Myy]

Well... just sometimes it is good to shock your system just do it only once a week ... It will speed up your metabolism Ciggies not counted...

[ACC_gal]

Originally Posted by Open Eyes

Don't go onto Facebook and look at how other people show themselves and their lives. These people put up the positive things they have and that doesnt mean they don't have problems they deal with too.

None of us can change the way we grew up or how our family life was. But that doesn't mean you have to feel "bad about yourself" for the rest of your life because there were things you didn't get.

We all seem to "believe" that there is this one way we are all supposed to experience family and childhood that we need to have in order to have value. And the people who post on facebook only post whatever they might have that can show they meet this "believed standard for personal value and happiness".

Well, just because someone might not have that "ideal picture" doesnt mean they can't have a meaningful life. Infact, often people who may seem to have that "ideal picture" often don't really have it and are not always "fulfilled".

It is more impotant that you learn what "you like" and allow yourself to "explore life" giving yourself permission to grow and learn and discover. Honestly, that is what everyone learns to do anyway, we all face challenges and we all learn all of our lives.
You can give yourself permission to be a happier person anytime, take a walk, give to yourself and find things you "like" to do, even if they are simple. Being "happy" doesn't have to mean that you need to be a part of a certain "ideal" set by others.
You can develope your own ideals and allow yourself to "be happy" if you really want to. Often our biggest obstacle in life, is "ourselves" which doesn't have to be.

Open Eyes

open eyes.. I have posted some of my medical images on FB.. but only for my freinds with similar conditions. I see some people post negative stuff on FB, especially those struggling with ACC. yep, there are more of us out there but we are a rare kind LOL.