brother got high and my parents yell at me, WTF?!

it doesnt make any sense , its really annoying and i cant take it.
2 more years to turn 18 is tooo long!!
my brother got high and kicked out for the 10th time. no suprise and like always they yell at me instead of him
and they wonder why he keeps doing it.

Sorry to hear that skanny. Hang in there! Are you the older sibling?

Do they yell at you trying to convince you NEVER to do the things that your brother is doing? Are they trying to keep you STRAIGHT so that you won't end up like him? If that's why they're yelling, they're going about it the wrong way, aren't they!

You would probably listen more intently if they just sat down with you and had a nice, calm chat about the dangers of alcohol and drugs -- am I correct?

I would HOPE that your school has already had an assembly about alcohol and drugs and talked to everybody about it, right? And now your parents are probably brow-beating you about it. I'm sorry IF that's what they're doing. It won't help if you roll your eyes at them and tell them you know ALL about it -- because you DON'T.

You DO need to listen to them, but perhaps wait until they've calmed down some. You might ask them RESPECTFULLY if they'd please calm down and then you can ALL TALK about it. Tell them you'd be happy to listen to what they have to say!! And then follow thru with it.

I wish you the very best. Please take care & God bless. Hugs, Lee

the best thing to do imo is say that you are sorry for misunderstanding and that's all i can do sorry

It is unfair. They can't talk/discuss/yell at him for some reason and you end up the scapegoat/only one left; the classic "kick the dog" scenario. See if you can feel sorry for them, not take it so personally and then it won't hurt so much. They are frightened and frustrated and taking it out on you but it is not about you so just try to smile and say, "I'm so sorry" over and over (freak them out by being kind :-)

I am sorry that you have been the target here. It sounds like your parents are just "mad" and venting and you are taking it as "them blaming you". They are probably venting at you, and it is out of "their feeling overwhelmed and confused about how to handle this".

It is "not" fair to you to be the one your parents "vent to". Your parents need "professional help" and that is what your response to them has to be when they "vent at you" like this.

The "only" way this situation can be resolved and dealt with is by your parents getting outside counceling, and your brother also getting counceling as well. This disfunction is showing this need, so my advice is for you to stand tall and when they vent at "you" demand they stop it and get help.

(((Hugs))))

im the youngest of 4, all are over 18

my school has more then 2000 people in it and about more then half get high weekly .
this is brooklyn :|

There are parents like that, and i am sorry. I agree with you, they should yell at him instead so he doesnt get the wrong message. Do you think they have other reasons for not yelling at him?

I'm sorry that you are dealing with this. It's unfair. But parents are human too. When I am scared, upset or worried, my go to reaction is yelling. Fear for your child's safety can do horrible things to a parent. It's not an excuse, just an explanation. Hopefully you have a good enough relationship to talk it out when things have calmed down.

I remember when I was 15 years old. It was fall, right after the time change. Not all of the clocks in town had been changed back yet. The curfew whistle blew every night at 9:00 pm. I left my Aunt's house to go buy myself a soda and ran into my boyfriend on the way. I bought my soda and checked the clock. 7 pm. So my boyfriend and I were driving around town, talking and listening to music. That night we saw a lot of people out driving around but thought nothing of it. A while later my grandfather flagged us down and told my boyfriend to get me home NOW!

I couldn't understand it, I wasn't late. My parents liked my boyfriend. When I got home my father was absolutely LIVID. He was screaming at me, foaming at the mouth, grounded me and sent me up to my room. I had NO idea what I had done wrong.

My father was the LT Sheriff. What I didn't know what that a convicted rapist had escaped that night from jail, he was last seen outside our town heading in. My father had called my Aunt's to tell me that he was coming to get me, not to walk home that night. When he called and discovered I was not there panic set in. When he called all over and no had seen me for over an hour... well he was concerned. So I had not done anything wrong. It was the situation and fear that upset him. He never apologized for that night. It wasn't until that particular fear for my own child gripped me that I understood that when it comes to your kids, all bets are off. Logic and reason do not enter into that equation at all.

hugs x i always got shouted at or worse for my brothers behaviour, whatever he did i got punnished, my lot were scared of my brother so took it out on me, i found keeping out of the way and doing as i was told was the only way to get through it because i soon learnt that i got punnished even more if i rebelled against the first punnishment. Two years seems like a lifetime at your age, but it will go pretty quickly. knuckle down at school and the time will soon pass until you can get the h out of there and find a safe place to live your life in peace.

Well its not fair of them to yell at you for something one of your siblings did, though I don't think yelling is good in general.