being vulnerable

I have become aware of a fear I have and it keeps me from seeking help. Perhaps because in the past (in therapy) in my vulnerable state I've been criticized, etc. I've such a hard time hearing criticism.
The fear I have is a fear of being vulnerable. And so I utilize defenses, to avoid being vulnerable and helpless.
For example, I need help getting my house in order. If I call in cleaning help my helplessness will be exposed.
I need help with parenting my kids, I need some practical strategies for letsay gettin my kid to take her baths, how to have my child stay in bed instead of coming out ten times, how to resolve some of the sibling rivalry. Ok, I've listed threee examples. For me to seek help from a professional would expose my helplessness. I hate being so vulnerable.
I feel so stuck in this position. I want help, but feeling helpless and exposed feels so painful.
Any insight-oriented advice here?
Thank you so much in advance.

Being vulnerable is hard and scary. I hope you find someone that you can open up to and be safe with.

Hi 9874,

Remember that a t's job is to help you. She/he works for you! That puts you in charge and that means you're not vulnerable. Do you see the difference?

I hope this helps at least a little bit.

My very best to you,

Jan

(Psssssssssst, 9874, being a mess is normal for therapists to see, -- they don't judge, they assist us to find new ways to look at things so we can pull it together. A good one is very good at giving new ideas for our brains to chew on and implement in our lives. ) Good Luck. ))))))) ))9874 ((((((

9874, to be honest, the feeling of vulnerability is natural for anyone, and accepting that does help alot, and by seeking proffesional help will be beneficial in the long run.

As humans, we all get "helpless" and "vulnerable" quite often in our lives, its part of life itself, it is impossible to go through life without these feelings. the thing i would suggest you do, in my opinion, is to go to a proffesional therapist/councillor and say to them how you are feeling, that you are scared etc, and they will help you progress from being afraid to being at ease with it.

Some things in life are better with help from others, it can be more fun, so dont look at needing help (with your family etc) as a bad thing, which will show your vulnerability, because it isnt.

I hope this helps, and i wish you all the best in overcoming this fear of yours.

Take care 9874, speak soon