A Reminder

PC is a self-help community for those dealing with mental health issues. PC is to give and gain support and information...to share in an ultimate common goal. Sometimes we have to look past a disagreement, harsh word, misunderstanding, or flat out just not liking someone to keep that common goal within our sights...for OURSELVES as well as those we care for.

When we act/react on the public forums, it affects potentially the entire community. Let's remember that while we might be reacting to one or two, we're affecting MANY more than that when we act it out in public.

Moderators and Adminstrators are volunteers who care about PC and its members. We're human, fallible; mostly we care. We will do what we can, when we can. Alot of the responsibility of the forums running smoothly lies in the individual members hands, though...literally at our fingertips.

A reminder about what PC is about, why most of us are here, and how it should be obtained...


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Inappropriate Content

This is, first and foremost, a self-help support community. That means if your message (post or PM) isn't about offering support to another person or asking for it, it's potentially not appropriate for our community.

Thank you Kim
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This is, first and foremost, a self-help support community. That means if your message (post or PM) isn't about offering support to another person or asking for it, it's potentially not appropriate for our community.

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This is, first and foremost, a self-help support community. That means if your message (post or PM) isn't about offering support to another person or asking for it, it's potentially not appropriate for our community.

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I am soooooo glad you included PM's... because it is important that the pm's be supportive too and not used in a way to hurt or vent or strike out at folks in private.......

Good point, RF. Thank you for that.

I want members to remember that if they receive a PM that's inappropriate not to hesitate to contact a member of the administrative team and place the member on ignore if necessary. It's a good tool to help us to obtain our goals while here at PC.

KD

Thanks all.

You know, we all may take different roads to get where we're going, but that's ok! I think most of us share that same end destination, and how cool is it to talk about our individual journeys while we're on our way.

It's almost like knowing where we want to go, most of us sharing that destiniation, then communicating by walkie-talkies as we go. Just because I don't see/feel/hear what you're explaining to me, doesn't mean you don't see/feel/hear it. Also, you might feel your way a MUCH better way to go. That's OK! I've started the path I'm on and have to continue it for at least a little while, so my experience might be completely different from yours, but I'm aiming for that same place still...that goal.

KD

Thank you Kimmy for posting this message to remind everyone of the guidelines and rules of the forum. Doing this makes it a much safer place for everyone......Thank you

Problem is there have been several reminders from mods etc, but this doesn't stop people from continuing to send harsh pms and post hurtful threads. Not quite in the spirit of self-help and helping others, is it.

I have been away from here for several weeks & come back to ????? I have no idea what has been going on here, but looking over some of the posts, I realize that something has been going on.

When this happens, I am very afraid to post to almost everyone. I have a fear that even though I may post what I think is supportive, not knowing what has been going on, it is hard to tell how my post might be taken no matter how careful I am.

I know that this has happened quite a few times over the time I have been here & things always seem to calm down.....but coming back in here during a problem time makes me feel afraid to say anything without doing alot of reading of past posts & even then, it is difficult.

Hope things will work out as they normally do....hoping it is only another wave that PC is going through.
Debbie

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I am very afraid to post to almost everyone. I have a fear that even though I may post what I think is supportive, not knowing what has been going on, it is hard to tell how my post might be taken no matter how careful I am.

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These are my personal FEARS as well....

Hi:

Maybe it would help to have a discussion about what 'support' is = looks like to people.

For me, for instancee, I appreciate hugs, etc., but I also like to be gently and respectfully challenged on what might be some twisted thinking on my part and suggestions for how I may 'untwist' those thoughts, or I might like to be reminded that I may be taking something personally or making assumptions instead of operating on facts, etc..

Others may feel too vulnerable at a given time, (which I understand and feel, too, when I'm really depressed, etc.), to want any type of challenge, etc., no matter how gently delivered. At those time, I might say at the top of my post: "I'm feeling especially vulnerable today; maybe just gently words if you've got 'em to spare" (or something like that).

There's a saying: "Support without recovery is merely enabling." [Joy Jensen}. I think there is something to be said for that in the sense that unless one is fragile or feels not up to it at a given time, or whatever, and is able to say so, perhaps tools like not taking things personally, etc., can be emphasized, along with allowing folks to give feedback as long as they do it with respect for the other person, etc..

I think this would cut down on the passive-aggressive stuff going on in peoples' posts, (because they have been forced to squelch anger, etc., and may feel unheard). This is kind of a different issue that goes to conflict resolution and an emphasis on how to do that (also with respect and 'rules of engagement'), but the issues all seem to be tied in together.

Anyhoo, just my opinion...

Thank you for considering my thoughts on this...

Respectfully,

Peanut

Awesome, wonderful, splendid post

With much respect,
Fuzzy

((((((Sweet Fuzzy)))))...

(((((((Peanut)))))))

I think you've made some excellent points!



Love,
Sujin

Thank you Kimmydawn, for posting this and for everything you do.

Love,
Sujin

I want to thank everyone for their responses and the feeback, along with some great advice for us to consider (us being all of us).

KD