[Mystry]

everyone here has a doctor of some kind or another...
has anyone actually found answers to why it is that we can't sustain ourselves for more than a few days at a time?

I was curious is all...

I only go to my doc every 6 mos. I have to because I take "controlled substances" & she needs to keep records for the state that say I'm not abusing them. I have felt really well for about 4 yrs. now after getting on the correct meds. I discontinued therapy when I started to feel better. I really don't need to see any docs now, except for the necessary record keeping of the drugs I take. I know I'm very lucky to be doing so well. From the support groups I go to, most of the people are still cycling (bp) despite meds. I also have made my environment as stress-free as possible & have a very supportive husband. Though now he sometimes forgets I even have bp.

My mother had bp & had ECT & a bunch of meds, but she wasn't able to get stable & committed suicide when I was 15 so I know how serious mental illness can be.

[Rhapsody]

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Mystry said:
everyone here has a doctor of some kind or another...
has anyone actually found answers to why it is that we can't sustain ourselves
for more than a few days at a time?

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Unresolved wounds that are still being resonated from within us.... therefore controlling us at every corner and every turn, both physically & mentally.... and lets not forget those darn emotions.

LoVe,
Rhapsody - (((( hugs ))))

[eskielover]

I went through a period of time where I wasn't even able to "sustain" myself for even an hour at a time. As time went by & the years went by, I was able to distance myself from the situation that caused my problem. I even thought that I might be at a point where I could find a new path/career for my future. I thought things were going fine, but then little things would happen & I would realize that my feelings of depression would return.....not often, but there were times that I realized it wasn't all over like I thought it was.

I have asked the similar question. Why if it was a situation that caused my anxiety attacks/depression didn't it go away when the situation no longer bothered me?. How can a situation cause a chemical imbalance in the mind where they think meds will help? Then came the question as to why meds didn't work & if meds didn't work did that mean there wasn't really a chemical imbalance to correct?

I found that when I was able to control my life around me, things seemed to smooth out & I was able to sustain myself for quite a long time.

Then hit a completely new situation.......a trauma that I lived through but wondered if I might not be harmed or even killed by the person.......a whole new situation & a whole set of different symptoms to have to deal with. I wonder if I hadn't previously gone through the anxiety & depression if I might not have reacted the way I did to the trauma I lived through, but now, again, sustaining myself for more that a few days has become difficult again. I have asked the questions as to why is this happening to me & why am I experiencing the things that I am going through.......but no one seems to have the answers to my questions. I am hoping that with time, the flashbacks & the feelings I am experiencing will somewhat fade into a past that doesn't haunt me.

I don't think that Dr's can answer that question because it is different for each person.
Debbie

Yup for me it is called having separated memories stored at my unconscious level so that when ever I got upset by the least little thing I floated off to la la land and the memories got acted ou (this is called having DID) and having depressiont. With therapy, reseach and actively using the tools such as depression management classes, doing workbooks, journaling, artwork and othe therapy based projects gears for taking care of my DID and depression that I was and am being taught I am able to Sustain as you call it to where I am not having a problem every few days of my life.

For me its just a matter knowing that therapy is not meant for only the therapy room. Therapy is meant to be brought out of the therapy room and applied to my life outside of the therapy room to help me make my life better. Tools like therapy meds and so on are well and good but do no good if not used right. By my using them for how they are supposed to be used - not only in the therapy room I can and do have a better life.

[Beautiful_Pain]

Hmm, I'm not sure I know what you mean?

Sorry didn't mean to confuse you.

original queston -

everyone here has a doctor of some kind or another...
has anyone actually found answers to why it is that we can't sustain ourselves for more than a few days at a time?

To me thats asking if anyone has found out why they are not able to go for more than a few days without problems.

My answer cut to the quick is -

yes
the answer to the question is that I have DID and Depression.

Then I added that by working in therapy and applying what I was learning in therapy, to my life outside of therapy I no longer experience problems every few days. I can now go for longer spaces of time - months and years without problems.

[Beautiful_Pain]

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To me thats asking if anyone has found out why they are not able to go for more than a few days without problems.

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Oh, I didn't know what Mystry meant by sustaining..you didn't confuse me at all =)

Now I'll have to think about it so I can answer lol

[Rebel74]

I still don't think I totally understand what you mean. I guess it depends on what you call "problems" or "sustaining oneself". I for one am able to lead a pretty "normal" life - most people I interact with probably wouldn't think there was anything wrong with me... but inside my own head I have pretty bad self esteem, am unrealistically afraid of failure, and basically carry around fear physically (tense shoulders, etc). Those are not good feelings!!!

Since the root causes of why I feel this way started in my early early childhood - I've just grown up with this negativity *in* me. Yeah, I can learn about how to have good mental health while in therapy - but that's just an hour a week. If you add up how many hours I've spent telling myself really unhelpful things over the past 25+ years... a few hours of therapy don't even come close to the same level of impact. It's just unrealistic to think I'm going to be sustain a completely peachy-keen & emotionally healthy attitude all week, after just an hour's worth of therapy.

So that's why I look for other sources of support - books, this website etc.

Does that answer your question?

[wi_fighter]

Lyle, I'm not quite sure what you mean. Are you referring to just mental health doctors, or doctors of all kinds?

I find when I don't have any kind of medical coverage I'm more likely to push through my problems on my own, since running to the doctor and possibly being admitted for a few days isn't a financial option. I think it's really easy to use good insurance coverage as a crutch. Why struggle on your own for 72 hours when you can run to the doctor, get on some otherwise expensive drugs, get locked up in a psych ward away from your daily problems and only pay a small co-pay?

Then again, I'm fortunate enough to not have a serious enough form of my illness to warrant admission on a regular basis, even if I did have cushy health coverage, so I can only speak for myself.

As far as medical issues, it's a little tricky to treat something that needs pharmaceutical-grade medication with over-the-counter options, i.e. infections.

[Lexicon78]

Actually unlike some of the people, I can go for a week or so without problems and then that's when I have to worry.

Maybe it's the severity of the depression or other illness that someone suffers from that prevents this?