rejection

Some of you know that I applied to graduate school in psychology. Anyway, I got my first rejection letter yesterday. It was from the school that I most wanted to go to and where I thought that I had the best chance. They didn't even call me for an interview. Yesterday I was in shock. Today it hurts. I never really thought that any of these schools would give me a second look anyway, but I have been worried about how I would deal with being rejected.

I have applications at two other schools, and would be thrilled to go to either one of them, but one of my professors has told me that there is almost no chance that one of those in particular will accept me. The only things I have heard from these remaining two have been notifications about other forms to fill out or that they hadn't received everything they were supposed to yet. I should have applied to more than this, but it gets expensive. There was a fourth school I was going to apply to, but decided it wasn't worth $60 to apply someplace where I knew I didn't have a chance. So I only applied where I thought I might get in. That was probably a mistake.

I'm paranoid too, thinking that they could have discovered me on this forum and found out too much about me, but I don't really think they would go to that much trouble.

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Wendy}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} I'm so sorry, Hun! Rejection always hurts, even if you expected it. Do as much as you can to not worry about another rejection.

Here's a list of cliches for you. I'm sorry that is what they are, but just like old wives tales, there's always truth in them.

Don't worry about something that may not happen.
When God closes one door, He always opens a window... or another door.
Everything happens for the best.
You're exactly where you are supposed to be.

Aahhh! Wish I could come up with something better but other than that, please know that you're in my thoughts and prayers.


"It's not what you gather, but what you scatter that tells what kind of life you have lived."

:::::::::tapping Wendy on shoulder:::::::::::: excuse me, but what is this "I never really thought that any of these schools would give me a second look anyway" comment about?

My friend, if I had half the amount of intelligence and strength of character that you do, I'd be thrilled with myself. I know that is nervousness talking, so you're forgiven.....lol.

You are such a talented person - it is THEIR loss. Like SundaysChild said, when one door closes, another one opens. You will have your chance - this I believe. And it will be even better.

I have such faith in you, Wendy. Please believe in yourself.

xoxoxoxox

Hey Wendy,

I don't want you to give up hope here. As Mary Alice pointed out, you are so incredibly intelligent, and I believe that someone is going to give you your shot. I know how much this means to you. Do you have any other options available to you? Can you still apply to some other schools? They may not be exactly what you wanted, but isn't the important thing that you get the education you seek so you can start your career? Is there anything we can do to help? A recommendation letter? I write a mean one of those

I know this hurts Wendy, and my heart goes out to you. I love you my friend. But don't let this keep you down, you're too good for that. Keep fighting and I believe you'll win in the end.

A big hug for you,
Greg

"You might as well learn to like yourself; you have an awful lot of time to spend with you."

Wow Wendy. I am disappointed with you. I hope you get into one of the schools you applied for. Do you have a second shot at it this semeseter, or will you have to wait?

I am very sorry to hear this, Wendy. It is their loss that they didn't accept you (grrrrrr!!!) and I truly believe that you will win in the end. You are a fighter, as well as very intelligent. But I understand how much this hurts. Please know I am thinking about you.

***Hugs***
Fuzzy

Thank-you Sundayschild. Yes, there is truth in old wives tales. Old wives are often very wise, and know what they are talking about. My husband has also been telling me that there is a reason for it. If it were right, then I would have gotten in. But he doesn't know if it is this year or that school that isn't right. It is the school that made the most sense. There was a job open in that city last month that he could have easily transferred to, and we thought about doing that, as that was where I hoped to be next year. Neither of us felt right about him taking that job though. We thought maybe the timing was just not right (as I am committed to staying here to finish this semester). He didn't transfer, and now we can see that we were right about that anyway.

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{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Mary Alice}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}

You have as much intelligence and strength of character as I do. Maybe you just don't know it.

These programs are all very competitive. They have between 100 and 200 applicants every year for 5-10 slots. My grades and test scores are about average compared to the students who get accepted, but they don't stand out. And I have some things against me, such as being out of school for 12 years, being a distance student (which means that nobody really knows me), and having an F on my transcript for a project I never finished way back when.

Greg,

Thanks for the vote of confidence. I pretty much have to wait until next year to apply to any more schools, as they have application deadlines between December and January. In April the APA lists programs with spaces that have not been filled, so I can look at that and could apply to those schools, but usually they are less desirable programs.

Recommendation letters are part of the application, and I did get some that I thought were good. It's too late to add any more though, and most schools limit it to three anyway. But thanks for offering. I know that if there were anything you could do to help you would.

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Willow,

I'm glad to have you on my side. No, I don't get another shot until next year.

{{{{{{{{{{Fuzzy}}}}}}}}}}}

I don't know how much of a fighter I am, but hopefully it will work out for the best somehow. Thanks for your thoughts. It helps to have friends to share the disappoint with. I just would rather share happiness instead.