[mssumom]

It is a really bad night tonight......bad scene with my exhusband and I just don't know what it will take to actually get him out of my life. I sometimes struggle with what it will take to get relief but know that to give in to the pain and hopelessness would be letting him win.

[Rhapsody]

((((((( hugs ))))))) - I am sorry that you are having such a hard time with the one person that used to be the apple of your eye and love of your heart.... what do YOU personally need to do to be able to let go and move forward?


LoVe,
Rhapsody -

[tiger78]

Having gone through a painful divorce you have my thoughts and hugs and best wishes. You are right not to give him any more power than he has - can you talk to someone about the situation? Time does help.... I promise!!!!! You hang in there !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[Beautiful_Pain]

I'm so sorry you've had a bad night. =( I hope you get things worked out so you feel more stable. {{{hugs if ok}}}

[mssumom]

Thanks for the good thoughts and hugs......pc friends have become the greatest part of everyday for me. I've never felt such genuine support.
5yrs after my divorce there doesn't seem to be alot of progress.....sometimes I think there is and then he will have one of his fits and it just gets bad. I find myself hiding out in my house or trying to make sure I get home before dark. I had to go out of town for an attorney the last time I tried to get help because of the small town system in place here where he belongs to the country club with them, golf, poker.....you name it. I've come to believe that a "protection order" is just words on a paper.
anyway, I've gone on long enough.....thanks to each of you for your support (((((hugs)))))

[desirae]

You're right about hopelessness and allowing him to win. I already sense your strength, and I hope that's what it takes to get you through this. ((((((mssumom)))))))

[mssumom]

Thanks Desirae ((((hugs)))).......strength is what I need. I doubt if he is awake worrying and fearful at 4am again today. Work and everything else in my life is suffering from this.
Anyway, I appreciate the support (((((Desirae)))))

[enigma17]

((((((mssumom)))))))

You are my closest friend here at PC and I feel ashamed of myself because we missed talking today so I just PMed you whining about my silly little leg injuries, THEN found this thread and discovered what a tough time you're having. I'm sorry, Sweetie. I want to be and am here for you. I have personally been through some of what you have with your ex-husband, but I also worked as a Paralegal in three firms over twelve years, always in the domestic (divorce, domestic abuse, child custody, adoption, child support and domestic mediation) division at each firm. I can't practice law, but I can share personal, practical recollections based upon what I've seen work and not work with regard to domestic situations.

I love you, Girl.

L

[mssumom]

I just sent you a PM also and was glancing through things before I have to get out the door to work. I felt an instant acceptance here at PC the first time I came on here and you have been great. I look forward to our first official chat session!
Hang in there, those are no "silly little leg injuiries" to be messed with. Take care of yourself today.

(((((Laura)))))


Lori

[JustAPixie]

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