[SweetSunshine]

This week is going to be h*ll. My brother in law is having open heart surgery on Thursday. I am so upset with this family ( my husbands)right now. He took off 3 days of work. And they knew it to go down for when his brother has tests done on Wednesday and the surgery on Thursday and then he wanted to stick around for Friday too just in case. He had told his parents that he was planning on going down with his sister. She didnt ask him to come with her.. He just thought they would go together. So I told them that I wuold take my husband to meet them and hour north of here so they could take the route they are used to taking down there. She wont even consider it. She is telling him to come down later on on Wednesday and by himself!!!!! Why is it they dont want him there the same time they are going to be there? And now they told me that I should come along with him. Knowing I cant. Because I have to be here for my dad and also we have no one to take care of our dog. She is used to either us or my husbands parents and brother to take care of her when either of us are away. Is not that I DONT Want to be there. They just expect you to do what they want you to do when they want you to do it!. I dont know how this is going to go down. But I hope they get there heads out of their butts soon. This is getting old. I'm sick of it.

I am also worried about Jenn MP and Mystry. Has anyone seen Mystry at all around here? I havent seen him online since last Saturday. And his last post here was Wednesday which doesnt seem long I know. But his sister said that he moved out. This is not good. He wasnt doing well at the time.

JennMP needs our thoughts and prayers..good vibes. I cant say anything else. Just keep her in your heart.

And this death in my family has got me all down and out too. I dont understand the military and how they can treat a person this way. She was such a beautiful young woman. I hadnt cried so hard since my nephew died 10 yrs ago at a funeral.

Can I go hide in a hole please?

[(JD)]

I'm sorry this will be a tough week for you. I wish you could find out what information you need, aside from the rest of the family, and see what plans YOU can make for you. Family has it's dynamics, you know? Unless they are in therapy to improve themselves, odds are they aren't ever going to change. What can change, since you are the observant one, is you and how you choose to allow them to affect you (or not.)

It isn't "fair." It's tough when it's family, imo, because we think they "should" love us and respect us...we're family!

You don't need to go into a hole. I hope you can release the anger, and go on with the true mourning... take care ((((hugs))))

[SeptemberMorn]

Beth, my suggestion is to not even think of what your in-laws want you to do. You do what YOU need to do. Hold your boundaries and let them deal. Your hubby should go down when HE feels he wants to be there. I don't know what it is with family that think they can dictate to you what you can and can't do! {{{{{{{{{Beth}}}}}}}}}}}}

Jenn and Mystry will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Take care of YOU, Girl! Ok?

[Bethsway]

You are in my thoughts...and Jenn and mystery too...((((((((((hugs))))))))))))) to you...

[JustAPixie]

((((((((( tryin2beme )))))))))

It sounds like you are standing at the gates of hell this week!!! I hope all goes well with your brother, I can't imagine the stress you are under!

[SweetSunshine]

Thanks everyone.. Well my husband and I decided that we are going to go down to Columbus together. We are leaving Wednesday afternoon and coming back late Thursday night unless something goes wrong . I am trying to find someone to watch my dog till we get back. I called my friend to see if her daughter would be interested or not. I havent heard back from them yet . And as a back up I asked my other friend to see if her sons would mind if my other friends daughter cant do it . She said they would not mind . So I at least got it covered. The only good thing is if my first friends daughter can do it is that she will be staying here with her. My dog is not used to a kennel. Never has been in one since we 've had her for almost 12 yrs now. My husbands parents and brother have always watched her. So this is something new for all of us.