According to this article, I have lots of emotional intelligence. But, I have not found that to be true. Socially, I am a failure.

What are your thoughts on "emotional intelligence?" Do you really have it?

Dr. Susan Albers: Emotional Intelligence 2.0: Learning the Art of Self-Awareness

[healingme4me]

One of my Honors Management Classes, for my degree, was Introspection. I obtained a 4.0. I'd say, my EI, is high. This article, speaks to that class, I took.

[Travelinglady]

I think I score fairly high on it. I was going through my books the other day and saw I have one on it. One of these days I will read it and maybe find out whether I am right in my thinking.

[krisakira]

I am having a problem with them equating emotional intelligence to simply being very emotional. I am intelligent in knowing my emotions and being mindful about them, and understanding other peoples' emotions. However, because of my mental illnesses I do have a great deal of emotions, often extreme. This is not my fault, but my brain's fault. I am able to accept the emotions and not react based on them, though. I think that should be what emotional intelligence should be about.

[Pikku Myy]

Have none.............

[LavenderFruitNinja]

Well, I've heard of it, but it's just a bit confusing to me. I've always scored really lowly on EI tests.

[KristyGirl7]

Originally Posted by unguy

According to this article, I have lots of emotional intelligence. But, I have not found that to be true. Socially, I am a failure.

What are your thoughts on "emotional intelligence?" Do you really have it?

Dr. Susan Albers: Emotional Intelligence 2.0: Learning the Art of Self-Awareness

I am defining "emotional intelligence" as this: when someone feels: me, me, it should all be about me... all the attention should be on me, whatever is going on should be for my benefit... it's an emotional child.
When someone feels that he wants others to be happy, to find some compromise in the situation, then this person is emotionally more mature (aka: intelligent).

Understanding is the sign of intelligence. So, when you emotionally understand what's going on and seek the best under the circumstances for all concerned, then that's emotional intelligence. I think I have it in some areas, and don't have it in others. Or maybe it's not about having or not having, it's about being a child emotionally or being an adult about it.

I find "emotional intelligence" to be an oxymoron. People who are cruel and who have no emotional intelligence are very successful. Me, on the other hand, who tried to do the right thing, has suffered and continues to suffer socially and emotionally from rejection and loss.

[wave1]

I think people who are emotionally intelligent scare a lot of people in our society who are not in touch w/their feelings and emotions. Most people go around and don't have a clue what emotions they are experiencing or feeling hence they cant say simple things like - I feel sad or I feel angry. The fact that you are emotionally intelligent does not mean you are not able to connect socially - the key is finding other emotionally intelligent people to connect with. That's what has worked for me. People who cant talk about their feelings or emotions are going to dismiss us because it makes them uncomfortable. And oh god - the last thing someone wants to feel is a little discomfort or a little anxiety - much easier to dismiss the person and get back to their comfortable little world. My wife has done a lot of work on her emotions and feelings so we connect well. Don't give up on yourself and don't label yourself as rejected. Its the other people that have the issue not you ! they cant handle the thought of talking about their feelings and getting emotional so they shut it off as soon as it comes up. You sound pretty healthy to me. Give yourself a break and look for others who have that similar emotional intelligence and i'll bet you start making some connections.