Just got some not so shocking news.

My sisters husband called my mother telling her that he is bringing my sister home because he had found emails between her and her ex-boyfriend. I knew from the beginning my sister was marrying to escape my mothers house, and escape the court dates for the custody of her child. They were married for three months and already they are separating.

I asked my sister why she did this, her reply was she was unhappy and that she did not care and "oh well". I was shocked at her carelessness, she doesn't even feel bad.

What I'm most concerned about is of course the baby. Her husband may not have been the biological father, but he adored that baby as his own. When they came up to visit us awhile back my sister's husband told mine that he took care of the baby all the time while m sister did nothing (this was the same behavior she had when she lived with my mother that almost resulted in her having her baby kidnapped).

I'm not sure what to do, and to be honest I do care as much as I probably should. Basically all I care about fully is my own children. My mom keeps calling freaking out saying the woman that tried to kidnap him before will get him again and we will never see him again (of course she's insane).

I'm so glad I have a father for my kids, and I know for sure who he is and that he loves and cares for them. I'm also glad that my bond with my children is so strong I cannot leave them overnight at a sitters because I'd worry half to death.

I'm not sure what to do...I feel so bad for Baby Elijah.

(((desi))) I can't even begin to imagine the frustration you are going through right now. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.

Jbug

Wait, the husband is taking his wife back to her mother??? What kind of relationship is that? Ok... where do you fit in? Taking care of yourself and your child and spouse, imo.

Just be who you are, be supportive when you can and stay out of the mix when you need to. They need to work this out themselves, that your mother is dragging you into this, well, maybe she just needs some support herself.

The one that gets hurt the most out of all of this is poor baby Elijah. Their the ones who suffer.
I am sorry your sister doesn't seem to care about anybody but herself.
It will be up to your Mother and your sister's husband to make sure the baby is taken care of.
I wish you and your family all the best!!
Linda

The reason my Mom is involved is because my sister went straight from my mothers care to her husbands, she was married at 17. I always get involved because they rely on my truth and wisdom. Umlike my mom and sister I don't encourage them to do what I would benefit from myself. I told my sister last night that what I thought she did was very wrong and that she was selfish. She got butt hurt and hung up on me,but this morning she called and agreed that her behavior was not considering her son or husband. I think ultimately her husbands dumb enough to take her back. So it's all good, baby Elijah will be well taken care of with Ricki (my sisters husband) involved. I just hope they can both grow up soon.