Major Request! PLEASE!

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You know, I think we're going down a really bad path here.

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Candy, this is the second time I've seen this comment from you in a very short time. Are you thinking before you formulate these words in your head???

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Now THAT was a really supportive, calming, reasuring thing to say!

Candy, I hope that IF it happens that you have a stroke, that you will have the ability to bring up the words and make your finger do what you want them to so that you CAN "talk" about it. I sure hope you also have the presence of mind to use your trigger icon!

{{{{{{{{{{Pixie}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} You haven't said anything to trigger me, Sweety. Rest easy.

I will certainly bear your request in mind Tomi.

On another note from your original post, I have probably triggered many people by giving hugs when they weren't wanted, or by hugging the "wrong way round". Now the back to front brackets finally make sense.

Yes, many here have triggers and it would be impossible to comply with each and every one each time we post. However, if someone has such a specific trigger and asks us to try, I don't see the harm. The more a member is here, the more others read their posts and learn about them, the more visible they are to the membership and eventually others who are also active here will "learn" some of their ideosynchroncies.

IMO no one should be ashamed for making a request. But don't be upset if that request isn't quite possible. We're here for each other, and if there's a way to work through your request, in this case a trigger icon for something, then let's work through it.

That's my POV.

Using one's signature might help?

Sky said "IMO no one should be ashamed for making a request. But don't be upset if that request isn't quite possible."

I agree with this. We can make requests and those that feel they can work with it, will. However, the second sentence is just as important here, I think. Not all will see, understand, etc., the request and that should be just as acceptable.

It's good self-care to make requests for self. It's also good self-care to recognize that this is a large community and all triggers can't be avoided all of the time. It pretty much leaves our experiences at our fingertips. That's one reason I suggested a search...to help us to feel empowered in our experience here by searching keywords of our triggers that aren't obvious ones in the community.

I'll tell y'all a secret...when I first came here I was blown out of the water by a trigger word that I didn't know was present until I saw it in black and white. For a month or two, I searched that word everytime I came on. I wanted to see it on my own and searching for it was OK...but it didn't feel OK to be surprised by it. What ended up happening was that my repetitive searches for it decreased the anxiety altogether and I quit searching. I realized it wasn't used very often. The next time I saw it, it was a "start" for me, but that's all. Now? Now I have no reaction to it. It's just a suggestion in a way that we can get "creative" to help our experiences here when some to most of us have real, definite triggers. I think it's a good thing to do when we feel "triggery".

It's fine to ask for help...a good thing, in fact. It's also fine to do what we need to do individually. There's no right, wrong, better or worse here.

Online self-care is very important and we can creatively manage it with the tools we have most of the time.

KD

Kimmy, thank you for the double validation! It means a whole lot to me. There isn't a worse feeling than being discounted when you state a need or told it might be something "bad" when you ask for a little common courtesy.

I'm freaking out here and in essence I get told "get over it!"

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I started this whole thing and I don't know how to stop it.......I'm sorry I ever posted anything that caused so much trouble between people. My life has so much hurt and conflict in it that I will do what ever it takes not to cause it for someone else. I'm sorry I posted anything at all.

((((((((((( mussumom )))))))))))

You shouldn't be sorry for posting, talking about issues and sharing. That's a wonderful thing to be able to do and what we want to see here.

You keep on keeping on, OK?

We all are responsible for our own experiences and you've always done so well...very well.

PM if you want/need.

KD

(((((((((((( for everyone feeling triggered or upset ))))))))))))

I think everyone does a fine job, especially lately, of managing their own experiences here, sharing, supporting, caring.

I, for one, appreciate it.

KD

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Lori}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} You didn't start ANYTHING. Nothing that wasn't there already, ok? PLEASE don't stop asking for what you need! Don't go silent on us, PLEASE!

We shouldn't compare they say, but if I take your situation and put it next to mine, (triggers) yours needs more of the attention, ok? Now I'm feeling bad for making you feel this way! All I was thinking about was taking care of ME. There is a poster on this thread that heard it from me when she posted on the same subject... and now I get understanding and 's from her. PLEASE don't feel bad!