[linuxensis]

I've spent the past few hours really annoyed....

why?

because I have been thinking about how medical professionals always seem to single me out and abuse me.

They kind of tell me things that they'd never dare to tell others.....

For instance, I saw one about a year ago, and she asked me why I try and be even-minded. I said it was because when I was young, I was often subject to bias and domineering opinions, so I've learnt to try and be balanced. She then said "well we all suffer when young, duh.." and I never went back. The thing is, she is a child psychologist and even writes articles about a healthy environment for a child is key to life wellbeing. I literally started crying when I went home, since she's essentially telling that I am inferior and didn't deserve what is the norm in society and per her own training.

Another one told me that it's a sin to go to bars every weekend. I doubt she tells others this. And I notice they would tell some good things and not others.

I get the impression medical professionals are trying to single me out, or are too stupid to understand how they society they live in works.

[Altered Moment]

I have have heard lots of stories about bad therapists. I think some of them are not trained to well and a lot have there own serious problems. I don't think it is near as bad with psychiatrists.

Good ones are out there, you just have to find one. I doubt you are being singled out.

[Pierro]

She should not have said that to you, it's very unprofessional thing to say.

[possum220]

Welcome to PC.

I am sorry that you have had these experiences. You have every right to be annoyed. How do you know that they would never say the same things to others? The statement sound like a cliche in the first instance and a lack of empathy and the second sounds like they don't have a life. Therapists can be a strange bunch. Unfortunately you found a couple of the strange ones.
It may feel personal but it's their brand of personality conflicting what seems to be very rational and sane you.

There are good doctors and therapists and psychiatrists out there. It took me a long time to find a connection with Therapist as well as a p'doc. I knew when I had found the right ones for me because I could breathe. They make sense and they know what they are doing.

You never know...... maybe third time lucky? Please try not to let these experiences stall your progression on the road to being heard. We will always listen too. You are not alone

[winter4me]

you are not, by chance, dealing with 'professionals' with a certain religious/social bias are you? and, when you say professional---what has been their education specifically...and what do other patients (not colleague) say?--------------I think it is safe to say you are not being singled out, none of us are that unique/"chosen"---if they say it to you, they say it to others...

[Fuzzybear]

Welcome to pc

[linuxensis]

thanks for your responses everybody.

I'm not looking for sympathy, but then I seem to have bad luck in this regard.

I think I'm a bit naive in honesty, since I know in more or less all other spheres to shop around. but then to me medicine is and can be life and death, so I place higher value on their competence. I'd take poor treatment in McDs or a department store over a doctor's office.

[bachir]

First off I'd like to say to PC!

I think that's a really good point you've brought up about how much value we place on health care professionals, and they should be held to a higher standard. We are valuable human beings. So it looks like the goal is to find the ones who don't abuse this, but rather respect it and honor our trust. It doesn't seem like it should be so hard, and in my humble opinion it shouldn't be, but until all health care professionals are on the same page and can respect our trust and sincerity it would seem it makes it all the more important to find ones that are a good fit for you as it is for each of us.

I'd encourage you not to give up your search. There are good and respectful ones out there waiting to help you; ones that are willing to meet you right where you're at personally. Kuddo's to you for recognizing the kind of folks who aren't a good fit for you! Not everyone seems to recognize or honor that!

Keep up the good work!!

Originally Posted by linuxensis

thanks for your responses everybody.

I'm not looking for sympathy, but then I seem to have bad luck in this regard.

I think I'm a bit naive in honesty, since I know in more or less all other spheres to shop around. but then to me medicine is and can be life and death, so I place higher value on their competence. I'd take poor treatment in McDs or a department store over a doctor's office.

Welcome!

[Carpe_Noctem]

I've had a bad experience or two with more than 1 T. I've come to the conclusion that for the most part, when they say or do something wrong, they do it because they think it's something they can to 'push you' into 'figuring it out'. Sometimes it works, and other times its awful. You're right to be annoyed about it.

[Lady Courtesan]

Welcome to PC.

There have been countless discussions about this on PC. Don't think you are being singled out because you are treated badly. Be proactive and stop allowing them to abuse you.

The last time a doctor was rude to me, she said she was prescribing the meds I needed so I wouldn't have a bipolar meltdown. I made a formal complaint and she was disciplined by her superiors.

As a veteran, I recieve all my medical treatment at the VA hospital. I have a hearing coming up where they will decide on my benefits. I asked everyone if they thought I needed an attorney, and of course, everyone said no, it's a very informal hearing. Then I asked my patient advocate. Her answer-Absolutely! I am now searching for the right attorney.

My point-you have options available to you. You don't have to just take whatever they choose to dish out. Talk to your patient advocate-make a formal complaint. Make sure you know what your rights as a patient are.

These are not demi-gods we are talking about. They are simply humans who have a good education. And like other humans, some are good, some are great and some have chosen the wrong career. Keep searching until you find someone you are comfortable with, that is caring and that treats you with respect.

Remember-First, do no harm...

[linuxensis]

Originally Posted by possum220

Welcome to PC.

I am sorry that you have had these experiences. You have every right to be annoyed. How do you know that they would never say the same things to others? The statement sound like a cliche in the first instance and a lack of empathy and the second sounds like they don't have a life. Therapists can be a strange bunch. Unfortunately you found a couple of the strange ones.
It may feel personal but it's their brand of personality conflicting what seems to be very rational and sane you.

There are good doctors and therapists and psychiatrists out there. It took me a long time to find a connection with Therapist as well as a p'doc. I knew when I had found the right ones for me because I could breathe. They make sense and they know what they are doing.

You never know...... maybe third time lucky? Please try not to let these experiences stall your progression on the road to being heard. We will always listen too. You are not alone

No, they simply pick and choose who to treat well based on their whims/biases. Sorry, but the rule stands everybody gets equal treatment, unless anybody can say how the rule is been rescinded?

Most of them would treat a young woman better over a young man, because in their eyes females are "sweeter".

[pillar]

Sorry to hear of your experience in getting therapists that seems to put you off with such kind of a therapist abuse. Glad you chose not to continue with them. Its important to feel safe and understood when we decide to work with someone and disclose the very vulnerable side of ourselves to strangers! But there definitely are great therapists out there, and you have a choice to pick on that you feel comfortable with. Good luck!

[linuxensis]

Originally Posted by winter4me

you are not, by chance, dealing with 'professionals' with a certain religious/social bias are you? and, when you say professional---what has been their education specifically...and what do other patients (not colleague) say?--------------I think it is safe to say you are not being singled out, none of us are that unique/"chosen"---if they say it to you, they say it to others...

No in normal state/secular hospitals.....