[ThisYearsGirl]

I've been a member here a month or so now and I haven't reached out for help or shared anything because I can't figure out where to post. I don't have any particular defining issue that fits into a category and so I thought maybe this was the right forum, but the sticky at the top says most posts should fit into other forums and I should think about that first, so I keep reading that and not feeling like there's anywhere for me to post.

I'm so confused. I'm trying to be a happier person, to reach out and try to share some of my pain and journey with others who might understand, and I feel so lost. I'm on a journey of painful and positive self-discovery, taking responsibility for my life, trying to get a fuller picture of who I am and what I want and need.

Or is the board trying to get me to analyze what I want to post about to smush it into a category that will help me understand it better? So like if I'm upset about a few different things, I need to separate them and start different threads? Or is that compartmentalizing and not useful for constructive growth?

I have no idea. It's just been tough lately. Trying so hard to be happy in a new, conscious way, and it's really hard.

[Can't Stop Crying]

you are welcome to post anywhere you feel comfortable...in different forums or in a particular one....these two might be a good place to look...

Self-Help Ideas and Goal Setting - Forums at Psych Central

Coping with Emotions - Forums at Psych Central

if you just want to get familiar with other members, this is a good one...

General Social Chat - Forums at Psych Central

some members tend to stay in one forum and other members visit multiple forums...it's completely up to you....if you still are wondering, you can always check out "new posts" and see if there is a topic that interests you...good luck and welcome to Psych Central

[lizardlady]

Welcome to PC!

Personally, if I can't figure out where a post belongs I try posting it here. If it doesn't belong the mods will let me know and move it. Or you could try posting in forums that appeal to you.

You can always Personal Message any member of the Community Liaison Team for assistance.

There is a Buddhist precept that says the more you want something, the less likely it is you will ever achieve it. Might it be you are trying so hard to be happy in this new, conscious way, you are defeating your own purpose? Also, what is this "new, conscious way" you're seeking to be happy in? Can you describe it for us? I think this would be an excellent post to put in the Coping with Emotions forum:

Coping with Emotions - Forums at Psych Central

Please do not become discouraged, ThisYearsGirl. You are most welcome here, & there are many members who will be pleased to help in any way we can. PC is a great place.

[BeaFlower]

Hi ThisYearGirl. I agree with lizardlady. You can try posting here if you aren't sure. Posting in a specific forum can be useful because it's more likely that people with similar issues will see it and will can give you useful advices. But sometimes this is really the 'right' forum. And if it isn't, it will be moved by the mods. There is nothing bad in it, it happened also with one of my threads ones
Please, don't stop posting We are here for you. Hope that you can feel comfortable here

[ChipperMonkey]

Honestly I think its best if you don't post too many issues in one post. One simple issue can lead to a long discussion, but if you post many issues, then the thread can go in multiple directions. That is, I think you'll get the most out of it all if you post your separate issues in different threads. Also, this is a mental health forum and there are those of us who don't have super long attention spans, so I think its best to post a number of shorter threads versus one long thread that goes on and on and on. I know I can't be the only person who skips over the really long threads.

[ThisYearsGirl]

Thanks for your responses, guys.

[ThisYearsGirl]

Originally Posted by The Skeezyks

You can always Personal Message any member of the Community Liaison Team for assistance.

There is a Buddhist precept that says the more you want something, the less likely it is you will ever achieve it. Might it be you are trying so hard to be happy in this new, conscious way, you are defeating your own purpose? Also, what is this "new, conscious way" you're seeking to be happy in? Can you describe it for us? I think this would be an excellent post to put in the Coping with Emotions forum:

Can you explain this post? It sounds like you're making negative assumptions from one phrase that I wrote, accusing me of defeating my own purpose, and then saying it would make an excellent post for a particular forum. If just one mention of something I'm working on makes you feel I'm trying too hard and defeating myself, why on Earth would I write another post about it so you could accuse me of something else? Why on Earth would you even say anything critical about someone's commitment to happiness?

Originally Posted by ThisYearsGirl

Can you explain this post? It sounds like you're making negative assumptions from one phrase that I wrote, accusing me of defeating my own purpose, and then saying it would make an excellent post for a particular forum. If just one mention of something I'm working on makes you feel I'm trying too hard and defeating myself, why on Earth would I write another post about it so you could accuse me of something else? Why on Earth would you even say anything critical about someone's commitment to happiness?

My sincere apologies...

[ThisYearsGirl]

[vital]

Originally Posted by ThisYearsGirl

Can you explain this post? It sounds like you're making negative assumptions from one phrase that I wrote, accusing me of defeating my own purpose, and then saying it would make an excellent post for a particular forum. If just one mention of something I'm working on makes you feel I'm trying too hard and defeating myself, why on Earth would I write another post about it so you could accuse me of something else? Why on Earth would you even say anything critical about someone's commitment to happiness?

Hi ThisYearsGirl,

I hope you're not put off by Skeezyks scary looking avatar. He is actually a sweetie pie and is really helpful and knowledgable. You'll see if you stick around.

What you are doing sounds inspired to me. You want to feel better. You want to be happy. You have an open heart and and open mind. I think that you will really get somewhere like that. It's a beautiful thing.

As to where to post, I'm not sure either, but maybe "Self-Help"? Or "Other Treatments" depending on what you want to talk about?

- vital

[ThisYearsGirl]

There's a self help board? I'm a newbie so clearly having so many boards works, I just don't get it. All my problems just seem so minor compared to everyone else's and I just don't get how I fit in. I will try to figure out what to post and post something at some point....

Hi ThisYearsGirl....

Nobody's problems are "minor". Sometimes I come here and just vent, sometimes I need an outside opinion, and sometimes I need to know that I'm not alone.

It's all good.

[ThisYearsGirl]

Thanks, Sophie's Mom. So you're saying I'm not alone? I'll take that in.

[lizardlady]

Originally Posted by ThisYearsGirl

Thanks, Sophie's Mom. So you're saying I'm not alone? I'll take that in.

You are definitely not alone hon!

here is the link for the self help forum
Self-Help Ideas and Goal Setting - Forums at Psych Central

Why not click on the names of forums that appeal to you and see if that's what you are looking for? This site is HUGE, some times it takes folks awhile to find the best fit for them. Keep trying. Folks here are great!