[inkblot]

The guy is still trying to make contact with me, either by note or calling "hello" to me through my door from out in the hall. He's trying to give me the "nice guy" image now.

I talked to my kid's psychologist again about this guy and how we should plan our future visits--my place or motel, etc. He agreed that a motel is best. He's not even sure if I should be living where I am because of this guy. I'd like to move and hope that I can find someplace that I can afford. I know it would make me--and my kid's T--feel better about the situation. He also agreed with me that having the kids over to the place where I am now would be like an invitation for my neighbor to bug us. He's also thinking that a police report might be a good idea. As of yet, I haven't done it, but am still highly considering. My neighbor was pounding on my door and yelling for me at 1245am the other night for almost 15 minutes. I think he finally got the idea that I am ignoring him for a reason--that I don't want to go out with him. He sounded very frustrated and angry when he finally gave up. He then slid a note under my door a few minutes later saying that I win and that I could have been nicer. (?!?!?) I could have been nicer?! I am sure that if I answered his pounding and yelling at the door, it would have told him that is the way to get my attention and to get me to talk to him. That's not the way to do it.

[Rapunzel]

Ignoring him was exactly the right thing to do (well, or calling the police and reporting that he was making a disturbance!). I'm sorry that you have to deal with this. You're right - answering him would be taken as encouragement. He is clearly harassing you, and I hope you report the situation to the police soon. You should not have to move, but it just might be the easiest way for you to get some peace. You could try telling the landlord it's him or you - maybe the landlord will get rid of him, since he's going to keep losing renters if they have to put up with this guy as a neighbor.

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[willoughby]

Hi Inkbot
You kids psychologist had good advice. I definatly wouldn't have visits with the kids while this neighbor of yours is in the same building. I dont think you have to feel as though you have to move!!! This is what I would do. I. write a note like the doc said and tell him you no longer want him to contact you and tell him you fell like it's harrassment. In the letter tell him if it continues you will be notifying the police. 2. I would file a police report. 3. Tell the landlord. You shouldn't and dont have to put up with it. Just curious Inkblot, did you date him earlier? Keep in touch. I often think about you and this problem

"you only have one chance to make a first impression"