lets keep it real

hello to everyone,

i have been a member here since oct 2006, making it 6 months tomorrow. i have never had any complaints about this site because i have received great support from many people and have developed valuable friendships. though recently i have noticed a shift in the atmosphere. it has become more so a competition for attention. in addition to that there is a lot of hypacracy among some members. now i will not mention any names because to me it is not worth it. but i cannot keep shut about it either. so to those of you who don't care for me much and resent me for whatever reason, please do not bother to chat with me or address me in anyway as it will not affect me or my mental illness in any way. the reality is i am here because i have a mental illness not because i am seeking to be "popular", i mean lets get real this is not highschool!! in any case this post is post is not meant to offend anyone nor those involved just a warning. if you are not fond of me don't bother chatting with me, why waste your time. i wouldn't waste my time chatting and pretending to like someone i don't here on pc.

thank you all,
agony007

Hey agony,
I too have noticed a shift over the last 6 months or so here ....... I don't think we have "met" before but I tend to agree with you.... why be "friendly" if you don't like someone.... ...well I could say more but I will end this here

Maybe some members here feel ambivalent about some other members here though? Just a thought....

Take care,
Fuzzy

((((agony))))))
I will say that I have notice a difference also but only in the last few weeks.
Snow

I'm sorry you feel that way. Hope things get better for you.

Just wondering, though. If we don't chat with you, how are we going to know if we like you or not?

(((((((((agony)))))))))
I really hope it is nothing I have done.
I think you are great.
And yes there are times I can not follow what is going on.
Sometimes I joke to much, hopefully it was not that.
If so I am really sorry.

You know, I have noticed that tensions rise and fall, just like in any relationship, and in here, it is one HUGE relationship!

I need to step back a bit (just learning this one!) to re-establish my bearings, as well as my thought processes. I can so easily get carried away.

Things will calm down; they always do!

Take care,
Altered State

I appreciate all of your replies. And of course this is not intended towards people who i have never chatted with, or have chatted on one or so occassion. muffy it is definitely NOT you. you are great. you have never offended me in any way. in addition those that don't like me have not mentioned it to me directly and have done a good job at masking it up.

thanks snow,
you are one of my favorite people here in pc and i know that you would never be offensive towards me and would talk about me behind my back. ty for being a true friend.

thank you for your post. yes i do not think i have had the pleasure of chatting with you. however, the people i am referring to chat with me then turn around and talk crap about me to other people. that is what i find most insulting. that is why i am asking that they refrain from chatting with me as i will refrain from chatting with them to avoid this problem. i like honesty. i prefer for someone to tell me " hey agony i think you are full of it" or whatever it is they feel about me, than chat with me and tell me how much they like me blah blah blah... you know what i mean

some folks have a tendancey (sp) to stick close to folks they feel comfortable with or have known awhile, just sit back and wait the tension will die down, it's like a circle
Best wishes
Angie

Agony,

I can totally see your point !!!!! I value your input and your grace . I can appreciate your opinion as all opinions here are valued.

I too have experienced some tesnion in that last few weeks were IMO people have been jockeying for attention..

I feel that we all can learn from each other and build up on our relationships with each other. It is a sad thing that even away from the real world we all have to endure the high school antics

To all the people who I have been graced to meet i want to ask this one thing

can't we all just get along --- Rodney King

Tymber

Don't really know you agony...but hope things get better for you soon...I think PC is one of the best places for me and hope that you can feel that way too...despite some difficulties with a few...good luck to you!!!!!

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Unfortunately.... NO. Such a large group is very diverse and let's remember, most of us have a mental illness. For some, not being able to get along is how their illness shows for them.

As usual......

Yes, there will always be those we don't tolerate well, or don't tolerate us. In this size of a community, it's going to happen...lots even.

That's why we have good tools to work with this. Please use them.

Further, if there's continual, deliberate disruption or upset, contact a mod/admin.

Thanks,

KD

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Many of us here understand exactly what you are talking about and we are sorry that you or any other member should have to suffer more harm here at PC - the one place we often come to for support & love.... may we all learn from the mistakes made in the past and move forward, as to not let the same thing keep on happening.

For like they say: "If what YOU are doing is not working - Then try some thing NEW"

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

.... I for one am SORRY for any part I have played in this problem, and I promise to NOT let it happen again.

thanks for your post rhapsody,

you have never wronged me. and i want to take this opportunity to say :If i have ever offended anyon, i sincerely apologize because i am not here to do that.

u know i posted what i felt because i couldn't help myself and it consumed me. well i feel that someone has taken advantage of my friendship i have to say something about it. at this point i am satisfied that i let it out. those that are responsible know who they are and are welcomed to pm me about it anytime. otherwise i plan to continue my time here at pc receiving support and lending support to my many friends, and open to many more friendships to come.

-007

I wonder at times is posts like this aren't a manipulative way to round up support? I mean why not pm the person whom the problem is with?

It makes me cringe seeing posts where either one is "Oh no not you (insert yoru name here)you are a good friend" which means it must be "SOMEONE" why not just tell that someone instead of running to "teacher" to tell tales.

I have to ask myself at times weather people who post here are victims of their own thinking???

Now that is "Real"! but how "real" do people really want it? as Nietzsche said "How much truth can someone take"?????

I must be dense because I just don't "SEE" all the bickering that seems to get reported here?????? or is it all "backroom" stuff???????? oh someone sell tickets and let me have a couple LOL..

and I know whether is spelt with an "h" LOL but a gal can't think and spell at the same time LOL!

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I wonder at times is posts like this aren't a manipulative way to round up support? I mean why not pm the person whom the problem is with?

It makes me cringe seeing posts where either one is "Oh no not you (insert your name here)you are a good friend" which means it must be "SOMEONE" why not just tell that someone instead of running to "teacher" to tell tales.

I have to ask myself at times weather people who post here are victims of their own thinking???

Now that is "Real"! but how "real" do people really want it? as Nietzsche said "How much truth can someone take"?????

I must be dense because I just don't "SEE" all the bickering that seems to get reported here?????? or is it all "backroom" stuff???????? oh someone sell tickets and let me have a couple LOL..

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Many of us here have talked to the person in which the problem was with (myself being one of them)........ so NO - posting like this is not for attention - if any thing "posting" is used as a way to clear the air so the rest of us may move forward and make PC a better place to be.
... I personally use the IGNORE button now to solve this issue.

IMHO - people should not state or assume that another is doing some thing on here just for ATTENTION, for in the end they may just be wrong and then may have stirred the pot one to many times, therefore, making an enemy for no reason what so ever.

I personally do NOT think we are victims of our own thinking (well not all the time) - but rather a victim of another persons thinking..... hence the wrong assumption thing.
Some times people believe what they want about another person and all with out asking questions to find if they are right or not.

You are not dense, you may just missed some of the stuff that has others upset........ I have seen some of it, I have been a victim to some of it, I have retaliated and made another a victim it after being attacked, - BUT now I am educated on it and I have STOPPED IT!! (at least with in my self).

LoVe,
Rhapsody -

TO much drama for moi!

I know there are many strong feelings about this subject and I am sure that everyone wants to be supportive but lets make sure that is the intent of the posts. I am sure no one wants others to feel hurt or not supported by something they have said.

This is not about any one post but a general comment. Please give everyone the respect and consideration they deserve.

BB

I would like to back up what BipolarBear has said here.

If you suspect your post might feel attacking to another, or a group of others, it might be best to send it in PM to a mod/admin in the form of a concern/complaint.

KD

so many PMs.........so much left undone............

IMO

I have been at the end of some accusations that were disturbing but I felt i needed to deal with the issues within myself. I found that i can make myself a better person when i react in a civil manner . If i run out and attack another person then i committed the same act that they did.

I do not feel Agony is seeking attention what she is seeking is awareness . however we receive the awareness is to be seen...

I agree with agony on this thread and ishe is not looking for support she is secure in her points

Agony keep ya head up look at the sky and know i still have that quarter

tymber