My daughter was in the hosp.

I didn't know where to post this so I'm putting it here. This week my daughter was in the ER 3 times and finally put in the hospital. She was havin real trouble breathing. She has acid reflux, which was giving her horrible coughing fits that made her feel like she couldn't breathe, asthma and allergies. They all acted up at once. It was terrifying. After her first visit to the ER i asked my sister, who lives 15 mins away to come watch her so I could go to my counseling appt. because I was so freaked out. She said, "Ihave to clean my house. My husband's family is coming this weekend." (IT WAS tUESDAY) She told me to call someone else. Since she was he last person I call when I need help(for obvios reasons) I had to cancel my appt. When we finally ended up in the hospital, I didn't feel like I coul call her. A couple of friends brought us stuff we needed and our neighbors brought us home. We've been back now since Thursday and I'm still having a hard time. She's doing really well. Theu have her on 9 different meds. She's over a friend's house playng. I speant the da sleepig. I'm having a really hard time coping. She often goes for walks around the block and when she went this morning I was really scared. I kept thinking someone was going t take her. I have Fibrymyalgia and I'm in a lot of pain or I woul have gone with her. I need some help, guys. I'm still scared o death I'm going to lose her. I know I'm not being retional but I can't seem to relax. Any words of wisdom or just plain care and concern? Thank you! Annie

Annie,

I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. I know how scared you must be - my son is my world.

I'm also sorry that your sister wasn't more helpful. You seem to be hanging in there for your daughter's sake, but you need to take some time just for you.

If you can't reschedule your appt., try to do something you enjoy when she's sleeping at night. Even 30 mins. at a time during the day if you can manage it.

You need to make sure that you are okay - your daughter needs you. She's fine right now, so please look after yourself.

Mary Alice

Thank you both. It has worked out that I have had almost all of today by myself. I got a ton of rest. And then when I went to her friend's to pick her up they wanted her to stay overnight. What a relief. I know she'll be well taken care of there and i can take some time to just mellow out. I'm going to take her and her best friend to church in the morning. We have a lot to be greatful for, especially this week. I'm a little nervous that my sister might be at church tomorrow. I really don't want to see her. She wrote me a note telling me she was sad that I didn't tell her about my daughter. I wrote her back saying how sad I was that I felt like I couldn't. I have a standinf appt. on Wednesdays with my counselor. I also called her tonight and asked her to call me back. She might not until Monday, but at least I tried. I think I'm starting to relax a little. She's doing really well. But she's having a strange reaction to the medicine she's taking. Whenever she scratches at all, even with a brush she gets these bright red lines on her skin. I'm going to ask the pharmacist about it tomorrow. Again, Thank you so much for writing!!!! It means a ton!!!!! Annie

Soz I'm a bit late about this but I'm glad your daughter's better now and she's lucky that you love her so much, you must be a great mom to her!

RIP Dexter...

<font color=red>The best dog ever!!!</font color=red>

I am thinking of you, take good care! (I have bad allergies too, I know how scary they can be)

Hugs (if ok)
Fuzzy

Planningtoexist had some great ideas. I would take her advice. We all love our children and worry night and day about them. But it's true, we need to take care of ourselves as well so we can be there when our children need us. It's to bad about your sister. Unfortunately you cant depend on her. THis must hurt you. Take care. My daughter has asthma and alergies herself. I'm asthmatic as well and it is very scary.
Take care of yourself

"you only have one chance to make a first impression"

Annie,

I'm late with this reply as well. I know real well the helpless feeling you get when your children are sick. It makes it even harder to give them the room they need to grow. I've wrestled a lot with everyone of my kids over that very thing. All you can really do is teach them right from wrong, good from bad, and hope that they are never in the wrong place at the wrong time. Parenting isn't an easy job, but it has some wonderful rewards.

I'm really glad your little one is OK, and I hope you get to feeling better soon.

Greg

Thank you all! we are both doing well! I had a little panicky stuff going on when it was time to get ready for church, but just walked through it.

Silver, I have to ask...RIP dexter???? what's that about?

Anyway, thank you all sooo much!!!!! I love this site and the people on it.

My dog Dexter died. It's ok, I'm not predicting the death of our dexter here!

RIP Dexter...

<font color=red>The best dog ever!!!</font color=red>