Experience of being bullied?

I know someone who was suspended from teaching but the school board wanted to keep it quiet. Do you think that will change the behavior of a bully? If you don't get punished for doing something so cruel to another, how do you think anyone will learn right from wrong? Does punishment even work?

To be honest, I don't know. The topic of bullying, to me is a complicated topic.
I think schools need to talk about bullying and make it known to all students and teachers, that bullying in unacceptable. In my opinion the same should be done at work.

I was bullied and it hurt and to this day it still hurts for different reasons. I haven't forgiven my bullies ..oh how I wish I could move on and forgive them but I believe all the ppl that have hurt me have played a part in how insecure I feel today.

I truly do not know of anyone who wasn't "bullied" (by today's terms) in school... from the 50s on to now. Just because it has a new name doesn't change the facts.

IMO the "bullying" focus cannot be just about the one doing the bullying. As I said, we were all called names, pushed into a toilet stall, tripped, lied about, etc growing up... some didn't do well because of it, others let it roll off their backs like water on a duck. So we should not just give the bully what he/she wants most: attention, but also give the one being bullied the tools and skills to be able to withstand it and let it roll.

We all had different mechanisms to handle the "bully". They still work today. This is nothing new, and indeed it's worse because society as a whole is worse... but mental health support is stronger and more available than ever before also. Society has created the weak-minded person and it has also created and allowed the bully to succeed.

There are more good-natured, sociable people in the world than there are bullies. I suspect there might be the "same" number of bullies as there as mentally unable to handle life. Let's provide therapy for both.

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JD-you said "mental health support is stronger" but I don't see it at all. The person I knew had to apologize almost immediately and that helped a lot. The bully wasn't allowed to continue in their rein and the poor soul who was bullied had some self respect left to stay in the school. If he hadn't apologized, I can't imagine how the problem would fester and snowball and charges would have been filed against the school district. It was bad but would have been much worse if the bully did not apologize. I think teaching that one has to take ownership for what they have done and make amends to the individual, is one way to put a stop to it.

Was harassed in summer school and people threw paper balls at me once in high school, called me a "loner". If I'd ask them anything it'd be, why would I want to hang out with you if you're going to act like that towards me? Also, I'd rather have no friends than people who are assholes.

I hope you don't have people like that in your life anymore. Life is short and precious as it is, without needing to deal with that sort of crap.

Hello Sizzling, what do you think needs to be done to reduce or even prevent bullying from occurring?

Hello Sizzling, what do you think needs to be done to reduce or even prevent bullying from occurring?

I think parents need to teach their children kindness, sharing and generosity. It starts in the home with brothers, sisters and even parents. Children will walk all over you if you let them. Teach them at home and then move to sharing with friends and schoolmates. Teach them to help others and see the goodness in everyone. Teach your children by example.

I know most people are bullied at school i had the best time it was family that did it.my sister and my cousin never let me play me with them left me out of everything as kids.my sister said i was her adopted sister and never wanted to be around me at school. In junior high a girl beat up another girl in front of her six year old sister i told and my cousins called me a snitch at a party that my mom forced me to go to.they didnt want to play double dare cause my stupid sister had a boyfriend she didn't think i knew about so she called me a snitch. Even after i cried my eyes about that i kept her secret cause i loved her.but bullies can be anyone.not even family is excluded

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It's a good place to start but what if the parents are negative people to begin with. What about schools? What do you think they could be doing to help prevent bullying?

I'm sorry to hear about you being bullied by family. Hope your sister isn't like that towards you anymore.

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And some (me) did option number 3 - pretend like it rolled off in front of family and friends and then, when nobody is looking, brood over it and bottle it up for years, until you become an embittered and angry grown adult, seeking redemption and retribution in life. I admit, I demand satisfaction from life now in adulthood, often times more satisfaction than people, or the entire world for that matter, can possibly provide.

There is no doubt in my mind, given the right personality, IQ and lack of EQ, bullying can turn such individuals into monsters.

I for example, feel nothing most of the time. I've basically been stripped of what makes you human - proper emotions. My bullying was along the lines of emotion is a sign of weakness. So, I got rid of it, to SURVIVE.

Everything you hold dear, gets destroyed or taken from you, right before your eyes, and all you can do is absorb those blows, one after the other. You are not allowed to express your sorrow over it and you need to be strong, so you do what you have to do for that pain to no longer affect your functioning. You soon realize, in order for your heart not to get broken anymore, it's a good idea to no longer have one.

When pushed hard enough, any person can turn into an animal.

Most victims of bullying never got the chance to express and relieve themselves of the pain caused. So they just absorbed it, and it becomes part of you, it shapes you into who you are today.

I was bullied a lot though high school.

With the years I learned to laugh at myself. That way, when it happens, I automatically "win". I do not give importance to the mocking, I get entertained and I create a bond with the people at the same time.

Happened to me recently at work and it worked wonders.

Don't give in to fear.

Because one does not have to be insecure to be cruel to people...some people like to feel superior, find joy in other peoples suffering, or find humor in putting others down..I don't know I've just never really thought insecurity always has to play into bullying, abuse or other cruel behavior.

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