[Fuzzybear]

It's so easy to judge someone when we don't understand them, and maybe when they trigger us in some way. I've done it myself and I'm not proud of it I think all of us here are doing the best we can. Let's not assume someone is trying to hurt us intentionally if we don't like their words (it's so easy to read meanings into text words that might not be there) or that they want to hurt us if they make a mistake. If we really can't get on with or tolerate someone there is of course the "ignore button" which isn't a perfect solution. I would like it if everyone looked for the good in everyone else, it's there (almost always). But maybe I'm "stupid" and "naive".

(If anyone doesn't like this opinion feel free to ignore it. Personally I hate conflict.... life, especially my life, is too short )

I've been blamed, abused, and scapegoated by "family" IRL which I guess is why I dislike being "judged" so much (who doesn't dislike being judged though)

I hope this isn't against the rules or inappropriate, my intention is not to cause any negativity or hurt. So please just remove it if it's not seen as helpful (and I won't try to use words much again )

This is not directed at any one individual, it's my opinion based on decades of "life experience"

[Rohag]

Communicating the feelings, emotions and thoughts arising from or associated with mental illnesses is difficult (understatement).

Communicating over the Net without the benefit of face-to-face body language and other non-verbals is problematic (understatement).

Combining the "difficult" with the "problematic" creates enormous potential for miscommunication.

Wise words, Fuzzybear.

[SillyKitty]

I, for one, am grateful for this post. I know I need a reminder sometimes, not just the Net, but emails and texts, too. I pushed the button, but I'd also like to say ,'thanks for this!'

[Dog on a Tree]

You're a bear, no one could ever be upset with you :P in fact i'm gonna get some berries to feed you.

I'm sorry to tell you Fuzzybear but some people are downright vicious. People who have hurt me are cruel and it wasn't just once either. They did it to me over and over and over again. Like hitting someone with a bat but they used words, cruel words, to do the dirty deed. They have no soul. Pure evil. They wouldn't even apologize or try to fix what they did to me. Just left me to suffer for years. They embarrassed and humiliated me in front of hundreds of people and you can bet I will always hold it against them.

[Dog on a Tree]

Originally Posted by Sizzling

I'm sorry to tell you Fuzzybear but some people are downright vicious. People who have hurt me are cruel and it wasn't just once either. They did it to me over and over and over again. Like hitting someone with a bat but they used words, cruel words, to do the dirty deed. They have no soul. Pure evil. They wouldn't even apologize or try to fix what they did to me. Just left me to suffer for years. They embarrassed and humiliated me in front of hundreds of people and you can bet I will always hold it against them.

I'm soo sorry you experienced this. That must of been soo horrible and painful. You have every right to hold it against them. I just hope though you can move on from those experiences, not let it shackle you.

In my opinion some people are hurtful towards others because they themselves have been hurt and they take it out on others. Some other times it can be because of peer pressure and not wanting to seem weak in front of friends, etc. The other thing I can think of is: Brain disfunction or some sort of mental health?
If a person isn't unfluenced by any of that, then I don't know what the cause would be.