should i?

Im not sure how to start this.. I guess i should tell you who i am.. Its me Tina.. your daughter you decied to abandon.. to not care anything about or want to see... i just found out the end of last year that you were my birth father... theres so many things i wish i could ask you.. It would of been nice to have u in my life . I just dont understand why u did not want anything to do with me or my sister... It hurts to think that you have other children that you have loved and cared about but i meant nothing to you,.. your flesh and blood.. to you i didnt exist... You and my mom didnt work out.. but that didnt mean you had to forget about me and abandon me.. Im so pissed at you.. Not sure ill ever be able to forgive you for not being around.. or even attempting to see me. My mom told me that she gave u opportunities to see me but u never did.. Ive turned out ok without you, but i still wonder what it would of been like to have u in my life.... Well i guess im gonna go maybe some day we will see each other and then i can ask you the questions that r lay heavy on my mind and in my heart.... ...... This is a letter i wrote to my dead father .. thers a site on ohio.com under obt. that you can write to a person who has died.. well im thinking about puttig that on there... its to him.. but i also want his loved ones that write things on ther to see it and see how much he has hurt me ..... what do u think? should i put it there?

I can understand wanting to get out anger to your father who's passed. However, I don't think its fair to punish his loved ones. I don't know the story about his loved ones, but did they hurt you too? For me, unless someone wronged me specifically, I wouldn't feel right to purposely make them see something that could hurt them. This isn't coming off right.....I hope I don't offend, do I make any sense?

it makles sense.. its not that i WANT to hurt them but i do want them to know that im out there and that its not right what he did... and who knows they might or might not know about me and who knows they might want to contact me..... if im making any sense

I can understand that.....would you want to have a relationship with them? If so, maybe you could contact them specifically? Let them know that you're hurting about your father, but do it in a way so that they would want to know you?

I could write the same letter to my dad who passed away in 2005. I think writing it here is probably the best place for it.

I truly feel your pane...hoping that with this being written a step to healing has begun.

Hi Skittles,
Think about it for a few days and if it still feels right then follow your heart.
(((((((((((Skittles)))))))))))))))