Is this normal?

tearsinabottle · Dec 10, 2015, 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by kreg

Well Tears, my friend, I don't know how old, experienced you are. Sounds like not much so I'll tell you about men in general. and many women. Like I said it's human nature to be sexually attracted to any female-and you said you were attracted to him didn't you? Possibly he picked up on that. Now because he touches many women he will build up a sexual desire over time and I don't care how much of a God fearing Bible toting man he claims to be. Human nature overrides all that. It's the ingrained procreation drive thing. Church folks won't agree I'm sure. Many men, and women if they think they can get away with it will go for it married or not. and with a woman or man married or not. I know this from many years of talking to other men and seeing it happen. Like I said his sexual tension has built up and now you show up. If there is any invitation at all he will have to fight to resist because of his accumulated build up of desire. Don't believe what you are saying about bad men good men and the same for women. And how about this-if you knew a man was not married and you found him attractive what is this nonsense about waiting for him to come to you with an invitation? What a load of crap. Don't be shy. Just go up and in a polite respectful manner say "I know you are not married and I find you to be an interesting person I would like to get to know better. Would you care to meet for lunch or coffee?" There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. and if he says yes then ask when? In a day or so and ask for his phone number and give yours. If he holds back take that as a sign he may be hiding something and don't cling to the situation. You seem like an interesting person and if you'd like to stay in touch that would be nice and we could exchange private messages here. I don't know where you are. I'm in midwest USA.

Hi kreg, yes I am a bit naive when it comes to men. I guess because of my childhood not having any role models. I dont know what is in this married mans mind. Even if he were to fight any desires, he then does fight them and I guess that would mean he tries to be the best person he can be, staying faithful to his wife and come to see that his thoughs, whatever they may be, is not good to have. He may not have any desires at all. I cant know that. I know we are human and we cant control our thoughts and many times we cant control our desires. We can be believers and have faith in God, but still fall short or fall into sin.

Not all men and women are unfaithful. That is important to get straight. But yes many are but still there are those who are not. If one are lucky to find real love.

I would like a man to ask me out, I feel most comfortable with that. Call me old fashioned if you like. I may be afraid to be rejected and hurt. I do flirt and if the man flirt back I would expect him to ask me out or something if he was really interested.

tearsinabottle · Dec 10, 2015, 08:33 AM

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Originally Posted by kreg

Hey Tears, I see you are in Norway. I have relatives there. I think they are further North. They were here this past summer for a couple weeks a young man and a woman-cousins of mine-tall people! It was really nice to see them. They stayed with my sister in southern Iowa and went down to Oklahoma to my nieces ranch-they got money! I guess they enjoyed baking in the hot sun! It's in southern USA. They spoke English well. I would love to see Norway but I would have a hard time with the language I think. My grandfather was Knute Brudevold and married my grandma Mary Jorgensen who was Danish. Then I'm English Irish German and Dutch.

Very cool you have relatives in Norway and that you got to meet them and had a nice time. I have some half cousins in USA, I dont remember quite which state it was. We came in touch as they were looking to fill up the hereditary tree.

tearsinabottle · 10:29 AM

The chiro did give a tiny little wink again but the slap on the tigh has stopped. He must have become aware of that slapping somehow and stopped it.

On the other hand he still is being friendly and make small talk and is a little teasing now and then. I giggle and lean in. Last time he did the same. I thought he was funny.

He asked me what I would do for christmas and I told him I will travel to east to see my sister. He made small talk with the little son to a woman, so I know now he makes small talk and are being friendly. Not sure how much he small talk with other women though.

But when I was about to leave walking towards the door he suddenly asked me where I actually come from and also asked me about my mother. I got tongue tied as she has passed. He saw that I got quiet and he then quickly said "your parents?". I told him I have my father and sister in east and said some more and he said back he likes this city too, but that he is from here ( so its not so strange for him ). I said only "yes" because I know he is from this city. I wanted ask him where in this city he grew up but couldnt make myself dare to ask.

I liked he asked me and now I wonder why he wondered.

I am still infatuated by him, but I know how to stay realistic. I know he is unavailable so I dont lose my mind.

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