Just wanted to say.....

Thank You to all who have sent pm's , emails , or thought of my Dad and I in any way shape or form. I truely appreciate anything you've done to encourage , support or just plain old care about us during this very hard transition from nursing home back to home.

Sunday went fairly well till bedtime. I was on my own getting him to bed. And he fell. It took so much out of me getting him into bed. He cant help much because his left arm/ shoulder is extremely painful. He cant support himself when transitioning from wheelchair to chair/ bed / toilet at all. So his body weight is on me.

Monday we had a busy day getting PT, Visiting nurses , and Meals on Wheels set up. Plus all the caregiving that happens. He fell trying to get in the chair on his own while I went home to get my husband his supper.

Tuesday he had an accident.So I had to strip the bed. He also fell again that evening in which it was on the kitchen floor and I couldnt get him up myself. So I had to call the EMS to help. He used his lifeline this time when this happened. I was relieved and really praised him for using it. He talked them out of taking him to the hospital to be checked out. I dont mean to sound mean or anything but I had hoped that he did need to go. I dont feel he should be at home. He can barely stand up his legs feel like rubber to him. And I think he was counting on me to do all the work. I cant , and I wont. I'll help when I can but we need to find help. Simple as that.

Today went well except for another accident in bed. I had to rewash the bedding. So now he is wearing protection and we got liners under and above the sheets. Hopefully this will help . And most importantly. .. we found a lady who had an add in the paper. She has great references too. HOpefully after her interview tomorrow.. we will have a start on help. WHEW!!!!! I need some peace again .And I miss you guys and my other online and IRL friends.

Sooooooooo I guess you'll be seeing the BRAT around again lol.



Love you guys!!! Thanks again!!!
Hugz
Bethy

beth I am so glad he is allowing a home worker to come in! whew! I know that is a load off your mind. good luck hon!

((((((((((((((((((bethy & dad))))))))))))))))))

There is definitely a spot in Heaven with your name on it hon. I know you are doing the absolute best you can. It's not easy realizing that you can't be everything. And it's ok too! I will keep my fingers crossed for that interview tomorrow.

You're in my prayers dear friend!

Hugsssss
J

Oh, Beth, I'm so glad that things are falling into place so well for you! The other night you sounded as if you were going to try to handle it on your own!

I'm glad your dad is accepting all the help that you're getting for him. You know, my mom fell alot at first right after she had her first big stroke. They just don't seem like they want to accept their limitations. It takes a little while, but things will settle down.

You will be rewarded for loving and caring for your dad like you are. I know I'm counting on it for taking care of my mom! LOL No! I didn't do it for that reason. I did it for her and for me. Don't you dare tease me about it, either, you hear?!

My prayers are with you sweet sunshine...It isn't easy trying to help your dad...Hope all goes well with the help you need so much!!!

I hope the interview goes well and you are able to hire help that is needed. It would be very difficult trying to run 2 households so I am glad you are looking for help. You deserve much praise Sweet....
Snowy

(((((((((((((( Beth & Dad )))))))))))))

Hon, there are just times when we have to tell our parents we can't do it all and we need help taking care of them.

Please take as good care of yourself as you are giving your father.

Hugs,

Jan